HOW TO OVERCOME DISHONORABLE CONDUCT -Conclusion

 Jesus instructed husbands to remain loyal to their wife. He quoted his Father who said that a husband should "stick to his wife." (Read Matthew 19:4-6.) The Greek verb used in that passage for "stick to" literally means "to glue." Therefore, the marital bond between a husband and wife should be so strong that it is as if they were glued together. Their bond cannot be broken without damaging both of them. A husband who develops such a bond with his wife will reject all forms of pornography. He will immediately turn away from "looking at what is worthless." (Psalm 119:37) In effect, he makes a contract with his eyes not to look passionately at any woman other than his wife. - JOB 31:1. 

A husband who physically or verbally abuses his wife needs to take additional steps to repair his relationship with Jehovah and with his wife. What are these steps? First, he recognizes that he has a serious problem. Nothing is hidden from Jehovah's sight. (Psalm44:21; Ecclesiastes 12:14; Hebrews 4:13) Second, he stops abusing his wife and changes his behavior. (Proverbs 28:13) Third, he apologizes to his wife and to Jehovah for both the desire to change and the help to control his thoughts, speech, and actions. (Psalm 51:10-12; 2 Corinthians 10:5; Philippians 2:13) Fourth, he acts in harmony with his prayers by learning to hate all forms of violence and abusive speech. (Psalm 97:10) Fifth, he seeks immediate help from loving shepherds in the congregation.  (James 5:14-16) Sixth, he develops a plan that will help him to avoid all such behavior in the future. A husband who views pornography should follow these same steps. Jehovah will bless his efforts to change his behavior. (Psalm 37:5) But it is not enough for a husband to reject dishonorable. He also needs to learn how to show honor to his wife. How can do that? 

Next time:  HOW TO HONOR YOUR WIFE

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