Widows and Widowers-What Do They Need? - Conclusion of How Can You Help? Conclusion of A TIme to Heal

By expressing conflicting feelings, such as regrets, guilt, or anger, the bereaved person takes a crucial step toward acceptance of his or her circumstances. In King David's case, it was the pouring out of his heart before the best of confidants.  Jehovah God, that allowed him  to find the strength to 'get up'  and accept the sad reality of the death of his young son. -2 SAMUEL 12:19-23.

Even though it is difficult at first, in time a widowed person needs to get back into a daily routine. Can you include him or her in some of your daily activities, such as shopping or an evening stroll?  Can you ask your friend for help with some task?  That is another way to draw individuals out of their isolation.  For example, could she look after the children or share the secrets  of a food recipe?  Could he help with some repairs around the house?  In addition to providing stimulating activity,such as requests reassure the person that he has a  purpose in life.

By opening up to others once more, the bereaved person may progressively  recover a taste for life and may even be able to set new goals.  This was the case with Yonette, a 44-year-old widow and mother.  She recalls: "Getting back to a regular routine was so difficult! Performing daily chores, managing my finances, and caring for three kids was really hard."  However, with time. Yonette learned to organized herself and to communicate better with her children. She also leaned to accept the support of close friends. 

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