When Giving Counsel

When called on to give counsel or correction, considerate and balanced reasoning will help us to gain the respect of our spiritual brothers and to render truly effective assistance. It is so easy  to concentrate on a few facts and jump  to a hasty, one-sided conclusion.  This gives the impression that we are narrow-minded, if not close-minded, like the religious leaders of Jesus' day, who tended to burden others  with their endless regulations.  (Matthew 23:2-4) On the other hand, if we avoid extremes and provide  fine counsel solidly based on Scriptural principles, reflecting Jehovah's righteous yet balanced and merciful thinking, It will be much easier for others to accept and to apply our suggestions.

Some years ago young brothers from several congregations got together to engage in sports. Unfortunately, a spirit of competition  developed among them, resulting in harsh verbal encounters. How did the local elders handle the problem? Recognizing the need for young ones to have recreation, they did not recommend that they stop altogether.  (Ephesians 5:17; 1 Timothy 4:8)  Rather, they gave firm yet reasonable warnings about what  the spirit of competition could lead to.  They also offered helpful suggestions, such as having older, responsible ones present. The youths appreciated the wisdom and balance of the counsel and responded well.  Moreover, their respect and affection for the elders grew.

Next time: Work to Broaden Out

From the Watchtower magazine, 1999