Be Alert to the Importance of Commendation

Elders who Offer Proper Commendation

Cornelia, a Christian woman now serving in a European branch office of Jehovah's Witnesses, recalls that during the early 1970's the visiting traveling overseer asked her how she was doing with her personal study and magazine reading.  "I felt a little ashamed of myself,"  she says.  But she went on to admit that she did not manage to read every magazine article.  "Instead of finding fault with me for this,"  she remembers, "he commended me for reading as much as I did.  I felt so encouraged by his commendation that since then, I have  been determined to read every single article."

Ray, who serves at a branch office in Europe, remembers his first day of pioneer service.  The presiding overseer of the congregation, a man with business and family obligations as well as numerous responsibilities in the congregation, entered the Kingdom Hall that evening and went straight to Ray and asked,   "How was your first day of pioneer service?"  Now, almost 60  years later, Ray still remembers that elder's thoughtfulness.

As those two experiences show, a sincere,  loving expression of appreciation for what others have done- not just thoughtless  words or pointless flattery-can work wonders. In the Christian congregation, we have so many reasons to commend our fellow believers.  Just think of the desire to serve Jehovah, their well-prepared comments, their progress in overcoming stage fright in order to deliver talks or to participate in meeting parts, their zeal in their preaching and teaching, and their attempts to highlight Kingdom interests and spiritual goals.  When we give commendation to others, we are richly rewarded.  It makes us happy and puts us in a positive frame of mind. -Acts 20:35.



Congregation elders do well to commend the congregation for its good work.  And when counsel is necessary, they give it in a spirit of love.  On the other hand,they avoid becoming so concerned with doing everything  just right that anything short of perfection is regarded as serious weakness.

Christian elders who copy the example of respectful and loving courtesy shown by Elihu, the tactful approach used by Paul, and the loving concern shown by Jesus will be a source of genuine encouragement to their brothers.  Commendation will bring out their best in others and will make for joyful, harmonious relationships.  How Jesus at his baptism must have rejoiced to hear his heavenly Father commend him with the words:  "You are my Son, the beloved; I have approved you!"    (Mark 1:11)  May we cause the hearts of our brothers to rejoice by our sincere meaningful words of commendation.

Next time: Jehovah's Word Is Alive-Highlights From the Book of Daniel

Watchtower, 2007

Be Alert to the Importance of Commendation

Courteous and Respectful Counsel

Elihu, apparently a distant relative of Abraham, was instrumental in helping Job to get a balanced view of his relationship with God.  Elihu was courteous and respectful.  He patiently waited for his turn to speak.  And whereas Job's professed friends only found fault, Elihu, besides offering counsel, was quick to commend Job for his upright course.  He did so with warmth and with an obvious feeling of personal interest as a friend, using Job's name, unlike the others.  He politely requested:  "O Job, please hear my words, and to all my speaking do give ear."  Respectfully  putting himself in Job's place, he acknowledged:  "Look!  I am to the true God just what you are; from the clay I was shaped, I too."  And then in commendation, he said:  "If there are any words to say, make reply to me; speak, for I have taken delight in your righteousness." -Job 33:1, 6, 32.

Treating others courteously and respectfully is, in a sense, a way of commending them.   In effect, we are telling our listener, 'I consider you worthy of my attention and worthy of being treated well.'  Thus we convey a feeling of warmth and show our  personal interest in him.

Being polite and courteous means more than just following the rules of good manners is a formal way.  To reach the heart of others, our courtesy and politeness must be sincere and from the heart.  They must be an expression of genuine interest and love. 

Next time: Tactfully Giving Commendation

Watchtower, 2007

Be Alert to the Importance of Commendation

HAVE you ever heard anyone complain that his employer gives him too little commendation?  Have you possibly even complained about that yourself?  Or if you are a young person, have  you said the same thing about your parents or your teachers/

Some of these complaints are probably legitimate.  But according to one German motivational trainer, when employees make this complaint, what bothers them is not so much the lack of commendation as the lack of personal interest on the part of their boss.  At any rate, something is obviously missing.   Commendation and a feeling of personal interest are both vital if we are to enjoy satisfying relationships.

In the matter of worship, this is also true.  The Christian congregation needs to be marked by a spirit of commendation, warmth, and a feeling of personal interest.  Its members achieve and maintain such a fine condition by observing the Bible's guidelines.  Nevertheless, no matter how loving the congregation is, improvement is always possible.  With this in mind, let us consider three fine examples of offering commendation:  God's pre-Christian servant Elihu, the apostle Paul and Jesus Christ himself. 

Next time: Courteous and Respectful Counsel

Watchtower, 2007