HELP FOR THE FAMILY/YOUNG PEOPLE - When a Parent Dies

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Talk to someone. You might be inclined to isolate yourself during this difficult time. But pouring out your feelings to a family member or a friend will help you to deal with your emotions and keep this tragedy from overwhelming you. -Bible principle: - Proverbs 18:24.

Keep a journal.  Write about the parent you lost. For example, what is your most cherished memory of that person? Write about his or her commendable qualities. Which ones would you like to imitate in your life? 

If you are plagued with negative thoughts-for example, if you cannot stop thinking about something harsh you said to your parent before he or she passed away-write down what you feel and why. For example,  "I feel guilty because I had an argument with my dad the day before he died."

Next, challenge the reasonableness of your guilt.  "You cannot blame yourself for not knowing there would never be an opportunity to apologize," says The Grieving Teen.  "To suggest that one must never say or do anything that might call for a future apology is simply not realistic." - Job 10:1.

Take care of yourself.  Get adequate rest, sufficient exercise, and proper nutrition. If you do not feel like eating, have a number of healthful snacks throughout the day instead of full meals-at least until your appetite returns to normal. Do not soothe your grief with junk food or alcohol; they will only make things worse.

Talk to God in prayer.   The Bible says:  "Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you." (Psalm 55:22)  Prayer is not merely an emotional crutch. it is real communication with the God who "comforts us in all our trials." -2 Corinthians 1:3, 4. 

One way that God comforts those who mourn is through his Word,the Bible.  Why not examine what it teaches about the true condition of those who have died and the hope of a resurrection? -Bible principle: Psalm 94:19. 

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