Practical Guidance For Parents

Several decades ago many parents -spurred on by "innovative ideas" on child training-though it was "forbidden to forbid." Setting limits for children, they feared, would cause trauma and frustration. Well-meaning counselors on child rearing were insisting that parents refrain from anything more than the mildest correction of their children. But many such experts are now reconsidering the role of discipline, and concerned parents are searching for some clarity on the subject.

All along, however, the Bible has offered clear, reasonable counsel on child rearing. Nearly 2,000 years ago, it said: "Fathers, do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the disciple and mental-regulating of Jehovah." (Ephesians 6:4) The Greek noun translated "discipline" means upbringing, training, instruction." The Bible says that such discipline, or instruction, is evidence of parental love. (Proverbs 13:24) Children thrive with clear-cut moral guidelines and a developed sense of right and wrong. Discipline tells them that their parents care about them and about the kind of person they are becoming.

But parental authority-"the rod of discipline" -should never be abusive. (Proverbs 22:15; 19:15) The Bible cautions parents: "Don't over-correct your children, or you will take all the heart out of them." (Colossians 3:21, Phillips) It also acknowledges that physical punishment is usually not the most effective teaching method. Proverbs 17:10 says: "A rebuke works deeper in one having understanding than striking a stupid one a hundred times." Besides, the Bible recommends preventive discipline. At Deuteronomy 11:19 parents are urged to take advantage of casual moments to instill moral values in their children. -See also Deuteronomy 6:6, 7..

The Bible's timeless advice to parents is clear. Children need consistent and loving discipline. Practical experience shows that such counsel really works.

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A Book For All People, 1997