HOW TO OVERCOME DISHONORABLE CONDUCT

 What can help a husband to overcome abusive and demeaning behavior. He can strive to imitate Jesus. Although Jesus never married, the way he treated his disciples is a model for how a husband should treat his wife. (Ephesians 5:25) For example, consider what husbands can learn from the way Jesus treated his apostles and from the way he spoke to them.

Jesus treated his apostles in a kind and dignified way. He was never harsh or domineering. Although he was their Lord and Master, Jesus did not feel the need to prove his authority over them through displays of power. Instead, he humbly served them.  (John 13:12-17) He told his disciples: "Learn from me, for I am mild-tempered and lowly in heart, and you will find refreshment for yourselves." (Matthew 11:28-30) Note that Jesus was mild-tempered. A mild person is not weak. Rather he has the inner strength to show restraint. When provoked, he remains calm and in control of his emotions. 

Jesus used his words to comfort and refresh others. He did not speak harshly to his followers. (Luke 8:47, 48) Even when opposers insulted him and tried to provoke him, "he did not insult them in return." (1 Peter 2:2-23) At times, Jesus even chose to remain silent rather than reply harshly. (Matthew 27:12-14) What an excellent example for Christian husbands!

Next time: HOW TO OVERCOME DISHONORABLE CONDUCT - Conclusion

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