How Babies Change a Marriage

"Sons are an inheritance from Jehovah. " PSALMS 127:3


The birth of a baby can be both thrilling and overwhelming for a couple. As new parents, you may be surprised to find that most of your time and energy will be used to care for your baby.  Lack of sleep along with emotional changes can put a strain  on your relationship. Both you and your mate will have to make adjustments  to care for your baby and to preserve your marriage.  How can the Bible's advice help you to deal with these challenges?

1 UNDERSTAND HOW A BABY CHANGES YOUR LIFE

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: "Love is patient and kind." Also love "does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked."  (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5)  As a new mother, you naturally focus your attention on your baby. However, your husband may begin to feel neglected, so do not forget  that he too needs your attention. With patience and kindness, you can help him feel needed and involved in caring for your child. You husbands . . . continue dwelling with them according to knowledge." ( 1 Peter 3:7) Understand that your wife will spend most of her energy on your baby. She has new responsibilities and may be stressed, exhausted, or even depressed.  At times, she may even get upset with you, but try to remain calm, because "the one slow to anger is better than a mighty man."  (Proverbs 16:32) (Note: And she can't help it.  A child is a big responsibility and since you  husbands contributed, you could at least ask her if she needs some help.  She may say no, but tell her you are willing to help.)   Show discernment, and give her the support she needs. -Proverbs 14:29.  

WHAT YOU CAN DO:

Fathers: Help your wife to care for the baby, even at night. Limit the amount of time you spend on other activities so that you can spend more time with your wife and your baby.   You both will be worried if you are doing the right thing in raising your baby and may not be sure of what to do.  After all babies do not come with instructions. Use your paternal and maternal instinct. 

Mothers:  When your husband offers to help you with the baby, accept his help. If he does not do the task perfectly, do not criticize him, but kindly show him how to do it.

Next time: How Babies Change a Marriage - 2 STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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