Family Preparation For Field Service

Witnessing to others about Jehovah and his purpose is an important part of our lives. (Isaiah 43:10-12; Matthew 24:14) Whether young or old, we enjoy this activity more and we accomplish greater good if we are prepared. how can we do this within the family?

As with all matters that involve our worship, it is important to prepare our hearts. We need to discuss not only what we are going to do but also why we are going to do it. In the days of King Jehoshaphat, the people were given instruction in divine law, but the Bible tells us that they "had not yet prepared their heart." This left them vulnerable to enticements that could take them away from true worship. (2 Chronicles 20:33; 21:11) Our goal is not simply to be able to report hours spent in the field service, nor is it merely to place literature. our ministry should be an expression of our love for Jehovah and of our love for people who need the opportunity to choose life. (Hebrews 13:15) It is activity in which we are "God's fellow workers." (1Corinthians 3:9) What a privilege! As we share i the ministry, we do so in cooperation with the holy angels. (Revelation 14:6, 7) What better time could there be to build up appreciation for this than in family discussions, whether at our weekly study or when discussing an appropriate text from Examining the Scriptures Daily!

Do you occasionally use time at your family study to assist the members of your household to prepare for the week's field service? Doing so can be very beneficial. (2Timothy 2:15) It can help to make their service meaningful and productive. Occasionally, you might set aside an entire study session for each preparation. More often, you might deal with aspects of the field ministry in shorter discussions at the end of the family study or at some other time during the week.

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Preparation For Congregation Meetings

There are many matters that need attention during periods of family study. How can you fit them all in? It is impossible to do everything at the same time. But you may find it helpful to make a checklist. (Proverbs 21:5) From time to time, review it and consider what needs special attention. Take a keen interest in the progress of each family member. This arrangement for family study is an important part of Christian education, equipping us for life now and preparing us for the eternal life to come. - 1Timothy 4:8.

Does your family study include preparation for congregation meetings? There are a number of projects that you might progressively work on as you study together. Some of these may require weeks, months or even years to accomplish. Consider these goals: (1)each one in the family ready to comment at the congregation meetings; (2) each one working on giving comments in his own words; (3)including scriptures in comments; and (4)analyzing the material with a view to personal application. All of this can help an individual to make the truth his own.- Psalm 25:4, 5) /

Even if your family study is usually based on the Watchtower lesson for the week, do not overlook the importance of individual or family preparation for the Congregation Book Study, the Theocratic Ministry School, and the Service Meeting. These too are important parts of program for teaching us to walk in Jehovah's way. You may periodically be able to prepare for the meetings as a family group. by your working together, study skills will be improved. As a result, more good will be derived from the meetings themselves. Among other things, discuss the benefits of regular preparation for these meetings and the importance of having a definite time set aside for it.- Ephesians 5:15-17.

At the "God's Way Of Life" Conventions, we were encouraged to prepare for another feature of our meetings - the singing. Have you followed through on that? Doing so can help to etch Bible truths on our minds and hearts and at the same time enhance our enjoyment of congregation meetings.

Preparation that includes reading and discussing the meaning of the words in some of the scheduled songs can help us to sing from the heart. In ancient Israel, musical instruments were prominently used in worship. (1Chronicles 25:1;Psalm 28:7) Does someone in your family play a musical instrument? Why not use that instrument to practice one of the Kingdom songs for the week, and then sing the song as a family. Another possibility is to use a recording of the songs. In some lands our brothers sing beautifully without musical accompaniment. As they walk on the roads or go about their work in the fields, they often enjoy singing the songs that are scheduled for the congregation meetings that week.- Ephesians 5:19.

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Building Up The Heart

The family study should be a time not merely to fill heads with knowledge but also to build up hearts. This requires both an awareness of the problems that confront family members and a loving concern for each one. Jehovah is "an examiner of the heart."- 1 Chronicles 29:17.

What does Jehovah find when he examines the hearts of our children? Most of them would say that they love God, and that is commendable. Yet, one who is young or who is newly learning about Jehovah has limited experience in Jehovah's ways. Because he is inexperienced, he may be "in want of heart," as the Bible expresses it. Perhaps not all his motives are bad, but it takes time to bring one's heart into a condition that will really please God. This involves bringing one's thoughts, desires, affections,emotions and goals in life into harmony with what God approves, to the extent that this is possible for imperfect humans. When someone does such molding of the inner person in a godly way, he is acquiring heart."-Proverbs9:4; 19:8.

Can parents help their children to 'acquire heart'? True, no human can put a good condition of heart into another person. Each one of us is endowed with free will, and much depends on what we allow ourselves to think about. With discernment, however, parents can often draw their child our, learning what is in the heart and where help is needed. Use such questions as 'How do you feel about this?' And 'what would you really like to do?' Then, listen patiently. Do not overact. (Proverbs 20:5) An atmosphere of kindness, understanding and love is important if you want to reach the heart..

To fortify wholesome inclinations, frequently discuss the fruitage of the spirit - each aspect of it-and work together as a family to cultivate it. (Galatians 5:22, 23) Buld up love for Jehovah and for Jesus Christ, not merely by saying that we should love them but by discussing the reasons why we love them and how we can express that love. (2Corinthians 5:14, 15) Strengthen the desire to do what is right by reasoning on the benefits that will result. Build up the desire to shun wrong thoughts, speech and conduct by discussing the bad effects of such things. (Amos 5:15; 3John 11) Show how thoughts, speech and conduct -whether good or bad- can affect one's relationship with Jehovah.

When a child has a problem or needs to make an important decision, we could ask him: 'How do you think Jehovah views this What do you know about Jehovah that makes you say that? Have you prayed to him about it? Starting as early as possible, help your children to build a pattern of life in which an earnest effort is always made to ascertain God's will and then do it. As they come to have a close, personal relationship with Jehovah, they will find pleasure in walking in his paths. (Psalm 119:34, 35) This will build within them appreciation for the privilege of being associated with the congregation of the true God.

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Families, Praise God As Part Of His Congregation

Worship of Jehovah includes not only prayer and study of the Bible at home but also activity as part of the congregation of God. Ancient Israel was commanded to "congregate the people, the men and the women and the little ones," To learn the law of God so as to walk in his way. (Deuteronomy 31:12;Joshua 8:35) Both older ones and 'young men and virgins' were encouraged to share in the praising the name of Jehovah. (Psalm 148:12, 13) Similar arrangements apply within the Christian congregation. In Kingdom Halls throughout the earth, men, women and children participate freely in sessions that involve the audience, and many find great pleasure in having a share. - Hebrews 10:23-25.

True, helping young ones to get into a wholesome routine of congregation activity can be a challenge. If some children who attend with their parents apparently do not enjoy the meetings, what my be the problem? OF course, most children have a short attention span and are easily bored. Preparation can help to handle this problem. Without preparation, children cannot share in the meetings in a meaningful way. (Proverbs 15:23) Without preparation, it will be difficult for them to make spiritual advancement that brings satisfaction. (1Timothy 4:12, 15) What can be done? First, parents need to ask whether they themselves prepare for the meetings. their example is a powerful influence. (Luke 6:40) Careful planning of the family study can also be an important factor.

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Rewards From Perseverance

Planning is needed. Perseverance is required. But the benefits that come from regular family study are well worth it. (Proverbs 22:6; 3John 4) Franz and Hilda, in Germany, raised a family of 11 children. Years late, their daughter Magdalena said: "What I consider of most importance today is that there was not a single day that passed without our receiving some spiritual instruction." when the spirit of nationalism became intense under Adolf Hitler, Magdalena's father used the Bible to prepare his family for the tests that he realized were coming. In time, the younger family members were seized and taken to a reform school; others of the family were arrested and held in prisons and concentration camps. Some were executed. The faith of all of them held firm-not only during that time of fierce persecution, but also for the survivors during the years that followed.

Many single parents, as well as those whose mates do not share their faith, have likewise provided their children with regular Bible instruction. A single mother, a widow, in India worked hard to instill love for Jehovah in her two children. Her two children. Her heart was broken, however, when her son stopped associating with Jehovah's people. She begged Jehovah to forgive her for any shortcomings in her training of her son. But the son had not really forgotten what he had learned. After more than a decade, he returned, made fine spiritual progress, and became a congregation elder. Now he and his wife serve as a full-time pioneer ministers How grateful are those parents who have taken to heart the counsel from Jehovah and his organization to provide regular Bible instruction within the family circle! Are you applying that counsel in your household?

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Adapt To Your Family's Needs

It may be that your family usually studies the Watchtower Lesson for the week. But keep your finger on the pulse of the family. If the mother does not have secular work, she may be able to spend time with the children every day when they come home from school. Some situations can be handled then; others may need further attention. When there are pressing family needs, do not ignore them. (Proverbs 27:12) These may involve not only problems at school but also other situations. Select appropriate material, and notify the family in advance about what will be studied.

As an example, a large part of the earth is in the grip of poverty; so in may places, it may be necessary to discuss how to cope with it. Would a family study built around real-life situations and Bible principles be advantageous to your household? - Proverbs21:5; Ecclesiastes 9:11; Hebrews 13:5,6, 18.

Another subject requiring discussion is violence. All of us need to have Jehovah's view firmly impressed on our minds and hearts. (Genesis 6:13; Psalm 11:5) Family study of this subject can provide a forum for discussing how to deal with bullies at school, whether to train in martial arts, and how to select suitable entertainment.
Violent conflicts have become common; nearly every country is plagued either with civil war, with political or ethnic strife, or with gang wars. As a result, your family may need a discussion about maintaining Christian conduct while surrounded by warring factions. - Isaiah 2:2-4; John 17:16.

As children grow, they need instruction about sex and marriage, suitable to their age. In some cultures most parents never discuss sex with their children. Uninformed children may get twisted views from other youths, and the results can be disastrous. Would it not be better to imitate Jehovah, who gives straightforward but tasteful counsel on this matter in the Bible? Godly counsel will help our children to maintain self-respect and to treat those of the opposite sex with dignity. (Proverbs 5:18-20; Colossians 3:5; 1Thessalonians 4:3-8) Even if you have already discussed these matters, do not hesitate to do it again. As new situations arise, repetition is vital.

When can family study be done? In imitation of Bethel families around the earth, many households schedule their family study on Monday evening. For others it is different. In Argentina a family of 11, including 9 children, regularly got up at five o'clock every morning to have their family study. Because of varied work schedules, no other time was possible. It was not easy, but it impressed on the minds and hearts of the children the importance of family study. In the Philippines an elder had a regular family study with his wife and their three children as they were growing up. During the week the parents also had personal studies with each of the children so that each one would make the truth his own. In the United States, a sister whose husband is not a Witness walks with her children to the school bus each morning. While waiting for the bus, they spend about ten minutes together reading and discussing appropriate Scriptural study material, and then the mother offers a short prayer before the children board the bus. In the Democratic Republic of Congo, a woman whose unbelieving husband deserted the family has to work hard at study because of her limited education. Her grown son helps by visiting the family each week to take the lead in a study involving his mother and his younger brothers. The mother sets a fine example by her diligent preparation. Is there some situation that makes regular family study difficult in your household? Do not give up. Earnestly seek Jehovah's blessing on your efforts to have a regular Bible study.-Mark 11:23, 24.

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Use Teaching Tools Wisely

"The faithful and discreet slave" has provided an abundance of tools that can be used for study. The Watchtower magazine, for use with the Bible, is available in 131 languages. There are books for Bible study in 153 languages, brochures in 284, audio cassettes in 61, videocassettes in 41, even a computer program for Bible research in 9 languages!- Matthew 24:45-47.

Many households use the family study period to prepare for the congregation Watchtower study. How helpful that can be! The Watchtower contains the principal spiritual food that is provided to build up Jehovah's people worldwide. When you study the Watchtower as a family, do more than read paragraphs and answer printed questions. Earnestly seek understanding. Take time to look up scriptures that are cited but not quoted. Invite family members to comment on how these are related to what is stated in the paragraph under consideration. Get the heart involved.- Proverbs 4:7, 23; Acts 17:11.

If there are children in your household, what can you do to make your study not merely a family ritual but an up building, interesting and happy time? Endeavor to keep one involved in an appropriate way so that the attention strays focused on the study material. Where possible, arrange for each child to have his own Bible and study magazine. In imitation of the warmth displayed by Jesus, a parent may have a young child sit very close, perhaps putting an arm around the little one. (Compare Mark 10:13-16). A family head may have a youngster explain a picture that appears with the study material. A young child might be assigned to point out opportunities for practical application of the study material.

Though you may be using the Watchtower as a basis for your discussion, do not forget the other study tools that are available in many languages. If background information or explanation of a Bible expression is needed, Insight on the Scriptures may provide it. Other questions may be answered by consulting the Watchtower Publications Index or by using the computer research program provided by the Society. Learning to use these tools, if they are available in your language, can be a valuable part of family study. With a view to stimulating the interest of young ones, you may also set aside part of your study time to watch a portion of one of the Society's instructive videos or to listen to a section of a drama on audio cassette and then discuss it. God use of these study tools can help to make your family study interesting and beneficial to the entire family.

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Objectives To Keep In Mind

When you conduct the family study, it will accomplish the greatest good if you have in mind clearly defined objectives. Consider a few possibilities.

At each study, seek to build up love for Jehovah God. While Israel was assembled on the plains of Moab, before they entered the Promised Land, Moses focused their attention on what Jesus Christ would later identify as "the greatest commandment in the Law." What was it? You must love Jehovah your God with all your heart and all your soul and and all your vital force." (Matthew 22:36, 37; Deuteronomy 6:5) Moses urged the Israelites to impress this on their own hearts and to teach it to their children. That would require repetition, drawing attention to reasons for loving Jehovah, dealing with attitudes and conduct that could hinder the expression of such love, and demonstrating love for Jehovah in their own lives. Do our children need the same sort of instruction? Yes! And they too need help to 'circumcise their heart,' that is, to remove anything that would impede their love for God. (Deuteronomy 10:12, 16; Jeremiah 4:4) Among such impediments may be a desire for things of the world and for opportunities to get immersed in its activities. (1John 2:15, 16) Love for Jehovah must be active, expressive, moving us to do the things pleasing to our heavenly Father. (1John 5:3) For your family study to have long-term benfits, every session should be conducted in a manner that strengthens this love.

Impart accurated knowledge of God's Requirements. What does that involve? It involves more than being able to read an answer out of a magazine or a book. It usually requires discussion to make sure that key words and principal ideas are clearly understood. Accurate knowlege is a vital factor in putting on the new personality, in keeping in focus the really important things, when dealing with problems in life, and, thus,in doing what truly pleases God.- Philippians 1:9-11; Colossians 1:9, 10; 3:10.

Help to make practical application of what is learned. With this objective in view, during each family study, ask: 'How should this material affect our lives? Does it require any change from what we are doing at present? Why should we want to make adjustments? (Proverbs 2:10-15; 9:10;Isaiah 48:17, 18) Giving sufficient attention to the practical application of things learned can be an important factor in the spiritual growth of family members.

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Regularly Study God's Word As A Family

Jehovah God gave family heads frequent reminders of their responsibility to teach their children. Such instruction would equip the children for the present life and could also help to prepare them for the life to come. An angel representing God pointed out to Abraham his responsibility to teach his household so that they would "keep Jehovah's way." (Genesis 18:19) Israelite parents were told to explain to their children how God had delivered Israel from Egypt and how he had given them his Law at Mount Sinai, in Horeb. (Exodus 13:8, 9; Deuteronomy 4:9, 10; 11:18-21) Christian family heads are admonished to bring up their children "in the discipline and mental-regulating of Jehovah." (Ephesians 6:4) Even if only one parent serves Jehovah, that one should endeavor to teach the children Jehovah's ways.-2Timothy1:5: 3:14, 15.

This does not mean that family study of God's Word is only for households where there are children. When a husband and wife have a family study even if there are no children in the home, this shows fine appreciation for spiritual things.-Ephesians 5:25, 26.

To accomplish the most good, instruction needs to be given regularly, in harmony with the lesson that Jehovah taught Israel in the wilderness: " Not by bread alone does man live but by every expression of Jehovah's mouth does he man live." (Deuteronomy 8:3) Depending on the circumstances of the family, some households may arrange for a weekly study; others may have shorter study sessions on a daily basis. Whatever arrangement you choose, do not leave the study to chance. 'Buy out the time' for it. Paying the needed price for such time is a sound investment. The lives of the members of your family are at stake.- Ephesians 5:15-17; Philippians 3:16.

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Of course, if the Bible is going to affect our lives, we need to understand what it says. For many, this may require reading portions more than once. to get the full force of certain expressions, we may need to look up words in a dictionary or in Insight on the Scriptures. If the scripture contains counsel or a commandment, take time to talk about situations in our day that make it appropriate. Then you might ask, 'How can applying this counsel benefit us?' (Isaiah 48:17, 18) If the scripture is telling about some aspect of Jehovah's purpose, ask, 'How are our lives affected by this?' Perhaps you are reading an account that tells about the attitudes and actions of people. What pressures in life were they experiencing? How did they deal with these? How can we benefit from their example? Always allow time to discuss what the account means in our lives today. - Romans 15:4; 1Corinthians 10:11.

What a fine way to get God's thoughts impressed on our minds and hearts! Thus we will truly be helped to become "imitators of God, as beloved children." (Ephesians 5:1) And we will provide an example that is truly deserving of imitation by our children.

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Setting An Example In Daily Bible Reading

One of the most valuable customs that any family can establish-a custom that will benefit the parents and be an example for the children to imitate - is the regular reading of the Bible . If at all possible, do some Bible reading every day. It is not the quantity read that is most important. Far more significant is the regularity and the manner in which it is done. For children, Bible reading might be supplemented by listening to audio cassettes of My Book Of Bible Stories if they are available in your language. Reading from God's Word every day helps us to keep God's thoughts to the fore. And if such Bible reading is done not only by individuals but by families, this can help entire households to walk in Jehovah's ways. It is this practice that was encouraged at the recent "God's Way Of Life" Conventions in the drama Families - Make Daily Bible Reading Your Way Of Life! - Psalm 1:1-3.

Bible reading as a family is in harmony with what the apostle Paul write in his inspired letter to Christians in Ephesus, namely: " Fathers, do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and mental-regulating of Jehovah." (Ephesians 6:4) What does that mean? "Mental-regulating" literally means "putting mind in;" so Christian fathers are being urges to put the mind of Jehovah God in their Children - to help the children get to know God's thoughts. Encouraging the children to memorize key scriptures can help to achieve this. The objective is to have Jehovah's thoughts guide the thinking of the children so that their desires and conduct progressively come to reflect godly standards whether the parents are with the children or not. The Bible is the foundation for such thinking.-Deuteronomy 6:6, 7.

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What Our Example Can Teach

There are many valuable lessons that can be taught most effectively when oral instruction is coupled with a good example. Consider a few.

Expressing unselfish love: One of the most important lessons to be fortified by example is the meaning of love. "We love, because [God]first loved us." ( 1John4:19) He is the Source and supreme example of love. This principled love, a-ga'pe, is mentioned in the Bible more than 100 times. It is a quality that identifies true Christians. (John 13:35) Such love is to be shown toward God and Jesus Christ and also by humans toward one another - even toward humans for whom we may not feel a fondness. (Matthew 5:44, 45; 1John 5:3) This love must be in our hearts and evident in our lives before we can effectively teach it to our children. Actions speak louder than words. Within the family, children need to see and experience love and related qualities, such as affection. Without these things, the development of a child is stunted physically, mentally and emotionally. Children also need to see how love and affection are properly manifested toward fellow Christians outside the family.- Romans 12:10; 1Peter 3:8

Learning how to work: Work is a fundamental aspect of life. To have a feeling of self-worth, a person needs to learn how to do good work. (Ecclesiastes 2:24; 2Thessalonians 3:10) If a child is assigned tasks for which he has had very little instruction and then is scolded for not doing them well, it is unlikely that he will learn to do good work. But when children learn by actually working alongside their parents and are given suitable commendation, they are more likely to learn to do work that brings satisfaction. If the parents' example is coupled with explanation, the children may learn not only how to get a job done, but also how to overcome problems, how to stick to a job until it is done, and how to reason and make decisions. In this setting they can be helped to appreciate that Jehovah also works, that he does good work, and that Jesus imitates his Father. (Genesis 1:31; Proverbs 8:27-31; John 5:17) If a family does farming or operates a business, some of the family members may work together. Or perhaps the mother can teach her son or daughter to cook and clean up after a meal. A father whose employment is away from the house can plan to work on projects at home with his children. How beneficial it is when the parents have in mind not merely getting immediate jobs done, but equipping the children for life!

Maintaining faith in the face of adversity: Faith too is a vital aspect of our lives. When faith is discussed in a family study, the children my learn to define it. They may also become aware of evidence that causes faith to begin to grow in their hearts. But when they see their parents showing unshakable faith in the face of severe trials, the effect may last for a lifetime. A Bible studen in Panama was threatened by her husband with expulsion from their house if she did not stop serving Jehovah. Still, with her four children, she regularly walked 10 miles and then rode a bus for another 20 miles to get to the nearest Kingdom Hall. Encouraged by that example, some 20 members of her family have embraced the way of the truth.

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The examples that affect our children are not all within the home. There are the children with whom they attend school, teachers whose work is to mold the young minds, people who feel strongly that everyone should conform to deeply entrenched tribal or community customs, sports stars whose achievements are widely praised and public officials whose conduct is featured in the news. Millions of children have also been exposed to the brutality of war. Should it surprise us if these influences show up in the speech or attitude of our children? How do we react when they do? Does a sharp rebuke or a stern lecture solve the problem? Instead of giving a quick response to our children, would it not be better to ask ourselves, 'Is there something in Jehovah's way of dealing with us that might help in discerning how to handle this situation?' - Compare Romans 2:4.

Of course, imperfect parents are not always going to deal with situations in the best way. they will make mistakes. When children realize that, will it erode their respect for their parents? It may, especially if the parents try to gloss over their errors by harshly asserting their authority. But the outcome may be very different if the parents are humble and freely admit their mistakes. In this, they can set a valuable example for their children, who need to learn to do the same. - James 4:6.

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The Influence Exerted By Example

In addition to verbal instruction, example has a profound influence on young ones. Whether parents like it or not, their children are going to imitate them. It may please the parents - sometimes it may shock them - when they hear their children say things like they themselves have said. When both the conduct and the attitude of the parents can reflect deep appreciation for spiritual matters, this exercises a positive influence on the children.-Proverbs 20:7.

The effect of parental example is well illustrated in the Bible. Jephthah, who was used by Jehovah to lead Israel to victory over the Ammonites, was also a father. The record of his reply to the king of Ammon indicates that Jephthah must frequently have read the history of Jehovah's dealings with Israel. He could quote that history freely, and he showed strong faith in Jehovah. No doubt, his example helped his daughter to develop the faith and self-sacrificing spirit that she displayed in undertaking a lifetime of service as a single woman devoted to Jehovah. - Judges 11:14-27, 34-40; compare Joshua 1:8.

Samuel was exemplary as a child and faithful to God as a prophet throughout his life. Would you like your children to turn out as he did? Analyze the example set by Samuel's parents, Elkanah and Hannah. Though the situation in their household was not perfect, they regularly went up to Shiloh for worship, to the place where the sacred tabernacle was located. (1Samuel 1:3-8, 21) Take note of the depth of feeling with which Hannah prayed. (1Samuel 1:9-13) Observe how both of them felt about the importance of fulfilling any promise made to God. (1Samuel 1:22-28) Their fine example undoubtedly helped Samuel to develop the qualities that enabled him to pursue a right course - even when People around him was supposedly served Jehovah showed no respect for God's ways. In time, Jehovah entrusted Samuel with responsibility as His prophet. - 1 Samuel 2:11, 12; 3:1-21.

Would you like your son to become like Timothy, who as a young man became an associate of the apostle Paul? Timothy's father was not a believer, but his mother and his grandmother set a fine example of appreciation for spiritual things. This no doubt helped to lay a good foundation for Timothy's life as a Christian. We are told that his mother, Eunice, and his grandmother Lois had "faith". . . without any hypocrisy." Their lives as Christians were not playacting; they really lived in harmony with what they professed to believe, and they taught young Timothy to do the same. Timothy proved that he was dependable and that he genuinely cared about the welfare of other. - 2Timothy 1:5; Philippians 2:20-22.

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Parents,What Does Your Example Teach?

Jehovah is the originator of the family arrangement. Every family owes its existence to him because he established the first family and gave procreative powers to the first human couple. (Ephesians 3;14, 15) He provided Adam and Eve with basic instructions as to their responsibilities and also allowed them ample opportunity to use personal initiative in carrying these out. (Genesis 1:28-30; 2:15-22) After Adam and Eve sinned, the situations with which families had to cope became more complicated. Still, Jehovah lovingly provided guidelines that would help servants to deal with such situations.

As our Grand Instructor, Jehovah has done much more than provide written directions as to what we should do and what we should avoid. In ancient times he coupled written instruction with oral instruction through the priests and the prophets and through family heads. Who is he using to provide such oral teaching in our day? Christian elders and parents. IF you are a parent, are you doing your part to instruct your family in Jehovah's ways? - Proverbs 6:20-23.

How should such instruction be given within the family? Jehovah sets the pattern. He clearly states what is good and what is bad, and he makes generous use of repetition (Exodus 20:4, 5; Deuteronomy 4:23, 24; 5:8, 9; 6:14, 15; Joshua 24:19, 20) He employs thought-provoking questions. (Job 38:4, 8,31) By means of illustrations and real-life examples, he stirs our emotions and molds our hearts. (Genesis 15:5; Daniel 3:1-29) Parents, when you teach your children, do you try to imitate that pattern?

Jehovah is firm for what is right, but he understands the effects of imperfection. so before he punishes, he teaches and gives repeated warnings and reminders to imperfect humans. (Genesis 19:15, 16; Jeremiah 7:23-26) When he disciplines, he does it to the right extent, not excessively. (Psalm 103:10, 11; Isaiah 28:26-29)If that is the way we deal with our children, it gives evidence that we know Jehovah, and it will be easier for them to come to know him too.- Jeremiah 22:16; 1John 4:8.

Marvelously, Jehovah listens as a loving heavenly Father. He does not simply issue orders. He encourages us to pour out our hearts to him. (Psalm 62:8) And if the sentiments that we express are not exactly right, he does not thunder a rebuke from heaven. He patiently teaches us. How appropriat, therefore, is the counsel of Paul: "Become imitators of God, as beloved children"! (Ephesians 4:31-5:1)What a fine example Jehovah sets for parents as they seek to instruct their children! It is an example that reaches our hearts and makes us want to walk in his way of life.

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Continue with His Sacrifice

So Jehovah God stepped in to help. He transferred the perfect life of his only-begotten Son to the womb of a virging, who gave birth to Jesus. Decades ago,you might have rejected the idea of a virgin giving birth. Today, however, scientists have cloned mammals and introduced genes (which is wrong, only the Creator can produce animals correctly, as he made us. To clone animals and humans is wrong and those who do produce them will answer to Jehovah)from one animal to another. Who then, can rightly question the Creator's ability to bypass the ordinary process of procreation? (The animals cloned cannot possibly be right to use as anything other than just to look at. (I would not trust anything that these people trying to reproduce what God has done. It cannot possibly be normal. Anything reproduced other than God's way, is Satan's doing, because he is doing his best to get people away from God and if people believe in this catasrophe, then that is getting them away from God. So, if you have an ounce of common sense, you will not believe this garbage and believe it can be a normal animal).

With the existence of a perfect human life, the price to redeem mankind from sin and death became available. Yet, the baby born on earth as Jesus had to grow up to be the "physician" able to furnish the "medication" to cure mankind's ills. He did this by living a perfect, sinless life. Jesus not only saw the anguish of mankind under sin, but experienced the physical limitations of being a man. This made him an even more compassionate physician. (Hebrews 4:15) The miraculous healings that he performed during his life on earth proved that he has both the will and the power to cure the sick. - Matthew 4:23.

After a ministry of three and a half years here on earth, Jesus was killed by his opposers. He showed that a perfect man can be obedient to the Creator despite even teh greatest trials. (1Peter 2:22) His sacrificed perfect human life became the ransom price, able to redeem mankind from sin and death. Jesus Christ said: "No one has love greater than this, that someone should surrender his soul in behalf his friends." (John 15:13)On the third day after his death, ( this was not Easter, there is no mention of Easter in the Bible) Jesus was resurrected to spirit life, and some weeks later he ascended to heaven to present the ransom price to Jehovah God. (1Corinthians 15:3, 4; Hebrews 9:11-14)By doing so, Jesus was able to apply the merit of his ransom sacrifice to those who follow him.

Would you be willing to benefit from this way of healing, spiritual, emotional and physical sicknesses? To do so requires faith in Jesus Christ. Why not come to the Physician yourself? You can do that by learning about Jesus Christ and his role in saving faithful mankind. Jehovah's Witneses will be happy to help you. You can also read the Bible and ask God for help to have the wisdom and discernment to understand what God is saying through these words. That is what I am doing and prayer works, believe me, if you believe and have faith. If you are not sincere, God will know it.

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Note: I am not a Jehovah's Witness. You do not have to be to follow what is in the Bible. Just follow what I said above and have faith. It will come to you.

His Sacrifice
'Jesus came to earth?'You may ask. 'Where did he come from?' Jesus himself said: "I have come down from heaven to do, not my will, but the will of him that sent me." (John 6:36) He had a prehuman existence as the only-begotten Son of God. What then was the will of the One who sent him to earth? "God so loved the world so much that he gave his only-begotten son,"says John, one of the Gospel writers, "in order that everyone exercising faith in him might not be destroyed but have everlasting life." (John 3:16) How was this possible?

The Bible reveals how death became the unavoidable lot for mankind. The first human couple received from God life with the prospect of living forever. However, they chose to rebel against their Maker. (Genesis 3:1-19) As a result of this action, the first human sin, the offspring of Adam and Eve inherited the unwelcome legacy of death. (Romans 5:12) In order to give mankind real life, sin and death must be done away with.

No Scientist can get rid of death by some kind of genetic engineering. Yet, the Creator of mankind has the means to bring obedient humans to perfection so that they can live forever. In the Bible this provision is called the ransom. The first human couple sold themselves and their offspring into slavery to sin and death. They traded life as perfect humans obedient to God for life independent of God, making their own decisions as to what is right and wrong. To buy back perfect human life, a price had to be paid that was equivalent to th perfect human life that our first parents forfeited. Having inherited imperfection, humans were not qualified to provide that price.- Psalm 49:7.

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His Deeds

Not only did Jesus teach profound truths about how to show love, but he also practiced what he taught. For example, he put the interests of others ahead of his own. One day Jesus and his disciples were so busy helping people that they had not time to even eat a meal. Jesus saw the need fro his disciples to rest up a bit, and he took them to a lonely place. But when they got there, they found a crowd waiting for them. How would you have responded upon seeing a crowd who expected you to work when you felt that you needed a little break? Well, Jesus "was moved with pity for them" and started to teach them many things." (Mark 6:34) This concern for others always moved Jesus to assist them.

Jesus did more than teach them. He also extended practical help. For example, on one occasion he fed more than 5, 000 people who had been listening to him until late in the day. Soon after that, he fed another large crowd - this time more than 4,000 - who had been listening to him for three days and had nothing left to eat. On the first occasion, he used five loaves of bread and two fishes,, and on the latter, seven loaves and a few little fishes. (Matthew14:14-22; 15:32-38) Miracles? Yes, he was a miracle worker. Jesus also healed many ailing ones. He cured the blind, the lame, the lepers and the deaf. Why, he even raised the dead! (Luke 7:22; John 11:30-45) Once a leper entreated him: "If you just want to, you can make me clean." How did Jesus respond? "At that he was moved with pity, and he stretched out his hand and touched him, and said to him: 'I want to. Be made clean.' " (Mark 1:40, 41) Through such miracles, Jesus demonstrated his love for the afflicted.

Do you find it hard to believe in Jesus' miracles? Some do. Remember, though, that Jesus performed his miracles in public. Even his opposers, who tried to find fault with him on every occasion, could not deny that he was a miracle worker. (John 9:1-34) Further, his miracles had a purpose. They helped people to identify him as the One sent by God.- John 6:14.

In performing miracles Jesus was not seeking attention for himself. Rather, he glorified God, the Source of his power. In Capernaum he was once in a home filled with people. A paralyzed man wanted to be healed but could not get in. So his friends lowered him on a cot through the roof. Upon seeing their faith, Jesus healed the paralytic. As a result, the people "glorified God" and said: "We never saw the like of it." (Mark 2:1-4, 11, 12) Jesus' miracles brought praise to Jehovah, his God, and helped those in need.

Miraculous healing of the sick, however, was not the main thrust of Jesus' ministry. One who wrote an account of Jesus' life explained: "These have been written down that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ the Son of God, and that, because of believing, you may have life by means of his name." (John20:31) Yes, Jesus cam to earth so that believing humans might have life.

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His Teachings In one of the best-known sermons in history, Jesus Christ told his followers: " No one can slave for two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stick to the one and despise the other. You cannot slave for God and for riches." (Matthew 6:27) Is Jesus' teaching about putting God first in our lives still practical today, when so many people believe that money solves problems? True, we need money to get by. (Ecclesiastes 7:12) Yet, if we let "Riches" be our master, "the love of money" will control us, dominating our whole life. (1Timothy 6:9, 10) Many who have fallen into this trap have ended up losing their family, their health and even their lives.

On the other hand, looking to God as our Master gives meaning to life. As the Creator, he is the Source of life, and thus, he alone is worthy of our worship. (Psalm 36:9; Revelation 4:11) Those who learn about his qualities and come to love him are moved to observe his commandments. (Ecclesiastes 12:13; 1John 5:3) By doing so, we benefit ourselves. - Isaiah 48:17.

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus also taught his disciples how to show love for fellow humans. He said: "All things; therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must likewise do to them." (Matthew 7:12) The word "men" that Jesus used here includes even one's enemies. In the same sermon, he said: "Continue to love your enemies and to pray for those persecuting you." (Matthew 5:43, 44) Would not such love solve many of the problems that we face today? Hindu leader Mohandas Gandhi thought so. He is quoted as saying: " When [we] shall get together on the teachings laid down by Christ in this Sermon on the Mount, we shall have solved the problems. . . of the whole world." Jesus' teachings about love, if applied can solve many of mankind's ills.

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How Can Jesus Change Your Life?

Jesus Christ was a Great Teacher who live in Palestine almost 2,000 years ago. Very little is known about his childhood. It is well attested, however, that when he was about 30 years of age, he started his ministry to "bear witness to the truth." (John 18:37; Luke 3:21-23) The four disciples who wrote accounts of his life focus on the three and a half years that followed.

During his ministry, Jesus Christ gave his disciples a command that could be an antidote to many of the world's ills. What was that? Jesus said: " I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, that you also love one another; " (John 13:34) Yes, the solution to many of mankind's problems is love. When, on another occasion, Jesus was asked which commandment is the greatest,he answered: " ' You must love Jehovah your God with your whole heart and with your whole soul and with your whole mind.' This is the greatest and first commandment. The second, like it, is this, 'You must love your neighbor as yourself.' " - Matthew 22:37-40.

Jesus showed us by words and deeds how to love God and fellow humans. Let us consider a few examples and see what we can learn from him.

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Why Believe In Jesus Christ?

Even many people who are not Christians believe that he was the great and wise teacher. He was certainly one of the most influential people who ever lived." (The World Book Encyclopedia) Who is "HE"? Jesus Christ the founder of Christianity.

In spite of what the encyclopedia says, however, to hundreds of millions of people in the Orient and elsewhere, Jesus Christ is a stranger, just a name they may remember from high school textbooks. Even in the churches of Christendom, there are theologians and clergymen who say that we really do not know Jesus and cast doubt on the genuineness of the four extant accounts of his life (the Gospels)found in the Bible.

Could the Gospel writers have forged the life story of Jesus? Not at all! The well-known historian Will Durant, after analyzing those Gospel accounts, wrote: " That a few simple men should in one generation have invented so powerful and appealing a personality, so lofty and ethic and so inspiring a vision of human brotherhood, would be a miracle far more incredible than any recorded in the Gospels. After two centuries of Higher Criticism the outlines of the life, character and teaching of Christ, remain reasonably clear, and constitute the most fascinating feature in the history of Western man."

Still, there are those who would dismiss Jesus Christ as unworthy of their attention because of what his professed followers have done. "They dropped an atom bomb on Nagasaki,' some in Japan would say. 'And Nagasaki had more Christians than most cities in Japan.' But can you blame a physician for a patient's illness if the patient fails to follow the doctor's guidance? Most people claiming to be Christians have long ignored Jesus' prescription for overcoming mankind's ills. Yet, Jesus gave the remedy for our day-to-day problems as well as for the afflictions of mankind worldwide. That is why we invite you to read the following article and see for yourself what kind of man he was.

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Enjoying Equality Among Brothers

As regards education, health care, and economic and social standing, circumstances among Jehovah's Witnesses differ greatly. These differences merely mirror the imperfect worldly conditions in which they live. But in contrast with other religious groups, racial, social and economic prejudices have been virtually eradicated from their ranks.

They have accomplished this by doing their best in practicing what they have learned from the Bible. They wholeheartedly embrace such Bible principles as: "Not the way man sees is the way God sees, because mere man sees what appears to the eyes; but as for Jehovah, he sees what the heart is." (1Samuel 16:7) "God is not partial, but in every nation the man that fears him and works righteousness is acceptable to him." (Acts 10:34, 35) "Return evil for evil to no one. Provide fine things in the sight of all men. If possible, as far as it depends upon you, be peaceable with all men." - Romans 12:17, 18; see also 1Timothy 6:17-19; James 2:5, 9.

Closely adhering to these Bible principles that promote unity, Jehovah's Witnesses refuse to tolerate within their ranks any exercise of inequality based upon racial, social or economic differences. These factors play no part, for example, in deciding who is to be extended privileges of service in the Christian congregation. Positions of responsibility, such as teaching and oversight, are granted solely on the basis of spiritual qualifications. - 1Timothy 3:1-13; Titus 1:5-9.

For individuals who have suffered under the inequalities of a biased world, how refreshing it is to have others treat them as brothers and sisters with equal standing before their Creator! Martina can attest to this. After her father deserted the family, she was raised in a poor, one-parent home. She was often treated like a social outcast, had little self-confidence, and found it hard to get along with others. She developed a couldn't-care-less attitude. Things changes, however, after she began studying the Bible and became one of Jehovah's Witnesses. She says: "I must still fight negative thinking, but now I am better able to cope with the problem.

My self-respect has improved, and I speak with greater influence. The truth has given me a sense of responsibility. Now I know that Jehovah loves me and that life is worth living.

As an international group of Christians, Jehovah's Witnesses are realistic. They readily admit that being products of an imperfect environment, they can no more blot out human inequality than could any of the others who over the centuries have tried to do so - and failed. Never the less, they rejoice that within their own ranks, they have done much to curb this deadly scourge. And with strong faith in God's promise, they look forward to a new world of righteousness where inequality will forever be a thing of the past.

Yes, all obedient humans will soon b restored to the equality "in dignity and rights" that their Creator purposed for them to enjoy in the first place. what a beautiful thought! And this time it will be a reality!

Curbing The Scourge Of Inequality

History verifies his words. Many are the men and women who were given little at birth but who, by making use of what they had, achieved successes that set them apart from their possibility more gifted peers. Conversely, other individuals richly blessed with advantages from birh squandered what they had and failed to live up to their full potential.

Make The Most Of What You Have

Jehovah's Witnesses are keenly interested in helping people gain a knowledge of God's purposes through a study of the Bible. They realize, however, that to benefit fully from Bible information, people must be literate. For that reason, Jehovah's Witnesses have taught tens of thousands of people to read and write, including 23,000 persons (as of the mid-1990's) in one West African country alone. Referring to the outstanding social service that Jehovah's Witnesses provide, the San Francisco Examiner noted: "You might regard them as model citizens. They pay taxes diligently, tend the sick, battle the illiteracy.

In addition, by means of a progressive course in public speaking, Jehovah's Witnesses have trained hundreds of thousands of people to become qualified speakers, able to express themselves fluently in public. Among these thousands are some who once had serious speech problems. Take the man from South Africa who writes: "My stuttering was so bad that I had become an introvert, usually relying on others to speak for me. . . When I joined the Theocratic Ministry School and had to give a Bible reading before a small audience . . ., I stuttered so badly that I was unable to complete the assignment in the allotted time. After the meeting the [counselor]kindly gave me practical advice. He suggested that I practice reading aloud to myself. This I did, spending day after day, reading aloud from my Bible and the Watchtower magazine." this man progressed so well that he now gives public discourses to audiences numbering into the hundreds, even thousands.

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Will Things Ever Change?

The answer n a single word is yes! But who can bring about the desired changes? Human leaders, some no doubt in all sincerity, have struggled for centuries to do so. Their success has been limited, leading many people to conclude that it is unrealistic to expect the problem of human inequality ever to be solved. God's view, however, is recorded at Isaiah 55:10, 11: "Just as the pouring rain descends, and the snow, from the heavens and does not return to that place, unless it actually saturates the earth and makes it produce and sprout, and seed is actually give tot the sower and bread to the eater, so my word that goes forth from my mouth will prove to be. It will not return to me without results, but it will certainly do that in which I have delighted, and it will have certain success in that for which I have sent it."

How comforting to know that Jehovah God has gone on record that he will fulfill his original purpose to provide all humans with equal opportunities for life and happiness! As a God of truth, he has obligated himself to fulfill what he has promised. Happily, he has both the will and power to do so, How will he accomplish this?

The answer lies in the Kingdom for which Jesus Christ taught all his followers to pray: " Our Fathers in the Heavens, . . . Let your kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon the earth." ( Matthew 6:9, 10) Yes, God's Kingdom is the means that Jehovah will use to crush and put an end to all these kingdoms [now in existence], and it itself will stand to times indefinite." - Daniel 2:44.

Under the rule of the heavenly Kingdom, a new human society will emerge. In this regard, the apostle John wrote in the last book of the Bible, Revelation: "I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the former heaven had passed away." (Revelation 21:1) Gone will be all the ugly faces of inequality-poverty, sickness , ignorance, discrimination, and other human miseries.
For more than a century, Jehovah's Witnesses have been directing People's attention to that Kingdom. (Matthew 24:14)By means of the printed page and by personal assistance, they have exerted themselves in helping people to gain a knowledge of God's purpose as recorded in the Bible. Their worldwide educational work, however, not only has given people the hope of living in equality and happiness in the future but has also paid dividends right ow in curbing the scourge of inequality. Let us see how.

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The Root Of Equality

That God created humans to be equal does not mean that he intended for all of them to be equal in every respect. They could differ in talents, interests, and personality. They could also differ in station or in degree of authority. For example, man and woman are not equal in all respects, but God created the woman "as a complement" of the man. (Genesis 2:18) Parents and children obviously differ in authority. Despite these differences, however, all - men, women and children -were to enjoy as God-given right equal opportunities to satisfy the basic requirements for happiness. They were all to enjoy equal dignity and standing before God.

Similarly, God's spirit sons, created prior to humans, were given different assignments and responsibilities. (Genesis 3:24; 16:7-11; Isaiah 6:6; Jude 9) Nonetheless within the boundaries of what they had been given,m all were able to enjoy the divine provisions for life and happiness to an equal degree. They thus reflected God's impartiality in a marvelous way.

Sad to say, one spirit creature was not content with God's impartial arrangement. He wanted more than what God had given him, yearning for a higher, more elevated, position. By nurturing this wrong desire, he set himself up in rivalry to Jehovah, who as Creator rightfully holds a position of overall supremacy. This rebellious spirit son of God later induced humans to demand of God more than what he had given them. (Genesis 3:1-6; compare Isaiah 14:12-14) Thus, Jehovah's provision for humans to enjoy life and happiness appeared to have been thrown out of balance. This spirit rebel identified at Revelation 20:2 as "the Devil and Satan," became the evil instigator of human inequality.

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Inequality Did God Intend It?

God intended that all humans have equal opportunities to enjoy life and happiness. Of man's creation, we read: "God went on to say: 'Let us make man in our image, according to our likeness, and let them have in subjection the fish of the sea and the flying creatures of the heavens and the domestic animals and all the earth and every moving animal that is moving upon the earth.' " Upon completion of earthly creation, "God saw everything he had made and, look! it was very good." - Genesis 1:26, 31.

Can God pronounce today's sad state of inequality "very good"? Hardly, for "God is love." (1John 4:8) It is said of him that he "treats none with partiality" and that "perfect is his activity, faithfulness, with whom there is no injustice; righteous and upright is he." (Deuteronomy 10:17;32:4; compare Jo 34:19) And the apostle Paul concluded: " For a certainty I perceive that God is not partial, but in every nation the man that fears him and works righteousness is acceptable to him." - Acts 10:34, 35.

Since God is loving, impartial, just, upright and righteous, how could he have created humans with inherent inequality as regards their right to enjoy happiness? To allow discrimination among people and to place them in a system of inequality would be in direct contradiction to his personality. He intended that they all be "born free and equal in dignity and rights." Yet, today things are obviously not that way. Why not?

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Reflecting on his teenage years, this Witness adds: " Many of the young men in the congregation wanted to be involved in congregation activities, and their example incited others of us to desire the same." Wholesome peers helped this youth, like a sprout, grow into a fine, treelike Christian man. Parents, do you invite to your home those who can have a positive, up building influence on your children? - Malachi 3:16.

Of course, not all of us can share in the full-time ministry like the individuals just mentioned. But all of us can learn to love Jehovah 'with your whole hear, soul and mind.' (Matthew 22:37) Our choice of peers plays a major role in our developing that love and, thereby, in our prospects for everlasting life.

The psalmist gave a simple but effective formula for true success in life: "Happy is the man that has not walked in the counsel of the wicked ones, and in the way of sinners has not stood, and in the seat of ridiculers has not sat. But his delight is in the law of Jehovah, and in his law he reads in an undertone day and night. And he will certainly become like a tree planted by streams of water, that gives its own fruit in its season and the foliage of which does not wither, and everything he does will succeed." - Psalm 1:1-3.

What a wonderful guarantee! Even though we are imperfect and make mistakes, our life will be successful! IF we let Jehovah guide us and if we liberally tap into that God given reservoir of wholesome peer influence - "the entire association of [our] brothers in the world." - 1 Peter 5:9.

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Some Who Benefited

Most people find that learning the Bible's doctrines and it moral and spiritual requirements is not too difficult. What can be difficult, however, is putting these things into practice. As the following examples show, wholesome peer influence can help us serve Jehovah whole-souled.

One Witness who is in the full-time ministry with is wife said that the examples of his peers affected his goals in life. While he was growing up, he had to put up with unwholesome influences. But he chose as his friends those who encouraged him to be a regular in the ministry and in attending Christian meetings. Sticking with these associates helped him along the path to spiritual maturity.

Another Witness writes: " After my wife and I got married, we moved to a congregation where a couple about our age were regular pioneers. Their example contributed toward our getting into the full-time ministry. Then we too worked on building up the pioneer spirit in the congregation. As a result, many joined us as pioneers."

Association with those who have theocratic goals can make obedience to Jehovah easier. This is another beneficial effect of wholesome peer influence. A Witness who started in the full-time ministry as a young man and later became a traveling overseer now serves at one of the branch offices of the Watch Tower Society. He writes: " Some of my earliest and fondest childhood memories are of full-time servants visiting our home. There was always room for one more chair at our dining-room table. One circuit overseer gave me a witnessing bag when I was ten years old. I treasure that bag to this day."

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Avoid Negative Influence

If we want to avoid unwholesome peer pressure, we must resist the influence of 'those who walk in accord with the flesh.' (Romans 8:4, 5; 1John 2:15-17) Otherwise, hurtful peer pressure will steer us away from Jehovah and his wise counsel. Proverbs 13:20 says: " He that is walking in with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly." Can you think of someone who fared badly because of unwholesome peer pressure? Some Christians, for example, have been led into materialism, immorality, or drug and alcohol abuse because of the influence on their peers.

Even within the Christian congregation, we can come under the influence of unwholesome peer pressure if we choose spiritually weak individuals as our close associates. (1Corinthians 15:33; 2Thessalonians 3:14) Such ones often are not inclined to discuss spiritual matters; they may even ridicule those who enjoy such discussions. If we choose these ones as our close associates, peer pressure may force us into a similar mold, and soon we might find our thinking and attitude reflecting theirs. We may even begin to think negatively of those who are genuine in their faith and who are trying to make spiritual advancement. - 1Timothy 4:15.

How much wiser it is to cultivate friendships with those who strive to please Jehovah, who delight in spiritual matters! Such associates will help us reflect "the wisdom from above." It "is first of all chaste, then peaceable, reasonable, ready to obey, full of mercy and good fruits, . . . Not hypocritical." (James 3:17) This does not mean that spiritual-minded people are incapable of talking about anything but spiritual matters. On the contrary! Just think of the variety of interesting subjects that are considered in Watch Tower publications like the Awake! magazine. Wholesome topics for discussion are truly endless, and by taking an interest in a broad range of subjects, we reflect a love of life and of Jehovah's handiwork.

Just as a good tennis player improves his game by playing with other good players, the right associates elevate us mentally, emotionally and spiritually. On the other hand, the wrong associates can lead us into a course of hypocrisy by encouraging us to lead a double life. How much better it is to enjoy a clean conscience along with self-respect!

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Continue with Tapping Into Wholesome Peer Influence

By choosing the right peers, then, we can control the influence they exert on us. Additionally, the fine spiritual food and practical guidance dispensed at Christian meetings reinforce the personal encouragement we receive from our peers.

Of course, getting to Christian meetings is not always easy. Some may get little or no support from marriage mates, others may have children to get ready, and transportation may be a problem for still others. But think: If you do not allow these obstacles to stop you, then your example may inspire others who may be contending with similar circumstances. In other words, you and others like you provide not just a fine example but also a wholesome form of peer influence - and that without any hint of coercion.

In fact, the apostle Paul, who himself had to contend with many hardships and obstacles, encouraged Christians to imitate his fine example and that of other mature Christians. He said: " "Unitedly become imitators of me, brothers, and keep you eye on those who are walking in a way that accords with the example you have in us." (Philippians 3:17; 4:9) The early Christians in Thessalonica looked to Paul's fine example. Of them Paul wrote: " You became imitators of us and of the Lord, seeing that you accepted the word under much tribulation with joy of holy spirit, so that you came to be an example to all the believers in Macedonia and in Achaia." (1Thessalonians 1:6, 7) Our positive attitude and example can have a similar effect on those with whom we associate.

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