HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE -How to Let Go of Resentment - Conclusion

 Decide what is truly important. The Bible says that there is "a time to be silent and a time to speak." (ECCLESIASTES 3:7) Not every offense needs to be discussed; sometimes you can simply "have your say in your heart, upon your bed, and keep silent." (Psalm4:4) When you do need to discuss a grievance, wait until your irritation has passed. "When I feel hurt," says a wife named Beatriz, "I try to calm down first. Sometimes I later realized that the wrong was not that serious anyway, and then I'm more inclined to speak respectfully." - Bible principle: Proverbs 19:11. 

Understand the meaning of "forgive." In the Bible, the word "forgive" is sometimes translated from an original-language word that suggests the idea of letting go of something. Therefore, to forgive does not require that you minimize the offense or act as if it never occurred; it could mean that you simply let it go, realizing that resentment can do more damage to your health and your marriage than the offense itself.

TRY THIS

For the next week, notice three positive traits in your spouse. Write them down at the end of the week and tell your spouse why you appreciate those traits. Focusing on the positive will help you to fight off resentment. 

Next time: Keys to Happiness -Treating Your Mate With Respect

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