When Problems Arise

For a building to stand the test of time, a good maintenance program is necessary. When husband and wife regularly support each other in their goals and when they show honor and respect for each other, their marriage is kept strong. Selfishness does not take root, and anger is kept under control.

Deep unresolved anger and frustration can kill love and affection in a marriage. The apostle Paul counseled men: " You husbands, keep on loving your wives and do not be bitterly angry with them." (Colossians 3:19) The same principle applies to wives. When spouses strive to be considerate, kind and understanding, they contribute to their happiness and contentment. Avoiding ill-tempered and confrontational behavior helps prevent conflict when difficulties arise. "Become kind to one another," urged Paul, "tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another." - Ephesians 4:32.

What if feelings of powerlessness, exasperation, or being underappreciated cause annoyance? In a calm manner, state clearly to your mate the reason for your concern. However, it may be best to let love cover over minor matters. - 1 Peter 4:8.

One husband, who has experienced serveral trials during his marriage of 35 years, says that no matter how angry you may feel toward your mate, you should "never stop talking." He wisely adds, " Don't ever stop loving."

Next time: You Can Build A Happy Marriage