How to Be Resilient - Conclusion of HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE

 When your child receives constructinve criticism.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Liste to counsel . . . in order to become wise in your future." - PROVERBS 19:20.

Constructive criticism is not bullying;  it is guidance that addresses an action or an attitude that  needs to change.

When you teach your children to accept correction, bot of you are spared much grief.  "If children are always rescued from their errors," says a father named John, "they will never learn.  They will jump from one problem to the next, and you will spend your life following them, stomping out the fires that they cause.  That makes life miserable for the parents and the child. 

How can you  help your child benefit from constructive criticism? When your child receives it- whether at school or anywhere else-resist the urge to say that the correction is unfair instead, You could ask:

* Why do you think the correction was given?"

*  "How can you improve?" 

* "What will you do the next time you in this situation?"

Remember, constructive criticism will serve your child well, not only now but also in adulthood.

TRAIN NOW

A child who is able to bounce back from disappointments and mistakes is more likely to persevere when learning skills and to become proficient at them.

TEACH BY EXAMPLE

* Do I admit my mistakes, or do I blame others?

* Do I talk about my failures and what I learned from them?

* Do I ridicule others for their mistakes?

WHAT WE DID

"We did not protect our children from every challenge, failure, or mistake.  When I was young, enduring those things made me a better person. I feel that both of our children grew up to be balanced, well-adjusted adults because they were not pampered."- JEFF.

"When my wife and I made mistakes with our children, we would always apologize. I believe that parents should share their mistakes, setbacks, and errors with their children to emphasize that it's just part of life. - JAMES.

Next time: How to Be Responsible - WHAT DOES RESPONSIBLE INVOLVE?

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