Ways to Cultivate Reasonable Expectations

First, remember that Jehovah is reasonable and understanding. Psalm 103:14 reminds us:  "He himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust."  Knowing our capabilities and limitations, Jehovah expects from us only what we are able to give. And one thing he does ask of us is "to be modest in walking with [our] God." -Micah 6:8.

Jehovah also urges us to turn to him in prayer.  (Romans 12:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:17) How, though, does that help us?  Prayer stabilizes and balances  our thinking. Fervent prayer is acknowledgment that we need help-it is a mark of modesty and humility.  Jehovah is eager to respond to our prayers by giving us his holy spirit, the fruitage of which includes love, kindness, goodness and self-control.  (Luke 11:13; Galatians 5:22, 23) Prayer also alleviates  anxiety and frustration.  Through prayer, "you derive  comfort unknown from any other source," says Elizabeth. Kevin concurs:  "I pray for a calm heart and a clear mind so that I can deal with a problem. Jehovah never lets me down."  The apostle Paul knew the precious value of prayer.  That is why he recommended: "Let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:6, 7) Yes, communicating with Jehovah really works to help us cultivate reasonable expectations of ourselves and of others.

Occasionally, though, we need immediate reassurance. A word at the right time is good. Confidential talk with a trusted and mature friend can help us get a fresh view of what is causing us to feel disappointed or anxious.  (Proverbs 15:23; 17:17; 27:9)  Youths who  struggle with frustration learn that seeking parental advice  helps them find balance. Kandi appreciatively  acknowledges: "Loving direction from my parents has made me more reasonable and balanced and more of a pleasure to be around."  Yes, the reminder at Proverbs 1:8, 9 is most timely:  "Listen, my son, to the discipline of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother. For they are a wreath of attractiveness to your head and a fine necklace to your throat."

Next time: Conclusion of Ways to Cultivate Reasonable Expectations

From the Watchtower magazine, 2000