HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE -How to Show Respect

WHAT YOU CAN DO 

* Write down three things that you admire about your husband or wife. The admirable traits that you identify can be the foundation upon which to build respect.

* For one week, track your conduct (not that of your spouse) in the following areas.  

Your words.  One study of couples found that "spouses in happy, stable marriages made five positive remarks for  every one negative remark when they were discussing conflict. In contrast, couples headed for divorce offered less than one (0.8) positive remark for every every single negative remark." -Bible principle: Proverbs 12:18. 

Ask yourself: 'Do I speak respectfully to my mate? How often do I criticize compared with how often I give a compliment?  What is the tone of my voice when i have an observation or a complaint?' Would your spouse agree with your answers? -Bible principle: Colossians 3:13.

Try this:   Set a goal to give your husband or wife at least one compliment per day.  Suggestion: Look back at the admirable traits you identified earlier. Get into the habit of telling your mate what admire about him or her. -Bible principle: 1 Corinthians 8:1. 

Your actions.   A wife names Alicia says:  "I spend a lot of time doing housework, and when my husband  respects my efforts by picking up after himself or washing his own dishes, I feel that my efforts are worthwhile and that I am important to our marriage." 
   
Ask yourself;  'Does the way I treat my spouse clearly convey my respect? Do I give my spouse adequate time and attention?' Would your spouse agree with your answers?

Try this:  Write down three way that you would like to be shown respect. Have your mate do the same. Then exchange lists so that each of you can work on showing respect in the areas that were specified. Focus on your own need to show respect.  when one takes the lead, the other is likely to follow. 

Next time: Punctuality

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HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE-How to Show Respect

THE CHALLENGE

The husband says: "When we got married, my wife and I had different views on what it meant to show respect. Not that one view was right and the other was wrong-they were just different. I often felt that my wife should have been more respectful in the way she spoke to me."

The wife says:  "Part of the culture in which I was raised included speaking loudly, using dramatic facial expressions, and interrupting when others were speaking.  We didn't view that as disrespectful.  But that's a completely different atmosphere from the one in which my husband was raised."

Respect in marriage is not a luxury; it is a necessity. How can you show that you respect your mate?

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW

Men have a particular need for respect.  The Bible tells husbands:  "Each one of you must love his wife as he does himself."  But then it adds: "The wife should have deep respect for her husband." (Ephesians 5:33)  While both wives and husband need to feel loved and respected, husbands thrive on respect.  "Men need to feel that they can handle  situations, solve problems, and take care of the family," says a husband named Carlos.  When a wife respects her husband for such capabilities, she benefits not only her husband but herself.  "My husband actually shows his love for me more  when I show that I respect him," says a wife named Corrine.

Of course, wives need respect too.   That makes sense because a husband cannot truly love a wife whom he does not respect.  "I need to respect my wife's opinions and suggestions," says Daniel.   "I also need to respect her emotions. My not understanding why she feels a certain way does not mean that I can dismiss how she feels." 

Respect is in the eye of the beholder.  The issue is, not whether you think you should respect, but whether you mate feels respected. This is a lesson learned by the wife quoted at the outset under the heading "The Challenge."  Even if I didn't think I was being disrespectful, If I made my husband feel that I was, then I was the one who needed to change.'

Next time: HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE - How to Show Respect

From the Awake! magazine 

Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

Create a "First-Aid Kit" for Your Emotions

If you suffer from depression, a practical suggestion to help you control your thoughts and feelings is to create what has been called an emotional first-aid kit.  The kit, which can be adjusted as you see fit, might include the items below.

* Contact information of people to call when you feel down

* Favorite songs that are positive and up-building

* Inspirational sayings and encouraging articles 

* A list of comforting and up-building sayings from the Bible, such as Psalm 34:18; 51:17; 94:19; Philippians 4:6, 7

* Mementos to remind you of people who love you

* A journal containing your positive thoughts as well as positive experiences you have enjoyed

Depression and Teenage Girls

The incidence of depression in teenage girls appears to be higher than that of boys. On factor may be the stress resulting from emotional, physical, or sexual harassment or abuse, which girls often have to cope with.  "When a scary external world and a chaotic internal world collide," wrote professional counselor Sharon Hersh," the result is often overwhelming and confusing."  Girls may also be unduly influenced by media portrayal of the "ideal body. A girl sees herself as physically undesirable or who is overly concerned about peer approval may be more vulnerable to depression. 

Next time:HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE - How to Show Respect

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Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

What Parents Can Do

* Recognize that depressed teens may find it hard to express their feelings or may not understand what is happening to them. They may not even  be aware of the symptoms of depression.

* Teens tend to express their depression in ways different from those of adults, so be alert to major changes in your child's behavior, eating habits, moods, sleep patterns, or social interactions-especially if the changes persist for weeks. 

* Take seriously any comments or hints regarding suicide.

* If you suspect depression (not just the blues), consider getting a professional diagnosis.

* Help your teen adhere to the doctor's prescribed treatments, and consult the doctor if you see no improvement or observe unpleasant side effects.

* Have a stable family routine for eating, exercising, and sleeping.  

* Maintain good communication with your teen, and help him or her to deal with any stigma associated with depression.

* Because depression can make one feel alone, ashamed, or worthless, regularly reassure your teen of your love.

Next time: Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?/Create a "First-Aid Kit" for Your Emotions

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Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

CARE FOR YOUR MIND AND BODY

Moderate to severe depression is usually managed with medication and counseling by a mental-health professional.  Jesus Christ said:  "Those who are strong do not need a physician, but those who are ill do."  (Mark 2:17)  And illness can affect any part of our body, including our brain!  Lifestyle changes may also be advisable because our mind and body are closely connected.

If you suffer from depression, take reasonable measures to care for your physical and mental health.  For instance, eat wholesome meals, get sufficient sleep, and exercise regularly. Exercise releases chemicals that lift your mood, increase your energy, and improve your sleep. If possible, try to recognize triggers and early warning signs of a depressive mooed and create suitable plan of action. Confide in someone you trust. A supportive network of close family members and friends may help you cope more effectively with your depression, possible reducing symptoms. Record your thoughts and feelings in a journal-a practice that helped Julia, quoted earlier. Above all, be sure to address your spiritual need. This can greatly improve your outlook on life. Jesus Christ said: "Happy are those  conscious of their spiritual need." -Matthew 5:3. 

Both Anna and Julia attest to Jesus' words. Anna says:  "Spiritual activities make me focus on other people, not just on my own problems. That isn't always  easy, but I am much happier as a result."  Julia finds comfort in prayer and Bible reading.  "Pouring out my heart to God in prayer calms me," she says.  "And the Bible helps me to see that I am valuable in God's eyes and that he really cares about me.  Bible reading also gives me a positive view of the future. "

As our Creator, Jehovah God fully understands our upbringing, experiences in life, and genetic makeup; influence our outlook and emotions. He is therefore able to supply needed support and comfort, perhaps doing so through compassionate and understanding fellow humans.  Moreover, the time will come when God will heal all of our illnesses, physical or mental.  "No resident will say 'I am sick,'"  says Isaiah 33:24. 

Yes, the Bible promises that God "will wipe out every tear from [our] eyes, and death will be no  more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore."  (Revelation 21:4) How comforting and reassuring  that is!   If you would like to learn more about God purpose for mankind and the earth, please visit us at jw.org. There you will find an excellent online Bible, as well as articles on a broad range of topics, including depression. 

Next time: Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?/ What Parents Can Do

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Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

POSSIBLE CAUSES OF TEEN DEPRESSION

According to WHO, "depression results from a complex interaction of social psychological and biological factors."  These may include the following. 

Physical factors.  As was true in Julia's case, depression often runs in families, suggesting that genetics can play a role, perhaps affecting chemical activity in the brain.  Other physical risk factors include cardiovascular disease and changing hormone levels, as well as ongoing substance abuse, which may intensity depression, if not give rise to it.

Stress.  While a little stress can be healthy, chronic or excessive stress can be physically and psychologically harmful, sometimes to the point of plunging a susceptible, or biological vulnerable, teen into depression. That said, the exact causes of depression remain unclear and may involve a combination of factors, as mentioned earlier.

Stress-related factors linked to depression may include parental divorce or separation, the death of a loved one, physical or sexual abuse, a serious accident, illness, or a learning disability-especially if a child feels rejected as a result. A  related factor may be unrealistically high parental  expectations, perhaps in regard to scholastic achievement. Other possible causes are bullying, uncertainty about the future, emotional estrangement by a depressed parent, and parental unpredictability, if depression results, what may help a teen to cope?

Next time: Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?/CARE FOR YOUR MIND AND BODY

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Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

"WHEN I have a bout of depression," says Anna, "I have no motivation to do anything, not even the things I usually love to do. All I want to do is sleep.  I often feel that I am unlovable, worthless, and a burden to others."

"I thought  about suicide,"recalls Julia.  "I didn't really want to die. I just wanted to stop feeling this way. I'm normally a caring person, but when I'm depressed, I care little about anyone or anything."

Anna and Julia were in their early teens when they first experienced depression.  While other young people might occasionally feel down, Anna and Julia had periods of depression that persisted for weeks or months at a time.  "It's like being stuck in a deep, dark hole with no way out," Anna says. "You feel like you are losing your mind, losing who you are." 

Anna and Julia's situation is not uncommon. The diagnosis of depression among the young appears to be increasing at an alarming rate, and depression is "the predominant cause of illness and disability for both boys and girls aged 10-19 years," says the World Health Organization (WHO).

The symptoms of depression can appear during the adolescence and may include changes in sleep patterns, appetite and weight. Feelings of despair, hopelessness, sadness, worthlessness may also appear. Other signs include social withdrawal, trouble concentrating or remembering, suicidal thoughts or actions, and medically unexplained symptoms. When mental-health professionals suspect depression, they usually look for groups of symptoms  that persist for weeks and that disrupt a person's everyday life.

Next time:  Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?/POSSIBLE CAUSES OF TEEN DEPRESSION

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Disease-How to Reduce the Risk

How to Reduce the Risk During an Epidemic

In 2014, the Ebola virus spread rapidly throughout West Africa, making headlines around the world.  The offices of Jehovah's Witnesses in the region launched an information campaign that helped may in the community to reduce the risk of infection.  Witness representatives explained how they handled the situation. 

*How did you help people to understand the danger they faced?

We sought to dispel fear and confusion by making special presentations at public places. In those presentations, we explained how the virus spreads and warned against unsafe practices.

* What practical steps did Jehovah's Witnesses take?

We used infrared thermometers to check the temperature of those arriving for meetings at our places of worship. Everyone carefully avoided unnecessary physical contact, such as shaking hands or hugging, and washed their hands frequently  throughout the day.  At strategic locations throughout the communities, hand-washing stations were set up with a bleach solution.

* How was it possible  to continue your regular public meetings and Bible-teaching work?

The government imposed quarantines in some areas, families met at home for their worship.  Some conducted Bible studies over the phone to minimize physical contact.  

* What happened if someone showed symptoms?

Authorities were notified. Any individuals who had been in contact with an Ebola victim, had attended a funeral of a victim, or showed symptoms kept themselves isolated for 21 days, the commonly accepted maximum period for the  Ebola virus. 

Next time: Teen Depression-Why? What Can Help?

From the Awake! magazine 

Disease-How to Reduce the Risk/Protect Yourself From Disease

3. INSECTS

THE THREAT: Some insects can infect you with the harmful microorganisms that live inside them.

YOUR DEFENSE:  Limit contact with disease-carrying insects by staying indoors when they are active or by wearing protective clothing, such as long sleeves and long trousers. Sleep under treated insect nets, and use  personal insect repellent.  Eliminate containers of stagnant water where mosquitoes could breed.

4. ANIMALS

THE THREAT:  Microbes that live harmlessly inside an animal can threaten your health. If you are bitten or scratched by a pet or another animal or exposed to its feces, you could be at risk.

YOUR DEFENSE: Some people choose to keep their animals outside the house to minimize contact with them. Wash you hands after touching a domestic animal, and avoid all contact with wild animals. If you are bitten or scratched, wash the wound thoroughly  and seek a doctor's advice. 

5. PEOPLE

THE THREAT: Some germs can invade your body by riding on tiny droplets in someone's cough or sneeze.  They can also spread through skin contact, such as hugging or shaking hands. Microorganisms from other people may lurk on such items as doorknobs, handrails, telephones, remote controls, or computer screens and keyboards. 

YOUR DEFENSE: Do not share personal items, such as razors, toothbrushes, or towels. Avoid contact with body fluids from animals or from other people, including blood and products derived from blood. And do not underestimate the benefits of washing your hands thoroughly and frequently. It is perhaps the most effective way you can stop the spread of infection.

If possible, stay home when you are sick.  The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that you cough or sneeze into a tissue or your sleeve, but into your hands.  Hint: Make sure you cover your whole mouth, because germs and viruses can escape otherwise. 

An ancient proverb states:  "The shrewd one sees the danger and conceals himself."  (Proverbs 22:3)  How true are those words today in a world plagued with potentially dangerous diseases!  so inform yourself by consulting local health services, and conceal yourself from danger by practicing good hygiene. Bolster your defenses and reduce the risk of disease!


Next time: Disease-How to Reduce the Risk/How to Reduce the Risk During an Epidemic

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Disease-How to Reduce the Risk

Protect Yourself From Disease

MANY ancient cities were protected by massive walls. If an enemy breached just a small section of a wall, the safety of the entire city was at risk. Your body is like a walled city. How you care for your defenses has much to do with how healthy you are.  Consider five elements that can expose you to disease and how you can put up the best possible defenses.

1. WATER

THE THREAT: Harmful organisms can "march" straight into your body by way of contaminated water.

YOUR DEFENSE: The best defense is to protect your water supply from contamination. If you know that your water supply is contaminated or suspect that it is, you can treat the water at home to make it safe.  Store potable water  in a closed  vessel, and dispense it hygienically with a clean ladle or through a tap;. Never put your hands in a clean  water supply. If possible, you should try to live  in a community that properly disposes of human waste so that it does not contaminate local water sources. 

2. FOOD

THE THREAT:  Harmful organisms can be present in or on your food.

YOUR DEFENSE: Contaminated food may look fresh and nutritious. So get into the habit of thoroughly washing all fruits and vegetables. Ensure that food utensils, kitchen surfaces, and your hands are clean when preparing  or serving food. Some foods require cooking at a certain temperature in order to destroy dangerous microbes.  Beware of food that is discolored or has an unpleasant odor or taste-signs that an army of microorganisms could be waiting for you. Refrigerate unused food as soon as possible. Avoid preparing food for others when you are sick. 

Next time: Disease-How to Reduce the Risk/Protect Yourself  From Disease -Insects

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Disease-How to Reduce the Risk

Every day your body wages war against enemies that are silent and unseen but potentially deadly. Foreign invaders, such as bacteria, viruses, and parasites, threaten your health. You are not likely to be aware of such battles because your immune system  repels or destroys most of the invaders before the onset of symptoms.  Sometimes, however, the harmful germs gain the upper hand. If so, you may need to bolster your defenses with medicine and other treatments. 

For thousands of years, people knew virtually nothing about the dangers of microscopic or other small harmful organisms.  However, when 19th-century scientists confirmed the link between germs and disease, we became better equipped to defend ourselves. Medical researchers have since eliminated or greatly reduced the threat of some infectious diseases, including smallpox and polio. Recently, however, others such as yellow fever and dengue, have  made a comeback. Why? Consider these  factors:

* Every year, millions of people travel around the globe, often transporting disease-causing agents. According to an article in the journal Clinical Infectious Diseases, "virtually all of the contagious virulent infections" can be spread by international travelers. 

* Some bacteria have developed resistance to antibiotics.  "The world is heading towards a post-antibiotic era, in which common infections . . . can once again kill," states the World Health Organization.  

* Civil unrest and poverty often hinder government efforts to control the spread of disease.  (hint: It was the government that brought over the HIV -Aids  disease, so that they could control us.  They are partly the ones to worry about. They are not beyond  doing things like that) 

* Many people lack knowledge of how to prevent disease.

Despite these disturbing trends, there is much you can do to protect yourself and your family. The following will show that, even if you live in a developing land, simple and effective strategies may be within your reach.    

Next time: Disease-How to Reduce the Risk/Protect Yourself From Disease

From the Awake! magazine 

What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

"That Is What Some of You Were"

Those who wanted to become Christians in the first century came from various backgrounds and lifestyles, and some of them made significant lifestyle changes.  For example, the Bible speaks of "those who are sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts," and then it adds:  "That is what some of you were." -1 Corinthians 6:9-11. 

In saying "that is what some of you were," does the Bible mean that those who stopped engaging in homosexual acts never again experienced any homosexual desires?  That could hardly be the case, because the Bible also exhorts:  "Keep walking by spirit and you carry out no fleshly desire." -Galatians 5:16.

Note that the Bible does not say that a Christian will never experience an improper desire. Rather, it says that he or she will choose not carry out that fleshly desire. Christian learn to bring such desires under control, not dwelling on them to the point of acting on them. -James 1:14, 15. 

The Bible thus makes a distinction between inclinations and practices.  (Romans 7:16-25)  A person who has homosexual leanings can control what he allows his mind to dwell on, just as he would control any other wrong desire, including leanings toward anger, adultery, and greed. -1 Corinthians 9:27; 2 Peter 2:14, 15. 

While Jehovah's Witnesses uphold the moral code set forth in the Bible, they do  not force their views on others.  Nor do they try  to reverse laws that protect the human rights of those whose lifestyle differs from theirs.  The message that Jehovah's Witnesses bear is a positive one, and they eagerly share it with all who will listen.-Acts 20:20. 

Next time: Disease-How to Reduce the Risk

From the Awake! magazine 

What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

Is the Bible's View Cruel? 

What about the people who have homosexual inclinations? Were they born that way?  if so, would it not be cruel to say that is wrong for them to act on their desires?

The Bible does not comment on the biology of homosexuality, although it acknowledges that some human traits are deeply ingrained. Still, the Bible says that certain conduct-including homosexual acts-must be shunned if we are to please God. - 2 Corinthians 10:4, 5. 

Some would say that the Bible's position is cruel. But their claim is based on the premise that we must act on our impulses or that sexual impulses in particular are so important that they should not-even cannot-be controlled. However, the Bible dignifies humans by stating that they can resist their urges. Unlike animals, they can choose not act on their impulses. -Colossians 3:5. 

Consider a comparison: Some experts say that certain behavioral traits, such as aggression, may have a biological cause.  The Bible does not specifically comment on the biology of aggression, but it does acknowledge that some people are "prone to anger" and "disposed to rage."  (Proverbs 22:24; 29:22) Yet, the Bible also says:  "Let go of anger and abandon rage." -Psalm 37:8; Ephesians 4:31. 

Few people would disagree with that advice or say that it is cruel to those who have aggressive tendencies.  In fact, even those experts who believe that anger is rooted in a person's genetic makeup work hard to help people to control such tendencies.  

Jehovah's Witnesses take a similar position toward any conduct that conflicts with Bible standards, including sexual acts between two people of the opposite sex who are not married to each other. In all such cases, the Bible counsel applies: "Each one of yous should know how to control his body in holiness and honor, not withe greedy uncontrolled sexual passion." -1 Thessalonians 4:4, 5. 

Next time: What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?/ "That Is What Some of You Were"

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What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

Does the Bible Promote Prejudice?

Still, some people would say that the Bible promotes prejudice against homosexuals and that those who adhere to its moral code are intolerant.  'The Bible was written at  time when people were narrow-minded,' they claim.  'Today we accept people of all races, nationalities, and sexual preferences.'  To them, rejecting homosexuality is the same as rejecting people of a different skin color.  Is that comparison valid? No. Why not? Because there is a difference between rejecting homosexual conduct and rejecting homosexual people.  The Bible tells Christians  to be respectful of all kinds of people.  (1 Peter 2:17) But that does not mean that Christians must accept all kinds of conduct.

Note: If the Witnesses do not let members of people who have cheated on the wives or husbands, which is wrong back into meetings until they repent and show that they are remorseful; what of homosexuals who go home and have sex with their same gender.  This is truly wrong, unless they have/had changed their sexual preference;  Now since it is natural for males and female married couples to have sex; but wrong to cheat on each other. Why would they put up with a conduct of homosexual conduct which is not natural.  Since God will allow them to inherit the Kingdom of God, if they keep their same sex conduct with each other, why would Witnesses allow them into their Kingdom Hall,  if they go by God's Code of not going along with homosexual conduct.  There is a problem here. Think about it!  They refuse to let members stay in if they have cheated, but they allow  homosexuals to go home and procreate with each other, which is entirely not a natural thing to do, and goes against God's code. Now, if they change their sexual preference  at the start of being a member, then, maybe  it would be better.  But, if they intend to keep up this conduct, what would be the point of going to meetings. It is defeating the purpose, don't you think?  I am just trying to make a point here and make people think and use common sense and logic and being analytical.  Not too many people do that anymore, if ever. I am not trying to offend anyone, just pointing out the obvious here. 

Consider a comparison; Suppose you view smoking as harmful and even repugnant. What if you have a workmate who is  a smoker? Would you be considered  narrow-minded just because your view of smiling differs from his? Would the fact that he smokes  and you do not smoke automatically mean that you are prejudiced against him?  If your workmate were to demand that you change your view of smoking, would that not make him narrow-minded and intolerant?  

Note: That is not a great comparison. Smoking is bad for your health and if you give it up  and get clean, then you have a chance to get close to God and a chance to inherit God's Kingdom. But if a homosexual continues his conduct and does  not change his sexual preference which is, in God's eyes is not natural and he disapproves strongly of this conduct and those who practice it, is not going to inherit God's Kingdom. People who smoke and go around people who don't, will force people to leave, because they don't want to inhale or smell it. It gets on your clothes and stinks.   

Jehovah's Witnesses choose to live by a moral code set forth in the Bible. They not approve of the actions that the Bible prohibits. But they neither mock nor mistreat people who practices differ from their own.   Well, if they let homo-sexuals in to meetings, they are going against that code and against Jehovah's laws.  Not a good thing.  I am still making a point here.   I am being truthful here.  

Next time: What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?/ Is the Bible's View Cruel? 

From the Awake! magazine   

What Does the Bible Say About Homossexuaity?

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?

Which of these statements are true?

1. The Bible condemns homosexual acts.

2. The Bible condones homosexual acts.

3. The Bible promotes homophobia (a hatred of or prejudice toward homosexuals).

Answers: 

1. TRUE. The Bible says:  "Men who practice homosexuality . . .Will  not inherit God's Kingdom."  (1 Corinthians 6:9, 10)  The same applies to women. -Romans 1:26.

2. FALSE. The Bible teaches that sex should be engaged in only by a male and a female who are married to each other. -Genesis 1:27, 28; Proverbs 5:18, 19. 

3. FALSE.  Although the Bible condemns homosexual acts, it does not encourage prejudice, hate crimes, or any other kind of mistreatment of homosexuals.  -Romans 12:18. 

What Do Jehovah's Witnesses Believe? 

Jehovah's Witnesses believe that the Bible's moral code in the best standard for living, And they choose to abide by that code.  (Isaiah 48:17) This means that Jehovah's Witnesses reject all sexual misconduct, including homosexuality.   (1 Corinthians 6:18) That is the Witnesses' lifestyle choice, and they have a right to it.


At the same time, Jehovah's Witnesses strive to "pursue peace with all people." (Hebrews 12:14)  While they reject homosexual acts, Jehovah's Witnesses do not force their view on others, nor do they participate in homophobic hate crimes or rejoice when they hear of them.  Jehovah's Witnesses strive to follow the Golden Rule by treating others the way they themselves would to be treated. -Matthew 7:12.

Next time:  What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?/ Does the Bible Promote Prejudice?

From the Awake! magazine 

What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

Gay marriage is still under debate in many countries.  In the United States, however, in 2015 the Supreme Court declared gay marriage to be legal nationwide.  Thereafter, Internet searches on the topic skyrocketed.  One of the most popular questions asked was, "What does the Bible say about gay marriage? 

The Bible does not specifically comment on legal rights involving marriage between people of the same sex. A more fundamental question is, What does the Bible say about homosexuality? 

Note: Read Romans 1:21-31. That will tell you that since people did not obey God's laws, statutes and rules. He left them to their undesired sexual practices, which he deeply disapproves of man having sexual desires for man and women having sexual desires for women. That alone should tell everyone that if Jehovah God does not want them to be together, which is why he made Adam and Eve for each other, and not Adam and Adam or Eve for Eve, that same sex people should not be married. These Witnesses, although trying to teach the truth are kind and thoughtful and concerned for others, not to mention  following God's Laws, are trying not to offend anyone.  If they are trying to teach the truth of the Bible, they should not be holding back on the truth. If people cannot face the truth, then they have been  sheltered way too much and their parents just been feeding them tales of fantasy.   In the Bible, Ecclesiastes 7:9:  It says: "Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended for the taking of offense is what rests in the bosom of the stupid ones. Also read, Ecclesiastes 7:21, 22. That is one example of what the Bible/God feels about homosexuality.

Without closely examining the Bible, many people think that they know the answer-but their answers are contradictory!  Some say that the Bible is clearly anti-gay. Others claim  that the Biblical command to "love your neighbor" supports any and all sexual lifestyles.  -Romans 13:9. 

Note: They would be very, very mistaken. Jehovah is talking about love for a friend, not sexual desires or love for the same sex-as in getting married and having sex with that same sex person, that is sick! That is not natural. That is why God paired Adam and Eve.  

Next time: What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?/WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?

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THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/Abortion

What if you had an abortion?

WHAT PEOPLE SAY

Ruth, a single mother said:  "I already had three young children and felt unable to care for four. Yet, after having an abortion, i felt I had done something terrible."  But had she done something that God could not forgive? 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS 

Jesus Christ reflected God's mind on matters when he said:  "I have come to call, not righteous people, but sinners to repentance."  (Luke 5:32) Yes, when we feel genuine remorse for a wring we have committed and we repent and ask God to forgive us, he willingly does so-even for serious sins.  (Isaiah 1:18)  "A heart broken and crushed, O God, you will not reject," says Psalm 51:17.


Along with a cleansed conscience, God gives the contrite one peace of mind when he or she humbly turns to him in prayer.  "By prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers," says `Philippians 4:6. 7.   After studying the Bible and pouring out her heart to God, Ruth gained that inner peace.  She learned that with God "there is true forgiveness." -Psalm 130:4. 


"[God] has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor has he repaid us what our errors deserve." -Psalm 103:10.

Next time: What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

From the Awake! magazine 

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/Abortion

Tens of millions of unborn babies are deliberately aborted each year-a number that exceeds the population of many countries.

A personal choice or a question of morality?

WHAT PEOPLE SAY

Women who  have an abortion do so for various reasons, including economic  hardship, relationship problems, the desire for freedom to pursue further education or a career, or not wanting to be a single mother. Others, however, view abortion as morally wrong-a violation o the trust that has been placed upon a pregnant woman. 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS

In God's eyes, life-especially human life-is sacred.   (Genesis 9:6; Psalm 36:9)  This principle applies to a baby growing in the womb, and at conception, a place designed by God to be a safe haven for a developing child.  '"You kept me screened off in my mother's womb," said a Bible writer.  He added:  "Your eyes even saw me as an embryo; all its parts were written in your book regarding the days when they were formed." -Psalm 139:13, 16.

God's view of the life of an unborn child is also reflected in his Law to the nation of Israel and in our God-given conscience. God's Law stated that a person who assaulted a pregnant woman and killed her unborn child was subject to the death penalty-the killer paying with his own life for the life he took.  (Exodus 21:22, 23)  Of course, the judges had to take into account motives and circumstances. -Numbers 35:22-24, 31.

Humans are also endowed with a conscience. When a woman heeds her conscience or inner voice, by respecting the life of her unborn child, her conscience rewards her.  If she violates her conscience, it may trouble her or even condemn her.  (Romans  2:14, 15) Indeed, studies indicate that women who have an abortion also have an increased risk of anxiety and depression.

What, though, if the prospect of rearing a child seems daunting, especially when the pregnancy is not planned?  Note God's reassuring promise to those who loyally live by his standards:  "With someone loyal you act in loyalty; with the blameless man [or woman] you deal blamelessly."  (Psalm 18:25) We also read:  "Jehovah loves justice, and he will not abandon his loyal ones." -Psalm 37:28. 

"Their conscience is bearing witness with them, and by their own thoughts they are being accused or excused." -Romans 2:15. 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/ABORTION -What if you had an abortion?

From the Awake! magazine

Brighter Days Invite a Better Night's Sleep

DO YOU have trouble sleeping?  The problem could be a lack of exposure to bright light during the day, especially if you are elderly. Researchers in Japan recently conducted a study of nursing home residents who suffered from insomnia, and they found that the poor quality of the subjects' sleep was related to their limited daily exposure to environmental light. At the same time, blood tests revealed that these elderly residents  had low levels of the hormone melatonin.


Melatonin is secreted by the pineal gland in the brain. Under normal circumstances, the daily rhythm of melatonin secretion causes concentrations in the blood to be "high during the nighttime and nearly undetectable during the daytime," says the report in The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism.  However, when the elderly are not exposed to enough light during the day, blood melatonin levels fall. It seems that as far as the body is concerned, this blurs the distinction between day and night, which the researchers  believe affects sleep quality.

When the elderly insomniacs were exposed to four hours of bright artificial light near the middle of the day (ten o'clock to noon and two o'clock to four) for four weeks, their melatonin secretion rose "to levels similar to those in the young control group, " says the report.  At the same time, their sleep quality improved.

These findings led the researchers to "assume  that elderly persons, especially EIs (elderly insomniacs), spending most of their daily life under room light, could cause insufficient light intensity to adjust their circadian timing system [their body's internal clock]."  Because some elderly people take  melatonin supplements as a sleeping aid, the report observes:  "Considering possible side effects of long-term melatonin administration, exposure to midday light may provide a more desirable, potent, safe, and self-directed therapeutic tool for  EI with diminished melatonin secretion." 

So if you are indoors most of the day and suffer from insomnia, why not try to spend a little more time outside-or at least let as much light as possible into your home during the day, and keep your bedroom dark at night. You may find that  brighter days invite  a better night's sleep. 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/ABORTION

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When Simple Is Not So Simple

Some Points to Ponder

The unusual abilities of Dunaliella are remarkable. Yet, these are only a small part of the astounding array of properties used by single-celled organisms to survive and thrive in varying and sometimes hostile environments. These properties enable Dunaliella to respond to growth  needs, take in food selectively exclude harmful substances, excrete wastes, evade or overcome diseases, escape predators, reproduce, and so forth.  Humans use about 100 trillion cells to accomplish these tasks! 

Is it reasonable to say that this single-celled alga is merely a simple, primitive life-form that by happenstance came about from a few amino acids in an organic soup?  Is it logical to ascribe these wonders of nature to pure chance?  How much more reasonable it is to credit the existence of living things to a masterful Designer who created lie and craftsmanship, far beyond  our ability to comprehend fully, are necessary to account for the vastly complex and interactive nature of living things.

A careful examination of the Bible, uncluttered by religious or scientific dogma reveals satisfying answers to questions concerning the origin of life. Millions of people, including many trained in the sciences, have had their lives enriched by such an examination. 

Next time: Brighter Days Invite a Better Night's Sleep

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When Simple Is Not So Simple

Conclusion of Unique Single-Celled Organisms

Living in shallow marshes in the desert, Dunaliella bardawil is exposed to intense sunlight.  This would damage the cell were it not for the protective screening provided by a pigment in the cell. When grown under favorable nutritional conditions, as when nitrogen is available, a Dunaliella culture is bright green, with the green pigment chlorophyll providing the protective screen. Under conditions of nitrogen deficiency and high salt concentration, temperature, and light intensity, the culture changes from green to orange or red.  Why? Under such harsh conditions, a complicated biochemical process takes place.  The chlorophyll content drops to a low level, and an alternative pigment, beta-carotene, is produced instead.  Were it not for its unique ability to produce this pigment, the cell would die.  The appearance of large amounts of beta-carotene-up to 10 percent of this alga's dry weight under these conditions-accounts for the change in color.

In the United States and Australia, to produce natural beta-carotene for the human nutrition market, Dunaliella has been grown commercially in large ponds.  For example, there are large production facilities in southern and western Australia.  Beta-carotene can also be produced  synthetically . However, only two companies have the very costly and complex biochemical plants capable of producing it at production scale. What has taken humans decades and huge investments in research, development, and production facilities, Dunaliella accomplishes very easily.  This simple alga does it with a miniature factory too small to see, in immediate response to the changing requirements of its environment. 

Another unique ability of the genus Dunaliella is found in a species called Dunaliella acidophilam which was first isolated in 1963 in naturally occurring acidic sulfur  springs and soils.  These environments were characterized by a high concentration of sulfuric acid.  In laboratory studies this species of Dunaliella can grow in a solution of sulfuric acid, which is about 100 times more acidic than lemon juice.  On the other hand, Dunaliella bardwil can survive in high alkaline environments. This demonstrates the extreme range of ecological adaptability of Dunaliella. 

Next time: When Simple Is Not So Simple/Some Points to Ponder

From the Awake! magazine  

When Simple Is Not So Simple

The theory of chemical evolution proposes that life on earth developed by spontaneous chemical reaction billions of years ago.

This theory is not that an accident directly transformed lifeless matter into birds, reptiles, or other complex lifeforms. Rather, the claim is that  a series of spontaneous chemical reactions eventually resulted in very simple lifeforms such as algae and other single-celled organisms. 

Based on what is now known about these single-celled organisms,m is it reasonable to assume that they are  so simple that they could have appeared spontaneously?  For example, how simple are single-celled algae?  Let's examine one type in particular, the unicellular green algae of the genus Dunaliella of the order Volvocales. 

Unique Single-Celled Organisms

The Dunaliella cells are ovoid, or egg-shaped, and very small-about ten microns long. Placed end to end, it would take about 2,500 of them to make one inch. Each cell has two whip-like flagella at one end, which allow it to swim. Similar to plants, Dunaliella cells use photosynthesis to provide energy.  The produce food from carbon dioxide, minerals, and other nutrients  absorbed into the cell, and they reproduce by cell division. 

Dunaliella can live even in a saturated salt solution. It is one of the very few organisms of any kind that can live and propagate in the Dead Sea, which has a salt concentration about eight times that of seawater.  This so-called simple organism can also survive sudden changes in the salt concentration of its environment.

 Consider, for instance, Dunaliella bardawill, found in shallow salt marshes in the Sinai desert.  The water in these marshes can be diluted quickly during a thunderstorm or can reach saturated salt concentration when the extreme desert heats the evaporated water. Thanks in part to its ability to produce and accumulate glycerol in just the right amount, this tiny alga can tolerate such extreme changes.  Dunaliella garawil is able to synthesize glycerol very rapidly, starting within minutes of a change in salt concentration, either producing or eliminating glycerol as needed in order to adapt. This is important  because in some habitats that salt concentration  can change considerably  within a matter of hours.  

Next time: When Simple Is Not So Simple/Conclusion of Unique Single-Celled Organisms

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

How Family and Friends Can Help

Sometimes it is hard to know just what to say or do when a family member or a friend suffers a miscarriage.  People react differently to such a loss, so there is not single formula for offering comfort and help. Consider, however, the following suggestions.

Practical things you can do to help:

* Offer to look after older children.

* Prepare a meal and bring it to the family.

* Be there for the father too.  As one father said, "they don't make cards for dads in this situation."

Helpful things to say: 

* "I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage."

* "Its OK to cry."
    Tears are often near the surface in the first weeks or even months after a miscarriage. Assure the person that you do not think any less of her for showing her emotions. 

"May I call you again next week to see how you're doing?"
Initially, sufferers may receive a lot of sympathy, but as time goes by and they are still in pain, they may feel that others have forgotten them.  It is nice for them to know that  your support is ongoing.  Feelings can surface for weeks or months.  They may even well up after a successful pregnancy.

* "I don't really know what to say." 
Saying that is often better than saying nothing.  Both your honesty and the fact that  you are there reflect your concern.

What not to say: 

* You can always have another baby." 
While this may be true, it may be perceived as reflecting a lack of empathy.  The parents did not want just any baby, they wanted that baby. Before they can think about having another one, they will likely need to grieve for the baby they lost.

* There was probably something wrong with it."
Although this may be so, it's not very comforting . In the mother's mind, she was carrying a healthy baby. 

* "At least you didn't really know the baby. It would have been much worse if it had occurred later."
Most women bond with their unborn babies very early on. So when such a baby dies, grief usually follows.  This grief is enhanced by the fact that no one else "knew" the baby as the mother did.

* "At least you have your other children."
To the grieving parents, this may be the equivalent of saying to someone who has lost a limb: "At least you have your other one."

Of course, it must acknowledged that even the most caring and sincere people occasionally say the wrong thing.  (James 3:2) Hence, discerning women who have suffered a miscarriage would want to show Christian love and not harbor ill feelings toward those who make well-meaning but clumsy remarks. - Colossians 3:13. 

Next time: When Simple Is Not So Simple

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

An End to Grief

As time went by, I knew that I was healing when I could laugh without feeling guilty and when I could have a conversation without it coming back to the baby I had lost. Even so, I bumped into emotional land mines on occasion, such as when I saw friends who had not heard about the miscarriage or when a family with a new baby visited our Kingdom Hall. 

Then one morning i woke up feeling that the clouds had at last lifted. Even before I opened my eyes, I had a sense of healing-a peace and calm that I had not felt for months.  Still, when I found myself pregnant about a year after I lost the baby, thoughts about the possibility of another miscarriage surfaced.  Happily, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy in October 2001. 

I still grieve for the baby I lost. Yet, the whole episode has increased my appreciation for life, for family, for fellow Christians, and for God-who comforts us.  The experience has also underscored the poignant truth that God does not take our children but that "time and unforeseen occurrence befall [us] all." -Ecclesiastes 9:11.

How I look forward to the time when God will eliminate all mourning, outcry, and pain, including the physical and emotional pain of miscarriage!  (Isaiah 65:17-23) Then all obedient humans will be able to say:  "Death, where is your victory? Death, where is your sting?" -1 Corinthians 15:55; Isaiah 25:8. -Contributed. 

Next time: I Lost My Unborn Baby/How Family and Friends Can Help

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

Comfort From God's Word

The Memorial of Christ's death came the week after my miscarriage. One evening as we were reading the Bible accounts about Jesus' last days, it suddenly occurred tome:  'Jehovah knows the pain of loss. He lost his own son!' Because Jehovah is our heavenly Father, I sometimes forget how understanding he is and how much empathy he has for his servants-male and female. In that instant I felt an overwhelming sense of relief. I felt closer to Jehovah than ever before. 

I also derived much encouragement from Bible-based publications, particularly past issues of the Watchtower and Awake!  magazines that dealt with the loss of a loved one.  For example, the articles on "Facing the Loss of a Child" in the August 8,1987, issue of Awake! were very helpful, as was the brochure When Someone You Love Dies. 

Next time: I Lost My Unborn Baby/An End to Grief

From the Watchtower magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

Love-The Best Cure

Along with the passing of time, an effective cure was the love shown by my husband and by fellow Christians.  One Witness made dinner and brought it over. A congregation elder and his wife brought flowers and a loving card, and they stayed for the evening.  We knew how busy they sere , so their thoughtfulness touched our hearts.  Many other friends sent cards or flowers.  The simple words "We're thinking of you" meant so much!  One member of the congregation wrote:  "We view life as Jehovah does-as something most precious. If he knows when a sparrow falls to the ground, he sure knows when a human fetus falls." My cousin wrote: "We are so amazed at the miracle of birth and life, and we  are equally surprised when it doesn't work out."

While at the Kingdom Hall a few weeks later, I felt weepy and had to leave just before the meeting began. Two dear friends who noticed my tearful exit sat with me in the car, held my hand, and made me laugh.  Soon all three of us went back inside.  What a joy to have friends that  stick "closer than a brother"! -Proverbs 18:24.

As the news spread, I was surprised to learn how many fellow Witnesses had been through the same experience. Even some whom I had not been so close to previously were able to offer special consolation and encouragement.  Their loving support  in my hour of need reminded me of the Biblical saying:  "A true companion is loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress." -Proverbs 17:17. 

Next time: I Lost My Unborn Baby/ Comfort From God's Word

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

How I Coped With the Loss

When I first returned home from the hospital, I felt emotionally numb and disoriented.  All around me were things that needed to be done, but I did not know where to start.   I called a couple of friends who had been through the same experience, and they were very comforting.  One dear friend sent us flowers and offered to take the children for the afternoon.  I appreciated her warm  concern and practical help so much! 

I sorted out family photos into albums. I looked at and held the unborn baby clothes-the only tangible reminders of the baby I had lost.  For weeks I was on an emotional roller coaster.  Some days I could not stop crying-even with all the support I had from the family and friends.  At times, I thought I was losing my mind. Being around  friends who were pregnant was particularly difficult. Previously I had imagined a miscarriage to be a mere "blip" in a woman's life, something we got over without too  many problems. How wrong I was! 

Frequency and Causes of Miscarriage

"Studies indicate that 15 to 20 percent of all diagnosed pregnancies end in miscarriage," says The World Book Encyclopedia.  "But the risk of miscarriage is highest during the first two weeks following conception (fertilization), a time which most women do not even know they are pregnant."  Another reference states that over 80 percent of miscarriages occur in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy," of which at least half are thought to be caused by defects in the chromosomes of the fetus.  These defects are not the result of similar defects in the chromosomes of the mother or father.

Other causes of miscarriage may stem from the mother's health. Medical authorities point to hormonal and immune system disorders, infections, and abnormalities in the cervix or the uterus of the mother. Chronic diseases such as diabetes (if poorly controlled) and high blood pressure may also be factors. 

According to experts, miscarriage is not necessarily caused by exercising, lifting heavy objects, or having  sexual relations. It is unlikely that a fall, a minor blow, or a sudden fright will cause miscarriage.  One reference says:  "The fetus is unlikely to be harmed by an injury unless the injury is serious enough to threaten your own life."  How well the design of the womb testifies to a wise and loving Creator. -Psalm  139:13, 14.  

Next time: I Lost My Unborn Baby/Love-The Best Cure

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby/What Do We Tell Our Children?

The children had gone to bed aware that something was wrong, but how would we tell them that their future little brother or sister had died?  We decided to be open and honest. My mother helped us to end that by telling the children that the baby would not be coming home with us .  When we arrived, they ran to meet us and gave us big hugs and kisses.  Their first question was,  "Is the baby OK?"  I couldn't answer, but my husband, holding us in a tight circle, said:  "The baby has died." We held one another and cried, which helped our healing to begin. 

We are not quite prepared, though, for our children's later reactions.  For instance, about two weeks after my miscarriage, it was announced at the local congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses that any elderly Witness and close friend of our family had passed away. David, the four-year-old, sobbed uncontrollably, so my husband carried him outside. After calming down, David asked why his friend had died. Then he asked why the baby had died. Next, he said to his father:  "Are you going to die?" He also wanted to know why Jehovah  God had not yet destroyed Satan and started to "fix things up."  Indeed, we were surprised to  see how much was going through his young mind. 

Kaitlyn also asked many questions. When playing with her dolls, she often pretended that one doll was sick, while the other dolls became nurses or family members. She set up a cardboard box  as a doll hospital and occasionally pretended that one of her dolls had died. Our children's questions and games gave us many opportunities  to teach them important lessons about life and how the Bible can help us to cope with trials.  We also reminded them of God's purpose to make the earth a beautiful paradise, free from all forms of suffering and pain.-even death. -Revelation 21:3, 4. 

Next time: I Lost My Unborn Baby/How I Coped With the Loss

From the Awake! magazine 

I Lost My Unborn Baby

MONDAY, April 10, 2000, was a warm and sunny day, so I set out to do some errands.  I was just entering the second trimester of  pregnancy, and although I did not feel very energetic, I was happy to be outdoors.  Then, while I waiting in the checkout line at a grocery store, I had a  feeling that something was wrong with me.

My fears were confirmed when I got home.  I was bleeding-something that had not happened during my two previous pregnancies-and it terrified me!  I called my doctor, but he suggested that I wait and come in the next day, since I had an appointment then anyway.  Before my husband and I put our two children to be that night, we prayed together, asking Jehovah to give us strength  in whatever way we might need it. Eventually, I fell asleep. 

But about two o' clock, I woke up in intense pain. Gradually the pain subsided, but just as I was falling asleep again, it recurred, this time coming in regular waves.  The bleeding also increased, and I realized that I was having contractions. My mind raced, trying to figure out if I had done something to cause this to happen, but I could not think of anything I had done wrong.  

By five o'clock in the morning I knew that I had to get to the hospital.  When my husband and I arrived, we were relieved to find ourselves in the hands of very kind, helpful, and empathetic emergency room staff. Then, two hours later, the doctor gave us the news we dreaded: I had lost my baby.

Because of the earlier symptoms, I was prepared for this outcome and took the news reasonably well. Additionally, my husband was at my side the whole time and proved to be very supportive.  But now that we would be going home without a baby, we wondered what we would tell our two children, Kaitlyn, who was six years old, and David who was four. 

Next time: I lost My Unborn Baby/What Do We Tell Our Children?

From the Awake magazine