HELP FOR THE FAMILY/PARENTIING - How to Communicate With Your Teenager - Conclusion

 

Stay calm.  "When we disagree, my mom takes offense at everything I say." says a teen named Kari.  "That just makes me upset, and the conversation snowballs into an argument."  Rather than overact, say something that "mirrors" your teen's feelings.  For example, instead of saying, "That's nothing to worry about!" say, "I can see how much that bothers you." - Bible principle: PROVERBS 10:19. 

To the extent possible, guide, don't dictate.  Your teen's abstract thinking skills are like muscles that need to be developed.  So when he faces a dilemma, do not do his "exercising"  for him.  As you discuss the matter, give him a chance to come up with some solutions of his own. Then, after you have brainstormed a few options, you could say:  "Those are a few possiblities.  Think them over for a day or two, and then we can get together againt to talk about which solution you prefer and  why." -Bible principle: HEBREWS 5:14. 

FOR TEENAGERS

Do you want your parents to extend you moree freedom?  Do you wish that they really  understood you?  You can make it easier for them to do both. How? When you hold backk, they cannot fully trust you-and trust is the key to your getting more freedom.

The point is, do not leave all communication up to your parents.  Do your part.  Tell your parents about your day. Ask them about theirs . If you have a complaint, learn how to express it respectfully.  Communication is a skill that you will need in adulthood.  Why not acquire it now? 

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