Conclusion of Young People Ask: Why Won't My Parents Let Me Have Fun?

What though,if you're invited to go out with friends but you aren't sure how your parents will react? When you are face with a decision, the Bible encourages you to consider the options you have, good and bad, and to weigh the consequences. (Deuteronomy 32:29; Proverbs 7:6-23) With regard to the invitation you've received from your friends, what options do you have?

OPTION A: DON'T ASK-JUST GO.
Why You might consider this option: You want to impress your friends with how independent you are. You feel that you know better than your parents, or you have little respect fro their judgment. -Proverbs 15:5.

The consequences: Your friends will learn something about you-that you can be deceitful. if you'd deceive your parents, you might be willing to deceive your friends. If your parents find out, they'll feel hurt and betrayed and you'll likely be grounded! Disobeying your parents and going out anyhow is a foolish option. -Proverbs 12:15.

OPTION B: DON'T ASK - Don't GO.

Why you might consider this option: You think about the offer an decide that the activity doesn't measure up to your principles of that some of those invited would not be good company. (1 Corinthians 15; Philippians 4:8) On the other hand, you might want to go but don't have the courage to ask your parents.

The consequences: If you don't go because you know it's a bad idea, you'll be more confident when answering your friends. But if you don't go simply because you lack the courage to ask your parents, you might end up sitting at home brooding, feeling that you're the only one who's not having fun.

OPTION C: ASK - AND SEE.
You recognize
Why you might consider this option: your parents' authority over you and respect their judgment. (Colossians 3:20) You love your parents and don't want to hurt them by sneaking out behind their backs. (Proverbs 10:1) You also have a chance to present your case.

The consequences: Your parents feel that you love and respect them. And if they view your request as reasonable, they might say yes.

Next time: Why Parents Might Say No

Awake! 2011