The Benefits of Self-Control - Conclusion of HOW TO TEACH SELF-CONTROL

Teach your child to prioritize.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE: "Make sure of the more important things." "- PHILIPPIANS 1:10.

Self-control is not just a matter of holding back from doing wrong, it includes doing what is necessary, even when this is not particularly exciting or fun. It is important for your child to learn how to establish priorities and stick to them. Have your child do the important things first. For example, he should put homework before recreation. 

Be a good role model.

BIBLE PRINCIPLE: "I set the pattern for you, that just as I did to you, you should also do." - JOHN 13:15. 

Your child will see how you respond to unpleasant or frustrating situations. Demonstrate by your example that self-control leads to better outcomes.  For example, when your child tests your patience, do yo react in anger or do you remain calm?

TRAIN NOW

Saying no to your child now will help him to say no to himself later in life-for example, if he is tempted to take drugs or to engage in other harmful practices. 

Teach by Example

* Does my child see  me work through frustrating situations  without losing my temper?

* Have I explained to my child the reasons whey I try to handle problems calmly?

* How would my child describe me-as impulsive and quick -tempered or as self-disciplined and controlled?

What We Did

"Even though our daughter was allowed to become frustrated or angry, she wasn't allowed to let those feelings exasperate those around her.  If she couldn''t control herself, then she would be removed from other's company until she could calm down." -Teresa

My wife and I made it our aim to let our children know when they made us proud.  We praised them when they didn't allow difficulty to get them out of sorts or when they kept their cool and showed self-control." -Wayne. 

Next time: The Benefits of Self-Control - Six Lessons Children Need to Learn

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