The Benefits of Self-Contro - HOW TO TEACH SELF-CONTROLl

Learn to say  no and mean it.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE:  "Let your word "Yes" mean yes and your "no" mean "no." -MATTHEW 5:37. 

Young children might test a parent's resolve by throwing a tantrum-perhaps even in pubic.  If the parent gives in, the child learns that tantrums are an effective way to get no changed to a  yes. 

On the other hand, if the parent says  no and means it, the child learns a basic fact of life-that we cannot not always get what we want.  "Ironically, people who learn that lesson seem to be the most fulfilled," writes David Walsh. "We're not doing our kids any favors when we teach them that the world will always serve up whatever they want on a silver platter.

Saying no to you child now will help him to say no to himself later in life-for example, if he is tempted to take drugs, have premarital sex, or engage in other harmful practices. 

Help your children understand consequences, both good and bad.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE: "Whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap."- GALATIANS 6:7. 

Your child needs to understand that actions have consequences and that a lack of self-control will therefore have undesirable results. For example, if your son typically loses his temper when he gets upset, others may tend to avoid him. On the other hand, if he develops the ability  to restrains himself when provoked-or to wait patiently rather than interrupt-people will be drawn to him. Help your child understand that he is more likely to have good outcomes when he practices self-restraint. 

Next time: The Benefits of Self-Control - Conclusion of HOW TO TEACH SELF-CONTROL

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