How to Build a Successful Marriage

Speak respectfully

"There exists the one speaking thoughtlessly as with the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise ones is a healing." (Proverbs 12:18) Researchers have found that most conversations end the way they start. Hence, if a conversations starts respectfully, it is most likely  to end that way. Conversely, you know how hurtful it can be when a loved one speaks thoughtlessly to you. Therefore, make a prayerful effort yourself to speak with dignity, respect, and affection. (Ephesians 4:31) "Even though we see each other's weaknesses," explains a Japanese wife named Haruko, married  for 44 years, 'we try to respect each other in word and attitude. That has helped us to  build a successful marriage.? 

Cultivate kindness and compassion

"Become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate." (Ephesians 4:32) When there are strong disagreements, it is easy for anger to beget anger. In Germany, Annette, married happily for 34 years, admits:  "It is not easy to keep calm under stress-you tend to say things that upset your partner, which only makes things worse." By striving to be kind and compassionate, however, you can do much to help smooth the road to a peaceful marriage. 

Next time: How to Build a Successful Marriage - Show humility

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2008