WHAT YOU CAN DO

 Create a pan, together with your family. First, fix in your mind what you mean by "respect." Second, write down specific behaviors that are expected from everyone in the family as well as behaviors that should be avoided. Third, discuss the plan as a family so that your children-and you-have a common foundation on which to build. 

"The plans of the diligent surely lead to success." - PROVERBS 21:5.

 Set the example.  Do you criticize your family members for their faults, mock them for their opinions, or ignore or interrupt them when they are talking to you? 

Tip: Try to view respect as something that you owe your spouse and children, not something they need to earn. 

"In showing honor to one another, take the lead." - ROMANS 12:10. 

Disagree without being disagreeable. When expressing yourself, avoid sweeping assertions, such as "you always" or you "never."  Such harsh criticisms attack the character of your family member and can turn a mild disagreement into major conflict. 

"A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger." - PROVERBS 15:1. 

Next time: WHAT WE ARE DOING

From the jw.org publications