Solutions to Common Complaints

THE Bible does not claim  that marriage is easy.  The apostle Paul was inspired by God to write  that married couples would have to deal with "everyday troubles."  (1 Corinthians 7:28, Today''s English Version)  But a married couple can do much to lessen the troubles they experience and increase the joy they bring to each other. Consider the following six common complaints made by husbands and wives, and see how applying Bible principles can help.


1. Complaint:  "My mate and I are growing apart."

Bible principle: "Make sure of the more important things."  Philippians 1:10.

Your marriage is one of the most important things in your life.  It deserves priority.  So check whether your schedules contribute to this complaint.  Do not let the necessary business of life cause you and your spouse to live separate lives.  Of course, secular work and other unavoidable situations may temporarily force you out of each other's company.  But you can and should put a limit on anythings over which you have control-like time spent on hobbies or with friends. 

Some spouses, however, may take on extra work or hobbies just so they do not have to spend time with their mate.  Such individuals are not "growing apart" from their spouse.  They are running away from problems.  if your mate fall into that category, you need to identify the underlying issues and deal with them.  Only by sharing your life with your mate   can the two of you grow together and "become one flesh" in the fullest sense. -Genesis 2:24.

How some have applied this advice:  Andrew and Tanji, an Australian couple, have been married for ten years.  Andrew says:  "I've learned that working too much and taking on too many social obligations can be dangerous to the marriage.  So my wife and I make time to talk and share our feelings with each other.

Dave and Jane, who live in the United States and have been married for 22 years, devote the first half hour of every evening to sharing their experiences and thoughts.  Jane says:  "This is such an important time that we let nothing interfere with it." 

Next time:  Solutions to Common Complaints,  Complaint
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The Watchtower, 2011