How to Build a Successful Marriage

Show humility

"]Do] nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with lowliness of mind considering that the others are superior." (Philippians 2:3) Many conflicts arise because marriage mates pridefully try to blame their partners for the problems instead of humbly seeking ways to make things better for each other.  Lowliness of mind,  or humility, can help you suppress the urge to insist on being right in a disagreement.

Do not hastily take offense

"Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended." (Ecclesiastes  7:9) Try to avoid the inclination to refute your mate's viewpoint or to leap to your own defense if your mate questions something you have said or done. Instead, listen  to and acknowledge your mate's expressions. Think carefully before making a reply.  Many couple learn too late in life that winning a heart is a greater victory than winning an argument. 

Next time: How to Build a Successful Marriage - Know when to keep quiet

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2008