The Need for Moral Values - WHAT ARE MORAL VALUES?

People with moral values have a clear sense of right and wrong.  Their moral code is not based on how they feel at the  moment.  Rather, it is founded on a firm set of principles that act as a guide for conduct-even when others are not watching.

WHY ARE MORAL VALUES IMPORTANT?

Children are bombarded with distorted messages about morals, whether from the people the go to school with, the music they listen to, or the movies and TV shows they watch.  Such influences can challenge their beliefs about what is right and what is wrong.

That is especially true during the teen years.  By that time says the book Beyond the Big Talk, they "need to understand the intense peer pressures to be popular and accepted, and they need to learn to make decisions consistent with their own values and choices, even if that means going against their friends."  Clearly, training needs to begin before adolescence.

Next time: The Need for Moral Values - HOW TO TEACH MORAL VALUES

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The Value of Adult Guidance - TRAIN NOW

 A child who looks to adults for guidance is more likely to display wisdom and maturity later in life

TEACH BY EXAMPLE

* Am I a good role model for my children?

* Do I show my children that I took look up to those with greater experience as mentors?

* Do I show I demonstrate that my children are important to me by spending time with them?

WHAT WE DID

"Sometimes when I am in the middle of something, my daughter will say she wants to talk. I always make sure that she is a priority, even if I have to tell her to wait a few minutes so that she can have my undivided attention.  My wife and I also strive to set a good example so that she will see that we live by the same principles we are teaching her." - David.

"When our daughter was born, my husband and I decided that I would not work but stay home to help raise her.  I do not regret that decision. It is very important to do as much as possible to be present in a child's life so that he or show will have proper guidance and direction.  More important, being there shows your child that you care." - Lisa.

SPENDING TIME WITH ADULTS

"My children have grown up around a diverse group of adults, and this has helped them to see life through other people's experiences. For example, they were amazed  when my grandmother told them that when she was a little girl, her family was the first one to get an electric light.  She told them that people from surrounding areas came to their house just stand in the kitchen and watch the light being turned on and off.  That story made my children see how different life used to be.  Learning about their great-grandmother in this way also helped them to have respect for her and for other older ones.  When children spend more time with adults-and less with their peers-they are able to see life from a different perspective." -Miranda.

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The Value of Adult Guidance - HOW TO PROVIDE GUIDANCE

Spend time with your children.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Train a child the way he should go, even when he grows old he will not depart from it." - PROVERBS 22:6.

Children naturally look to their parents for guidance.  In fact, experts say that even as children enter the teen years, they tend to value the advice of their parents over that of their peers.  "Parents remain the major influence on their child's  attitudes and behavior through adolescent and into young adulthood," writes Dr. Laurence Steinberg in  the book You and Your Adolescent.  He adds:  "Adolescents care what you think and listen to what you say, even if  they don't always admit it or agree with every point."

Take advantage of your children's natural inclination to look up to you.  Spend time with your children and share your viewpoints, values and experiences with them. 

Provide a mentor.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "The one walking with the wise will become wise." - PROVERBS 123:20.

Can you think of an adult who might be a good role model for your adolescent?  Why not arrange for that person to spend time with him or her?  Of course, you should not abdicate your parental authority.  But the encouragement from a trusted adult who you know will not harm your child can supplement the training you provide.  In the Bible, Timothy-even as an adult-benefited greatly from the association he had with the apostle Paul, and Paul benefited from Timothy's companionship;. - PHILIPPIANS 2:20, 22.

During the past century, many families have become somewhat fragmented, as grandparents, uncles, aunts and other relatives may live in another part of the world.   If that is true in your chase, try  to provide your teens with opportunities to learn from adults who have traits that you would like to see in your children.

Next time: The Value of Adult Guidance - TRAIN NOW 

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The Value of Adult Guidance - WHAT DOES ADULT GUIDANCE INVOLVE

Children need adults in their life who can provide leadership and advice.  As a parent, you are in the best position to fulfill that role:  in fact, it is your duty.  However, other adults can be mentors to your children as well.

WHY IS ADULT GUIDANCE IMPORTANT?

In many lands, young people have little interaction with adults. Consider this:

* Children spend much of their day at school, where students outnumber teachers and other adults.

* After school, some youths return to a home that is empty because both parents have to work.

* One study found that in the United States, children between 8 and 12 years of age spend an  average of about six hours on entertainment  media each day." 

The book Hold On to Your Kids says:  "Young people are turning to instruction, modeling, and guidance not to mothers, fathers, teachers, and other responsible adults but to . . . their own  peers." 

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How to Be Responsible - HOW TO TEACH RESPONSIBILITY

Assign chores.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "There is a benefit in every kind of hard work." -PROVERBS 14:23. 

Young children are eager to work alongside their parents. You can take advantage of this natural inclination by assigning your children chores around the home.

Some parents are reluctant to do that.  They reason that their school-age children face a mountain of homework each day, so why add to their burden? 

However, children who do chores are more likely to succeed at school, since chores teach them to accept assignments and complete tasks.  Besides, note the book Parenting Without Borders, "when  we ignore our children's  eagerness to participate when they are younger, they internalize the idea that contributing is unimportant . . . They also begin to expect that things will be done for them." 

As that quote indicates, doing chores trains children to be contributors rather than consumers, givers rather than takers.  Chores help children realize that they have a valued place in the family -and a responsibility toward it.

Help your children to take responsibility for their mistakes.

BIBLE PRINCIPLES: "Listen to counsel and accept discipline, in order to become wise in your future." - PROVERBS 19:20. 

When your children make mistakes-for example, if your son or daughter accidentally damages another person's property-resist the urge to cover up what happened. Children can accept the consequences in this case, apologizing and perhaps making restitution.

Owing up to mistakes and failures will teach your children 

* to be hones and admit their errors

*  to avoid blaming others 

* to avoid making excuses

* to apologize when appropriate

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How to Be Responsible - WHAT DOES BEING RESPONSIBLE INVOLVE?

People who are responsible are reliable.  They follow through their assigned tasks and complete them on time.

Even with their limited capabilities, very young children can start learning to be responsible.  "A child's capacity to cooperate begins by fifteen months, and his desire to start willingly pitching in starts at around eighteen months," says the book Parenting Without Borders.  "In many cultures parents begin to hone their children's helpfulness especially between the age of five and seven, and children this young competently assist in many domestic tasks." 

WHY IS BEING RESPONSIBLE IMPORTANT?

The term "boomerang generation" describes young adults who leave home and try to live on their own but fall on hard times and return to Mom and Dad.  In some cases, this happens because the youth has never been taught to manage money, run a household, or live up to daily responsibilities.

Therefore, it is best if you can train your children for the responsibilities of adulthood.  "You don't want to keep them dependent on you until they turn eighteen and then dump them out on to the real world," says the book How to Raise an Adult. 

Next time: How to Be Responsible - HOW TO TEACH RESPONSIBILITY

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How to Be Resilient - TRAIN NOW

A child who is able to bounce back from disappointments and mistakes is more likely to persevere when learning skills and to become proficient at them.

TEACH BY EXAMPLE

* Do I admit my mistakes, or do I blame others?

* Do I talk about my failures and what I learned from them?

* Do I ridicule others for their mistakes?

WHAT WE DID

"We did not protect our children from every challenge, failure or mistake.  When I was young, enduring those things made me a better person.  I feel that both of our children grew up to be balanced, well-adjusted adults because they were not pampered." - Jeff.

"When my wife and I made mistakes with our children, we would always apologize.  I believe that parents should share their own mistakes, setbacks, and errors with their children to emphasize that it's just part of life." -James.

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How to Be Resilient - Conclusion of HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE

When your child receives constructive criticism.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE: "Listen to counsel . . . in order to become wise in your future." - PROVERBS 19:20.

Constructive criticism  is not bullying, it is guidance that addresses an action or an attitude that needs to change. 

When you teach your child to accept correction, both of you are spared much grief.  "If children are always rescued from their errors," says a father named John,  "they will never learn.  They will jump from one problem to the next, and you will spend your life following them, stomping out the fires that they cause.  That makes life miserable for the parents and the child.

How can you help your child benefit from constructive criticism?  When your child receives it-whether at school or anywhere else-resist the urge to say that correction is unfair. Instead,you could ask:

* "Why do you think the correction was given?"

* "How can you improve?" 

* What will you do the next time you are in this situation?"

Remember, constructive criticism will serve your child, not only now but also in adulthood.

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How to Be Resilient - HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE

When your child fails.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "The righteous one may fall seven times, and he will get up again." - PROVERBS 24:16. 

Help your child put things in perspective.  For example, what would he do if he failed a test at school?  He might give up saying, "I can't do anything right!" 

To teach resilience, help your child work out a strategy that will help him to improve.  In this way, he will take charge or the problem rather than become a victim of it.

At the same time, avoid fixing the problem  for your child. Instead, help him create his own plan.  You might ask him, "What can you do to improve your understanding of the subject that is being taught?"

When adversity strikes.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE: "You do not know what your life will be like tomorrow." -JAMES 4:14. 

Life is unpredictable.  A person who is rich today might be poor tomorrow, a person who is healthy today might be sick tomorrow.  "The swift do not always win the battle," says the Bible, because time and unexpected events overtake them all." -ECCLESIASTES 9:"11.

 As a parent, you rightly take reasonable steps to protect your child from danger.  Realistically, though, it is not possible to shield your child from all life's adversities. 

Of course, your child may not be old enough to experience the loss of a job or a friendship or the death of a family member.

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How to Be Resilient - WHAT IS RESILIENCE?

A resilient person bounces back from obstacles and disappointments.  This skill is acquired through experience. Just as a child cannot learn how to walk without an occasional fall, he cannot learn how to succeed in life without experiencing occasional setbacks.

WHY IS RESILIENCE IMPORTANT?

Some children get discouraged when they meet with failure, adversity, or criticism.  Others give up entirely.  However, they need to understand the following facts: 

* Failure is inevitable in some endeavors. -JAMES 3:2.

* Adversity affects everyone at some point. - ECCLESIASTES 9:11.

* Correction is vital for learning. - PROVERBS 9:9.

Resilience will help your child face life's challenge with confidence.

Next time: How to B Resilient - HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE

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How to Be Humble -TRAIN NOW

A child who learns to perform humble tasks at home is more likely to work well with others as an adult.

TEACH BY EXAMPLE

* Do I let my children know that at times I also need help from others?

* Do I speak positively and appreciatively of others, or do I belittle them?

* Do my children see that I value serving others?

WHAT WE DID

"Our daughter told us about a classmate who, as she said was mean to others and is not liked.  I told her to think of what that girl must be going through at home. After all, not everybody has a good family life.  That helped our daughter to see that she is not  better than others. She may just have better circumstances." -Karen. 

"We encourage our daughters to enjoy what they learn in school and simply to do their best without comparing themselves to others. We want them to know that we will not compare them to others either." - Marianna. 

Note: Not everyone has a great family life; but to be honest, in my opinion, being mean, does not give you a pass  to be that way. We need to leave that at home when we are elsewhere.  You make too many enemies by being that way  and God does not approve of it.  And that includes when we are in pain. If we are in pain of some kind, and someone is helping  us in some way, that is not an excuse to be rude or mean, whether they help or not, there is not excuse!

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How to Be Humble - Conclusion of HOW TO TEACH HUMILITY

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Show yourselves thankful." - COLOSSIANS 3:15. 

* Gratitude for creation.  Child should appreciate nature and how much we depend on it for survival. We need air to breathe, water to drink, and food to eat. Use these example to instill appreciation, awe, and gratitude for the wonders of the natural world. 

* Gratitude for people. Remind your child that everyone is superior to him in one way or another and that instead of being jealous of other's skills and abilities, he can learn from them.

* Expressing gratitude.  Teach your children to say "thank you," not just withe words but with genuine appreciation.  A grateful spirit has been called a building block of humility.

Teach your children that there is value in serving others.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "With humility consider others superior to you, as you look out not only for your own interests, but also of the interest of others." - PHILIPPIANS 2:3, 4.

*Expect your child to do chores.  Exempting your child from family chores might give him the message, 'You are too important to do this!'  Family duties should come first, and playing second. Point out how chores benefit others and how others will appreciate and respect him for doing them. 

* Emphasize that serving others is a privilege.  Doing so is a primary way to develop maturity.  Therefore, encourage your child to identify those in need. Discuss with him what he can do to help them. Commend and support your child as he serves others.

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How to Be Humble - HOW TO TEACH HUMILITY

Encourage a balanced view of self.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he is deceiving himself." - GALATIANS 6:3.

* Avoid misleading maxims.  Sayings like "All your dreams can come true" and "you can be anything that you want to be" might sound inspiring, but they do not prove true in real life.  Your children will likely be more successful if they have reasonable goals and work hard to achieve them.

* Praise specific actions.  Simply telling a child that he or she is "awesome" does not encourage humility. Be specific.

* Limit your child's use of social media.  Often, social media is linked with self promotion-broadcasting a person's talents and accomplishments-the very opposite of humility.

* Encourage  your child to apologize quickly.  Help your child to see where he is wrong and to acknowledge it. 

Promote gratitude. 

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How to Be Humble - WHAT IS HUMILITY?

Humble people are respectful.  They do not behave arrogantly, nor do they expect others to treat them as special.  Rather,  a person with humility  takes genuine interest in others and is willing to learn from them.

Sometimes humility is  misjudged as a weakness.  In reality, it is a strength that helps people recognize their faults and acknowledge their limitations.

WHY IS HUMILITY IMPORTANT?

Humility benefits relationships.  "Overall, humble people are more connected to others," says  the book The Narcissism Epidemic.  It adds that such people find it "easier to relate to other people  and the wider world. 

Note: Another fact that is only half true. 

Humility benefits your child's future.  Learning to be humble will help your child both now and later in life- for example, when seeking employment.  "The young person with bloated self-esteem, unaware of her own deficiencies, is unlikely to do well in a job interview," writes Dr. Leonard Sax.  "But the young person who is genuinely interested in what the recruiter has to say is more likely to get the job." 

Note: Where do they get these ideas? Do they surveys with only specific people?  Books cannot tell you everything. You have to live with someone to know what they are really like? It takes years and years, and sometimes you never know.   

Next time: How to Be Humble - HOW TO TEACH HUMILITY

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Six Lessons Children Need to Learn - TRAIN NOW

Saying no to your child now will help him to say no to himself later in life-for example, if he is tempted to take drugs or to engage in other harmful practices.

TEACH  BY EXAMPLE

* Does my child see me work through frustrating situations without losing my temper?

* Have I explained to my child the reasons why I try to handle problems calmly?

* How would my child describe me-as impulsive and quick-tempered or as self-disciplined and controlled? 

WHAT WE DID

"Even though our daughter was allowed to become frustrated or angry, she wasn't allowed to let those feelings exasperate those around her.  If she couldn't control herself, then she would be removed from others' company until she could calm down." - Theresa.

"My wife and I made it our aim to let our children know when they made us proud.  We praised them when they didn't allow difficulty to get them out of sorts or when they kept their cool and showed self-control." - Wayne.

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Six Lessons Children Need to Lean - HOW TO TEACH SELF-CONTROL

Learn to say no and mean it.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Let your word 'Yes mean yes, your No mean no." - MATTHEW 5:37.

Young children  might test a parent's resolve by throwing a tantrum-perhaps even in public.  If the parent gives in, the child learns that tantrums are an effective way to get a no changed to a yes,

On the other hand, if the parents says no and means it, the child learns a basic way of life-that we cannot always get what we want.  "Ironically, people who learn that lesson seem to be the most fulfilled," writes Dr. David Walsh.  "We're not doing our kids any favors when we teach them that the world will always serve up whatever they want on a silver platter." 

Saying no to your child now will help him say no to himself later in life-for example, if he is tempted to take drugs, have premarital sex, or engage in other harmful practices.

Help your children to understand consequences, both good and bad. 

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap." - GENESIS 6:7.  

Your child needs to understand that actions have consequences and that a lack of self-control will therefore have undesirable results. For example,  if your son typically loses his temper when he gets upset, others may tend to avoid him.  On the other hand,  if he develops the ability to restrain himself when provoked-to or to wait patiently rather than interrupt-people will be drawn to him.  Help your child understand that he is more likely to have good outcomes when he practices self-restraint.

Teach your child to prioritize.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Make sure of more important things."  - PHILIPPIANS 1:10.

Self-control is not just a matter of holding back from doing wrong; it includes doing what is necessary, even when this is not particularly exciting or fun. It is important for your child to learn  how establish priorities and stick to them.  Have your child do the important things first.  For example, he should put homework before recreation. 

Be a good role model.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "I set the pattern for you, that just as I did to you, you should also do." - JOHN 13:15.

Your child will see how you respond to unpleasant or frustrating situations. Demonstrate by your example that self-control leads to better outcomes.  For example, when your child tests your patience, do you react with anger or do you remain calm? 

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Six Lessons Children Need to Learn - WHY IS SELF-CONTROL IS SO IMPORTANT?

Children who have great self-control can resist temptation, even if the temptation promises short-term rewards.  In contrast, children with less self-control may be more likely to

*be aggressive

* suffer depression

*smoke or abuse alcohol or drugs

* make poor choices in what they eat

One study found that children with greater self-control were likely, as adults to have health issues, financial stress, and problems withe law.  That study had Professor Angela Duckworth of the University of Pennsylvania to conclude:  "There may be no such thing as "too much self-control.

Note:  There is such a thing as everyone is different and not all children who brought up as they speak of here, have that self-control.  Some may have a certain amount depending on what it is.  No one should assume anything about anyone, because they don't live with everyone to know that much, only what they were taught in books. Life does not go by books. It goes by what you taught by your parents and relatives, if anything, and  life experiences.  You need to use common sense and logic and being analytical. Being responsible doesn't hurt.  Knowing the value of money helps as well.  And yes, Bible principles are indeed the most important in living your life. 

Next time: Six Lessons Children Need to Learn - HOW TO TEACH SELF-CONTROL

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Six Lessons Children Need to Learn

How would you like your child to be know as an adult?

* Controlled

* Humble

* Resilient

* Responsible

* Mature

* Honest

Children will not develop these traits on their own.  They need our guidance.  

This magazine will discuss six essential lessons that you can teach your children - lessons that will prepare them for adulthood.

The Benefit of Self-Control - WHAT IS SELF-CONTROL?

Self-control includes the ability to 

* delay gratification

* restrain impulses

* Complete unpleasant tasks

* put others before self

Next time: Six Lessons Children Need to Learn - WHY IS SELF-CONTROL IMPORTANT?

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John the Baptist - A Lesson in Maintaining Joy - FOCUS ON SPIRITUAL MATTERS

John may have known that his ministry would be limited, but he may not have realized how abruptly it would end.   (John 3:30)   In 30 C.E., some six months after baptizing Jesus, John was imprisoned by King Herod.  Still, John did what he could to to continue giving witness. (Mark 6:17-20)  What would help him remain joyful through these changes?  He kept focused on spiritual matters.

 While John was in prison, he received reports about Jesus' expanding ministry.  (Matthew 11:2; Luke 7:18)  John was convinced that Jesus was the Messiah but may have wondered how Jesus would fulfill all that the Scriptures said the Messiah would accomplish.  Since the Messiah was to receive kingship, might Jesus' ruling start soon? Would it lead to John's being freed from prison?  Eager  for a clearer understanding of Jesus' role, John dispatched two of his disciples  to ask Jesus a question:  "Are you the Coming One, or are we to expect  a different one>"  ( Luke 7:19)  When they returned, John must have listened intently as they described that Jesus had performed miraculous cures and then sent them back to tell John" "The blind are seeing, the lame are waling, the lepers are being cleansed, the deaf are hearing, the dead are being raised up, and the poor are being told the good news." - LUKE 7:20-22.

John was no doubt strengthened by their report.  It verified that Jesus was fulfilling the Messianic prophecies. Although Jesus' appearance would not lead to John's release from prison, John knew that his service had not been in vain. Despite his circumstances, he had reason to be happy.

Like John, if we focus on spiritual matter, we will be able to endure with joy and patience.  ( Colossians 1:9-11)  We can do this by reading the Bible and meditating on it, remind us that our work in God's service is never in vain. ( 1 Corinthians 15:58)  Sandra says:  "Reading a chapter of the Bible each day has helped me draw closer to Jehovah. It helps me focus on him and not on me."  We can also focus on reports of Kingdom activity, which can help us to look beyond our own circumstances and concentrate on what Jehovah is accomplishing.  "The monthly programs on JW Broadcasting help us feel closer to the organization," says Sandra," and they help us to maintain joy in our assignment.

John the Baptist carried out his brief career with "Elijah's spirit and power." And like Elijah, he "was a man with feeling like ours."  (Luke 1:17; James 56:1)  If we imitate his example of appreciation and spiritual focus, we too can remain joyful in our Kingdom service, come what may.

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John the Baptist - A Lesson in Maintaining Joy- REMAIN APPRECIATIVE

 A key to the Baptist's enduring joy was that he never lost his appreciations for the privileges he had.  Consider an example.  After Jesus' baptism, John's ministry began to decrease while Jesus' ministry began to increase.  Concerned, John's disciples approached him and said:  "See, this one is baptizing, and all are going to him."  ( John 3:26)  John replied:  "Whoever has the bride is the bridegroom. But the friend of the bridegroom, when he stands and hears him, has a great deal of Joy on account of the voice  of the bridegroom.  So my joy has been made complete." (John 3:29)  John did not compete with Jesus; nor did John think that the privilege he had received been diminished by Jesus' greater role. Instead, John remained joyful because he cherished his role as "a friend of the bridegroom." 

John's disposition helped him to remain content despite  all that his assignment required of him.  For instance, John was a Nazirite from birth, and therefore he was forbidden to drink wine.  (Luke 1:15)  "John came neither eating nor drinking," said Jesus,  referring to John's austere lifestyle.  On the other hand Jesus and his disciples were under no such restriction and lived a more normal life.  (Matthew 11:18, 19)  Also, while John did not perform any miracles, he knew that Jesus' disciples, including some who initially followed John, were granted that power.  (Matthew 10:1; John 10:41)   Rather than let such differences distract him, John zealously stuck to his own assignment from Jehovah.

If  we too treasure our current  assignment in Jehovah's service, we can safeguard our joy.  Terry, mentioned earlier, says, "I concentrated on each of the assignments I was given."  As he looks back on his life of full-time service, he says, "i have no regrets but only wonderful memories." 

 We can deepen our joy in God's service by meditating on what gives real value to any theocratic assignment, or responsibility. It is the privilege of being "God's fellow workers." (1 Corinthians 3:9)   Just as  polishing a treasured heirloom can preserve its luster, meditating on the profound honor of serving God can prevent wrong views from tarnishing our joy.  We will resist comparing our sacrifices with the sacrifices of other people.  We will not esteem our privileges less because of the privileges granted to others. - GALATIANS 6:4.

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John the Baptist - A Lesson in Maintaining Joy - A JOYFUL ASSIGNMENT

In the spring of 29 C. E., John began his assignment of the Messiah, saying: "Repent, for the Kingdom of the heavens has drawn near. " (Matthew 3:2; Luke 1:12-17)   Many responded.  In fact, crowds came far and wide to hear his message, and many were moved to repent and get baptized.  John also boldly wanted the self-righteous leaders of the Judgment that awaited them unless they changed.  (Matthew 3:5-12)  He saw his ministry  reach its climax in the fall of 29 C.E., when he baptized Jesus.  From then on, John directed others to follow Jesus, the promised Messiah. - JOHN 1:32-37.

In view of John's unique role,  Jesus could say:  "Among those born of women, there has not been raised up anyone greater than John the Baptist."  (Matthew 11:11)  John no doubt rejoiced over the blessing he received.  Like John, many today have experienced rich blessings.  Take a brother name Terry as an example.  He and his wife, Sandra, have spent over 50 years in full-time service.  Terry states: "I have had many wonderful privileges. I have served as a pioneer, a Bethelite, a special pioneer,  a circuit overseer, a district overseer, and now again as a special pioneer."  It is a joy to receive theocratic privileges, but as we learn from John's example, joyful requires effort when our circumstances change.

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John the Baptist - A Lesson in Maintaining Joy

DO YOU long for a congregation assignment that is currently  out of reach for you?  Perhaps it is a responsibility that is enjoyed by someone else. Or maybe it is a service assignment, or privilege, that you once took care of.  However, age,  poor health, economic hardship, or family responsibilities  now limit what you can do. Or it could be that you have gad ti give up a long-held responsibility because of organizational changes.  Regardless of the reason, you may feel that you are not doing all you would like to do in God's service.  In such situations, it is understandably that you may at times, feel disappointment. Even so, how can you keep negative emotions-such as  discouragement, bitterness, or resentment - from taking root?  How can you maintain your joy?

We can learn a lesson in maintaining joy by considering the example of John the Baptist.  John enjoyed outstanding privileges, yet he likely  expected his life in Jehovah's service to work out differently from what it did.  He may have imagined that he would spend more time in jail than he did his ministry.  Still, John continued to be joyful, and he maintained that attitude for the rest of his life.  What helped him?  And how can we retain our joy even when we face disappointments?

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Faith - A Strengthening Quality - "BUILD YOURSELVES UP ON YOUR MOST HOLY FAITH"

Once, a ma cried out to Jesus: "I have faith!  Help  me out where I need faith!"  Mark 9:24) He has a measure of faith, but this man modestly recognized that he needed more faith.  Like this man, all of us at some point will need more faith. And all of us can strengthen our faith now.  As we have seen, we strengthen our faith when we study God's Word and meditate on it, which will deepen our appreciation for Jehovah.  Our faith will also grow stronger when we - along with fellow believers -worship Jehovah, publicly declare our hope, and persevere in prayer.  Moreover, when we strengthen our faith, we receive the greatest reward of all.  God's Word urges us:  "Beloved ones, build yourselves up on your must holy faith . . . in order to keep yourselves in God's love." - JUDE 20,21.

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Faith - A Strengthening Quality - HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR FAITH

You can have faith like that of David if you imitate the mental attitude and habits reflected in Psalm 27. Since faith is based on accurate knowledge, the more you study God's Word and Bible-based publications, the easier it will be to produce this aspect of the fruitage of God's spirit.  (Psalm 2:2, 3)  Take time to meditate when you study.  Meditation is the soil in which appreciation  grows.  As your appreciation for Jehovah deepens, so will your desire to exercise faith by worshipping him at congregation meetings and declaring your hope to others. (Hebrews 10:23-25)  Also, we demonstrate faith when we continue "to pray and not give up." (Luke 18:1-8)  Therefore, "pray constantly" to Jehovah, trusting that he cares for you." (Luke 5:17; 1 Peter 5:7) Faith moves us to actions, and our actions, in turn, strengthen our faith.  - JAMES 2:22.

EXERCISE FAITH IN JESUS

On the evening before his death,  Jesus told his disciples:  "Exercise faith in God, exercise faith also in e." (John 14:1) So we need to exercise faith not only in Jehovah but also Jesus.  How can you exercise faith in Jesus?  Let us consider three ways.

First, view the ransom as God's personal gift to you.  The apostle Paul said:  "I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and handed himself over for me." (Galatians 2:20)  When you exercise faith in Jesus, you firmly believe that the ransom applies to you is the basis for forgiving your sins, offers you the hope of  everlasting life, and is the greatest confirmation of God's love for you.  (Romans 8:32, 38, 39; Ephesians 1:7)  This will strengthen you to keep negative feelings about yourself at bay. - 2 THESSALONIANS 2:16, 17. 

Second, draw close to Jehovah in prayer on the basis of Jesus; sacrifice. Because of the ransom, we can pray to Jehovah "with freeness of speech, so that we may receive mercy and find undeserved kindness to help us at the right time." (Hebrews 4:15, 16; 10:19-22)  Prayer strengthens our resolve to resist the temptation to sin. - LUKE 22: 40. 

Third, obey Jesus.  The apostle John wrote:  "The one who exercises faith in the Son has everlasting life; the one who disobeys the Son  will not see life, but the wrath of God remains upon him." (John 3:36)  Note that John contrasted exercising faith with being disobedient.  Therefore, you exercise faith in Jesus when you obey him.  You obey Jesus  by following "the law of the Christ,"  That is, all that he taught and commanded.  (Galatians 6:2) You also obey Jesus by heeding the guidance he provides through "the faithful and discreet slave."  (Matthew 24:45)  By obeying Jesus, you will have the strength to endure  storm-like adversities. - LUKE 6:47, 48. 

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Faith - A Strengthening Quality - RIGHT HEART CONDITION NECESSARY

Since faith is based on evidence, to have faith a person  must first acquire "an accurate knowledge of truth." (1 Timothy 2:4)  But that is not enough.  The apostle Paul wrote: "With the heart, one exercises faith."  (Romans 10:10)  A person must not only believe the truth but also value it.  Only the will he be motivated to exercise faith, that is, to act in harmony with the truth.  ( James 2:20)  A person who does not have heartfelt gratitude for the truth may reject even convincing  evidence if he stubbornly hold to preconceived ideas or seeks to excuse his fleshly desires.  (2 Peter 3:3, 4; Jude 1 8)  This is why in Bible times, not all who witnesses miracles developed faith.  (Numbers 14:11; John 12:37)  God's holy spirit produces faith only in people whose heart favors the truth over lies. - GALATIANS 5:22; 2 THESSALONIANS 2:10, 11) 

HOW DAVID DEVELOPED STRONG FAITH

Among those who had outstanding faith was King David. (Hebrews 11:32, 33)  However, not everyone in David's family had such faith.   For example, on one occasion, Eliab, David's oldest brother, showed a lack of faith when he rebuked David for his concern about Goliath's challenge.  ( 1 Samuel 17:26-28)  No one is born with faith, nor does anyone inherit faith from his parents, so David's faith was a result of his own relationship with God.

In Psalm 27, David reveals how he came to have such strong faith. (Vs. 1) David Meditated on his past  experiences and on how Jehovah had dealt with his adversaries.  (Vss. 2, 3) He deeply appreciated Jehovah's arrangement for worship. (Vs4)  David worshipped God along with fellow believers at the tabernacle. (Vs. 6) He earnestly sought out Jehovah in prayer.. (Vss. 7, 8)  David also wanted to be  instructed in God's way. (Vs. 11)  So important was the quality to David that he rhetorically asked: "Where would I be if I did not have faith?" - Vs. 13. 

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Faith - A Strengthening Quality

FAITH has tremendous power. For example, although Satan wants to kill us spiritually, faith enables us "to extinguish all the wicked one's burning arrows." (Ephesians 6:16)  With faith, we can face mountain like problems.  Jesus told his disciples:  "If you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to the mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will moved"  (Matthew 17:20) Since faith has the potential for strengthening us spiritually, we do well to consider these questions.  What is faith?  How does our heart condition affect our faith? How can we strengthen our faith? And in whom should we put faith? - ROMANS 4:3.

WHAT IS FAITH?

Faith goes beyond simply believing or acknowledging the truth, for even "the demons believe [that God exists] and shudder." (James 2:19)  What, then, is faith? 

The Bible defines faith as having two aspects.  First, "faith is the assured expectation of what is hoped for." (Hebrews 11:1a)  If you have faith, you firmly believe that everything Jehovah says is true and will be fulfilled.  For example, Jehovah told the Israelites:  "If  you could break my covenant regarding the day and my covenant regarding the night, to prevent day and night from coming at their proper time, only then could my covenant with my servant David be broken."" (Jeremiah 33:20, 21)   Are you ever afraid that the sun might stop rising and settling in the Sky, thus causing day and night to cease?  If you do not doubt the physical laws that keep the earth rotating on its axis and orbiting the sun, should you doubt that the Creator of these laws can fulfill his word?  Of course not! - ISAIAH 55:10, 11; MATTHEW 5:18.

Second, faith is "the evident demonstration of realities that are not seen."  Faith is said to be "the evident demonstration," or convincing evidence," of things that are invisible to the eye and yet real.  (Hebrews 11:1b)  In what way?  Suppose a child asks you,'How do you  know the air exists?' Although you have never seen air, you would likely help the child to reason on the evidence that exists-breathing , the effects of the wind, and so on. Once the child is convinced of the evidence, he accepts the existence of what is invisible to him.  Similarly, faith is based on solid evidence. - ROMANS 1:20. 

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Adjusting to a New Assignment - KEEP MOVING FORWARD!

You can make a success of your new assignment.  Do not consider a change to be a failure or a step backward.  Look for Jehovah's hand in your life and keep preaching. Imitate the faithful Christians of the first century. Wherever they were, they "went through the land declaring the good news of the word."  (Acts 8:1, 4)  Your efforts to keep on preaching may yield good results.  For example, pioneers who were expelled from one country moved to a neighboring land where there also was a great need in their language.  Within months, new rapidly growing groups were formed. 

"The joy of Jehovah is your strength."  (Nehemiah 8:10)  We must find our joy primarily in Jehovah and not in our assignment, no matter how much we treasure it.  Therefore, keep walking with Jehovah looking to him for wisdom, guidance, and support. Remember that you came to love your former assignment because you put your heart into helping the people there.  Put your heart into your present assignment and see how Jehovah helps you to love it too. - ECCLESIASTES 7:10.

 We must remember that our service to Jehovah is eternal, but our present assignment is temporary.  In the new world, all of us have a change of assignment.  Aleksey, mentioned at the outset, believes that his current experiences are preparing him for that.  "I always knew that Jehovah and the new world are real, but somehow they seemed a little distant."  Aleksey says.   "Now I see Jehovah right in front of my  eyes and the new world as the next stop on my journey."  (Acts 2:25)  No matter what our assignment is, let us keep walking with Jehovah.  He will never leave us, but he will help us to find joy  in doing whatever we can in his service-wherever that maybe. - ISAIAH 41:13.

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