Faith -What Does the Bible Say? -What is Faith?

WHAT SOME PEOPLE SAY 

Many people think that a person who has faith simply accepts a belief without having any real evidence. For example, consider  a religious person who says, "I believe in God."  If that person is asked, "Why do you believe?" he might reply,  "That's the way I was raised" or, "That's what I've always been taught."  In such cases, there might seem to be little difference between having faith and being gullible.

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS 

"Faith is the assured expectation of what is hoped for the evident demonstration of realities that are not seen." (Hebrews 11:1) For a person's expectation to be assured, he or she needs to have sound reasons for that assurance. In fact, the original-language word for the phrase "assured expectation" means more than an inner feeling or mere wishful thinking. So faith involves conviction that is based on evidence. 

Why Is It Important to Acquire Faith?

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS 

Without faith it is impossible to please God well, for whoever approaches God must believe that he is and that he becomes the rewarder of those earnestly seeking him. -Hebrews 11:6. 

As mentioned earlier, many people believe in God simply because they have been taught to do so.  'That's the way I was raised,' they might say.  But God wants those who worship him to have genuine confidence in his existence and in his love.  That is one reason why the Bible emphasizes the need to seek him earnestly, so that we can truly get to know him.  

Next time: Faith-What Does the Bible Say - How Can You Acquire Faith?

From The Watchtower magazine  

Communication in Marriage - How to Discuss Problems

WHAT YOU CAN DO

For husbands:  Practice empathetic listening.  A husband named Tomas says: "Sometimes after listening I think to myself, 'That didn't accomplish anything.' But often that's all my wife needs-a listening ear." A husband named Stephen would agree.  "I find it best just to let my wife express herself without interrupting," he says.  "More often than not, she finishes and tells me she feels a lot better."

Try this:  The next time you discuss a problem with your wife, resist the urge to give her unsolicited advice. Make eye contact, and focus on what she is saying.  Nod in agreement. Repeat the gist of what she says to show that you get the point.  "Sometimes my wife just needs to know that I understand her and that I'm on her side," says a husband named Charles. -Bible principle: James 1:19. 

For wives:  say what you need.  "We might expect our spouse to know just what we need," says a wife named Eleni, "but sometimes we do have to spell it out." (Yes, because husbands/boyfriends, despite what women might think, do not read our minds. So it is unfair of us women to expect that of any man) A wife named Ynez suggests this approach:  "I could say, 'Something is bothering me, and I would like for you to hear me out. I don't need you to fix it, but I would like you to understand how I feel.'"

Try this:  If you husband prematurely offers solutions, do not conclude that he is being insensitive.  Likely he is trying to lighten your load.  "Instead of getting annoyed," says a wife name Ester,  "I try to realize that my husband does care and wants to listen but hat he also just wants to help." -Bible principle: Romans 12:10. 

For both:  We tend to treat others the way we want to be treated. However, to discuss problems effectively, you need to consider how your spouse  would like to be treated.  (1 Corinthians 10:24) A husband named Miguel puts it this way:  "If you are a husband, be willing to listen. If you are a wife, be willing to hear solutions once in a while. When you meet in the middle, both spouses benefit." -Bible principle: 1 Peter 3:8 

Next time: Faith-What Does the Bible Say? -What is Faith

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Communication in Marriage -How to Discuss Problems

THE CHALLENGE 

When you and your spouse discuss a problem, do you seem to end up further apart than when you started the conversation?  If so, you can improve the situation. First, though, there are a few things you should know about the different communication of men and women.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW

Women usually prefer to talk out a problem before hearing a solution.  In fact, sometimes talking is the solution. 

"I feel better when I have expressed my feelings and know that my husband understands me. After I talk about it-usually withing just minutes after the conversation." -Sirppa.

"I can't move on if I don't have a chance to explain to my husband exactly how I feel.  Talking it out is a form of closure for me." -Ae-Jin. 

"It's like detective work. As I talk, I'm analyzing each step of the problem and trying to get to the root of it." -Lurdes.

Men tend to think in terms of solutions.  That is understandable because fixing things makes a man feel useful. Offering solutions is his way of showing his wife that she can rely on him for help.  So husbands are baffled when their solutions are not readily accepted.  "I can't understand why you would talk about a problem if you didn't want a solution! says a husband named Kirk. 

But "understanding much precede advice," warns the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.  "You have to let your partner know that you fully understand and empathize with the dilemma before you suggest a solution. Oftentimes your spouse isn't asking you to come up with a solution at all-just to be a good listener." 

Next time: Communication in Marriage - How to Discuss Problems/WHAT YOU CAN DO

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IMITATE THEIR FAITH

"WHO IS THAT MAN THERE?"

Bethuel's family blessed their beloved Rebekah.  Then she and her childhood nurse, Deborah, along with some servant girls, set off with Eliezer and his men.  (Genesis 24:59-61; 35:8) Before long, Haran was far behind them.  The journey was a long one, 500 miles (800 km) or so, and it lasted perhaps three weeks.  It was likely not a comfortable trip. Rebekah had seen camels aplenty in her life, but  we cannot assume that she was an experienced rider.  The Bible portrays her family as often complain of discomfort-even after a very short ride!

 At any rate, Rebekah looked ever forward, no doubt trying to learn all she could from Eliezer about Isaac and his family. Picture the old man talking to her by an evening campfire, telling her of Jehovah's promise to his friend Abraham. God would raise up from Abraham's family line an offspring who would bring blessings to all mankind.  Think of the awe that filled Rebekah's heart  when she realized that Jehovah's promise would be fulfilled through her own husband-to-be, Isaac-Hence, through her as well. -Genesis 22:15-18. 

Finally, the day came that we described at the outset of this article. As the caravan traversed the Nebeb and twilight began to fall over the land, Rebekah saw a man walking in the fields. He looked thoughtful, contemplative.  "She quickly got down from the camel," we read-perhaps not even waiting for the beast to kneel down-and she asked her guide:  "Who is that man there walking in the field to meet us?"  When she learned that it was Isaac, she covered her head with her shawl.   (Genesis 24:62-65) Why? Evidently, the gesture was a sign of respect for her future husband. That kind of submission may strike some today as old-fashioned. Really, though, men as well as women may take a lesson from Rebekah's humility, for who of us does not need more of that lovely quality? 

Isaac, a man of about 40, was still grieving the loss of his mother, Sarah, who had died about three years earlier. we may infer, then, that Isaac was a man of warm and tender feelings. What a blessing for such a man to be given a wife who was so industrious, hospitable, and humble!   how did the two get along?  The Bible says simply: "He fell in love with her."- Genesis 24:67; 26:8.  

Even for us some 39 centuries later, it is easy to love Rebekah.  How can we help but admire her courage, her industriousness, her hospitality, and her humility? All of us-young and old, men and women, married and single-do well to imitate her faith! 

Next time: Communication in Marriage-How to Discuss Problems 

From The Watchtower magazine 

IMITATE THEIR FAITH

Conclusion of "YOU MUST TAKE A WIFE FOR MY SON"

Bethuel and Laban were moved by Eliezer's account.  They said:  "This is from Jehovah." As was the custom, they concluded a marriage covenant, betrothing Rebekah to Isaac.  (Genesis 24:50-54)  Does that mean, though, that Rebekah had no say in the matter? 

Weeks earlier, Eliezer had raised that very issue with Abraham, asking "What if the woman is unwilling to come with me?"  Abraham had responded:  "This will release you from your oath." (Genesis 24:39, 41)  In the house of Bethuel too, the young woman's preferences mattered. Eliezer was so enthusiastic about the successes of his mission that on the following morning, he asked if he could return to Canaan with Rebekah immediately.  The family, however, wanted her to remain with them for at least another ten days.  Finally, they resolved the matter this way:  "Let us call the young woman and inquire of her." -Genesis 24:57. 

Here, then, was a great crossroads in Rebekah's life. What would she say? Would she play on the sympathy of her father and brother, pleading for a release from this journey into the unknown?  Or would she view it as a privilege to have a part in events that were clearly guided by Jehovah?  When she answered, she revealed  how she felt about this sudden, perhaps daunting, change in her life. She simply said:  "I am willing to go." -Genesis 24:58. 

What a remarkable spirit she had!  Today, our customs regarding marriage may be quite different, but we can still learn much from Rebekah.  What mattered most to her was, not her own preferences, but those of her God, Jehovah. When it comes to marriage today, God's Word still offers the best guidance available-regarding the kind of mate to choose and how to become a good husband or wife.  (2 Corinthians 6:14, 15; Ephesians 5:28-33) We do well to follow Rebekah's example and seek to do things God's way.  

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH - "WHO IS THAT MAN THERE?" 

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IMITATE THEIR FAITH

"YOU MUST TAKE A WIFE FOR MY SON"

Who was that old man at the well? He was a servant of Abraham, the brother of Rebekah's grandfather.  Thus, he was welcome in the home of Bethuel, Rebekah's father.  This servant's name was probably Eliezer.  The hosts offered him a meal, but he refused to eat until he had disclosed the reason for his visit.  (Genesis 24:31-33)  We may imagine him speaking excitedly, for he had just seen powerful evidence that his God, Jehovah, was blessing him on this vital mission.  How so?  

Imagine Eliezer telling his story as Rebekah's father, Bethuel, as well as her brother Laban, listened with rapt attention.  He told them that Jehovah had blessed Abraham greatly in Canaan and that Abraham and Sarah had a son, Isaac, who was to inherit everything.  Abraham had given this servant a commission of great importance:  He was to seek a wife for Isaac among Abraham's relatives in Haran. -Genesis 24:34-38. 

Abraham made Eliezer take an oath that he would not select a wife for Isaac from among the women of Canaan. Why? Because  the Canaanites neither respected nor worshipped Jehovah God.  Abraham knew that Jehovah intended in due time to punish those people for their wicked practices.  He also knew that his son had a vital role to play in fulfilling God's promises.  -Genesis 15:16; 17:19;24:2-4. 

Eliezer went on to tell his hosts that when he arrived at the well near Haran, he prayed to Jehovah God. He asked Jehovah, in effect, to choose the young woman for Isaac to marry?  How? Eliezer asked God to ensure that the girl he wanted Isaac to wed would come to the well. When asked for a drink, she should volunteer not only to giver Eliezer a drink but to water his camels as well.   (Genesis 24:12-14) And who had come along and done precisely that?  Rebekah!  Imagine how she might have felt if she had overheard the story Eliezer told her family members! 

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH -"YOU MUST TAKE A WIFE FOR MY SON

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IMITATE THEIR FAITH

Conclusion of "I WILL ALSO DRAW WATER FOR YOUR CAMELS"

Rebekah's example speaks eloquently to us today. We live in an age when selfishness seems to reign supreme. As foretold, people have become "lovers of themselves," unwilling to go out of their way for others.  (2 Timothy 3:1-5) Christians who seek to fight the influence of that trend do well to contemplate the Bible's picture of that young woman so long ago, running back and forth to the well.

Rebekah surely noticed the elderly man's gaze upon her. There was nothing improper in his look; it suggested amazement, wonderment, and joy.  When Rebekah was done at last, he gave her gifts-precious jewelry! Then he asked:  Please tell me, whose daughter are you?  Is there any room at your father's house for us to spend the night?"  When she told him of her family, his joy intensified.  Perhaps in a rush of enthusiasm, she added: "We have both straw and much fodder and also a place to spend the night!"-a considerable offer, as there were others traveling with the old man.  Then she ran off ahead of him to tell her mother what had happened. -Genesis 24:22-28, 32.

Clearly, Rebekah was raised to be hospitable. Here is another value that seems to be on the want today-and another reason to imitate the faith of this kindhearted young woman.  Faith in God should lead us to be hospitable.  Jehovah is hospitable, for he is generous to all, and he wants his worshippers to follow suit. When we are hospitable even to those who may never repay us, wee please our heavenly Father. -Matthew 5:44-46; 1 Peter 4:9. 

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH- "YOU MUST TAKE A WIFE FOR MY SON" 

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IMITATE THEIR FAITH

"I WILL ALSO DRAW WATER FOR YOUR CAMELS"

The great changed that came into Rebekah's life began in a  way that may have seemed fairly ordinary to her.  She grew up in or near Haran, a city in Mesopotamia. Her parents were different from most people in Haran.  They did not worship the moon-god Sin.  Rather, their God was Jehovah. -Genesis 24:50. 

Rebekah grew up to be a very beautiful young woman, but she was no passive, vain beauty.  She was spirited, and she remained morally pure.  Her family was prosperous enough to have servants, but Rebekah was not coddled or treated like a princess; she was raised  to work hard. Like so many women of those times, Rebekah has some heavy chores to do, including fetching water for the family.  Early in the evening, she would hoist a vessel onto her shoulder and head off to the spring. -Genesis 24:11,15, 16.

One evening, after she had filled her jar, an elderly man ran up to meet her.  He said to her:  "Please give me a little sip of water from your jar." It was such a modest request and so politely made!  Rebekah could see the man had traveled far. So she quickly  swung her water jar from her shoulder and let the man drink, not a mere sip, but a real drink of the fresh, cool water.  She noticed  that he had a train of camels kneeling nearby and that the trough had not yet been filled to water them. She could see that his eyes were watching her attentively, and she wanted to be as generous as she could.  So she said:  "I will also draw water for your camels until they done drinking." -Genesis 24:17-19.  

Note that Rebekah offered not merely to give the ten camels a drink but to water them until they were satisfied.  If very thirsty, one camel might drink  over 25 gallons (95 L) of water!  If all ten camels were that thirsty, Rebekah faced hours of hard work. As matters turned out, it seems unlikely that the camels were extremely thirst.  But did Rebekah know that when he made her offer?  No.  She was willing, even eager, to work as hard as need be to show hospitality to this elderly stranger.  He accepted her offer. Then he watched  her intently as she ran back and forth, filling and refilling her jar and emptying it into the trough again and again. -Genesis 24:20, 21.  

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH - Conclusion of "I WILL ALSO DRAW WATER FOR YOUR CAMELS"

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IMITATE THEIR FAITH -"I Am Willing to Go"

REBEKAH looked out over the rugged landscape as the shadows lengthened. After weeks of travel, she  was finally getting used to the swaying gait of the camel as she sat perched high atop its back. Her childhood home in Haran was far behind her, hundreds of miles to the northeast. She might never see her family again. Questions about her future surely flooded her mind-especially now as she neared her journey's end.

The caravan had passed through much of Canaan and was traversing harsher terrain, the Negeb.  (Genesis 24:62) Rebekah likely saw sheep.  The country here might be too wild and arid for extensive farming, but it provides ample pasturage for grazing. It was familiar ground to her elderly guide. He was bursting with good news to tell his master-Rebekah was to become Isaac's wife! Rebekah must have wondered, though, what kind of life she would lead in this land. What would her groom, Isaac be like?  They had never even  met!  Would he be pleased when he saw her? And how would she feel about him?

In many parts of the world today, arranged marriages may seems strange. In other regions, such unions are common. Whatever your background, you may agree that Rebekah was heading into the unknown. She was, in fact, a  woman of remarkable courage and faith.  We need both those qualities when we faces changes in life. There are other beautiful and rare qualities associated with Rebekah's faith. 

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH - "I WILL ALSO DRAW WATER FOR YOUR CAMELS"

From The Watchtower magazine 

The Dead Will Rise!

The Dead Will Live Again!

You may recall that Gail, mentioned earlier in this series, doubts whether she will ever get over the death of her husband, Rob. However, she is looking forward to seeing him again in God's promised new world.  "My favorite scripture," she says "is Revelation 21:3, 4."  It reads:  "God himself will be with them. And he will wipe out ever tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore.  The former things have passed away."

Gail says:  "This promise says it all. My feelings really go out to people who have lost someone they love but who are not aware of this hope of seeing their loved one again." Gail acts in harmony with her beliefs by doing volunteer work as a  full-time evangelizer, sharing with her neighbors God's promise of a future when "death will be nor more."

'Unbelievablel!' You may say.  But consider the example of a man named Job. He had  been desperately ill.  (Job 2:7) Though Job wished he were dead, he still had faith in God's power to resurrect him back to life on earth. He confidently said;  "O that in the Grave you would conceal me . . .  You will call, and I will answer you. You will long for the work of your hand." (Job 14:13, 15) Job was confident that his God would miss him and would long to restore him to life. 

Soon, God will do just that-for Job and countless others-when this earth is transformed into a paradise.  (Luke 23:42, 43)  "There is going to be a resurrection," the Bible confirms at Acts 24:15.  "Do not be amazed at this, Jesus assures us, "for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out."  (John 5:28, 29) Job will see that promise fulfilled. He will have the prospect of regaining "his youthful vigor," and his flesh will forever remain  "fresher in youth." (Job 33:24, 25)  The same will happen to all who respond with appreciation to God's merciful provision of a resurrection on earth.  

If you have suffered a loss of someone dear to you, the information we have discussed may not completely take away your grief. But by meditating on God's promises found in the Bible, you can find real hope and the strength to keep going. -1 Thessalonians 4:13. 

Next time:  IMITATE THEIR FAITH- "I Am Willing to Go"

From the Watchtower magazine 

How to Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving

Conclusion of Comforting Those Who Mourn

Consider the example of Kaori, a young Japanese woman who was devastated by the loss of her mother followed by the loss of her older sister 15 months later. Thankfully, she received ongoing support from loyal friends. One named Ritsuko is much older than Kaori and offered to be her close friend.  "To be honest," says Kaori,  "I wasn't happy about that.  I didn't want anyone to take the place of my mother, and I didn't think that anyone could.  However, because of the way Mama Ritsuko treated me, I can to feel close to her. Every week, we  went out in the evangelizing work together and went to Christian meetings together.  She invited me to have tea with her, brought me meals, and wrote me letters and cards many times. Mama Ritsuko's positive attitude had a good influence on me." Twelve years have passed since Kaori's mother died, and today she and her husband are full-time evangelizers.   "Mama Ritsuko," Kaori says, "continues to show her concern.  When I go back home, I always visit her and enjoy her upbuilding association."

Another example of someone who benefited from ongoing support is Poli, one of Jehovah's Witnesses in Cyprus. Poli had a kind husband, Sozos, who set a good example as  a Christian shepherd by often inviting orphans and widows to their home for association and a meal.  (James 1:27) Sadly, at the age of 53 Sozo's died of a brain tumor.   "I lost my loyal husband with whom I had spent 33 years of marriage," says Poli. 

After the funeral, Poli moved to Canada with her youngest son, 15 -year-old Daniel. There, they began association with a congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses.   "The friends in my new congregation," recalls Poli,  "did not know anything about  our past and difficult circumstances. But that did not stop them from approaching us and embracing us with their kind words and practical help.   How precious  that help was, especially at that time, when my son needed his father most!  Those taking the lead int he congregation showed a great deal of personal  interest in Daniel. One in particular made sure to include Daniel when enjoying association with friends or when going out to play ball."  Both mother and son are doing well today.

To be sure, there are many ways we can offer practical help and comfort to those who mourn.  The Bible also comforts  us by means of a thrilling hope for the future. 

Next time: The Dead Will Rise! - The Dead Will Live Again!

From The Watchtower magazine 

How to Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving

Comforting Those Who Mourn

Have you ever felt helpless when someone near to you was grieving over the loss of a loved one?  Sometimes we may feel unsure of what to say or do-so we wind up saying and doing nothing.  But there are practical, helpful things that we can do.

Often, all that is needed is your presence along with a simple expression, such as "I am so sorry."  In many cultures, giving the person a hub or a gentle squeeze of the arm is an effective way to show you care. If the bereaved one wants to talk, listen sympathetically. Best of all, do something for the bereaved family, perhaps performing a chore the grieving one has not been able to care for, such as cooking a meal, caring for the children, or helping with funeral arrangements if that is desired. Such actions may speak louder than the most eloquent words.

In time, you may be moved to talk about the deceased, perhaps focusing on some good qualities or happy experiences. Such conversation  may even bring a smile to the bereaved person's face.   For example, Pam-who lost her husband, Ian, six years ago-says:  "People sometimes tell me good things that Ian did that I never knew about, and that makes my heart feel good." 

Researchers report that many bereaved people receive a lot of initial help but that their needs are soon forgotten as friends get busy with their own lives. Therefore, make a point of contacting a bereaved friend on a regular basis after the loss.  Many grieving ones deeply appreciate this opportunity to relieve themselves of prolonged feelings of grief. 

Next time: How to Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving/Conclusion of Comforting Those Who Mourn

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When a Loved One Dies

Conclusion of Dealing With Your Grief

If you are plagued by such feelings of guilt and anger, it is more important not to bottle up these emotions. Rather, speak to a friend who will listen and reassure you that such irrational feelings are common to many bereaved ones.  The Bible reminds us:  "A true friend shows love at all times, and is a brother who is born for times of distress." -Proverbs 17:17.

The best Friend a bereaved person can have is our Creator, Jehovah God. Pour out your heart to him in prayer because "he cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7) Moreover, he promises that all who do so will have their thoughts and feelings soothed by "the peace of God that surpasses all understanding." (Philippians 4:6, 7) Also, allow God to help you heal by means of his consoling Word, the Bible.  Make a list of comforting scriptures.  You may even want to memorize  a few of them. Having such thoughts to ponder over by be especially helpful at night when you are alone and find it hard to sleep. -Isaiah 57:15. 

Recently, a 40-year-old man, whom we will call Jack, lost his beloved wife to cancer.  Jack says that at time he feels intense loneliness. But he has found help in prayer.  "When I pray to Jehovah," he explains, "I never feel alone. I often wake up during the night and cannot get back to sleep. After reading and meditating on comforting thoughts from the Scriptures and then pouring out my feelings of my heart in prayer, I sense a calmness and a transcending peace come over me, putting my mind and heart at rest and enabling me to sleep." 

A young woman named Vanessa lost her mother to illness. She too has experienced the power of prayer.   "In my most difficult times," she says, "I would just call on God's name and break down in tears.  Jehovah listened to my prayers and always  gave me the strength I needed."

Some bereavement counselors advise those who are struggling with grief to get involved in helping others to volunteer their time in some community service.  Doing so can bring joy and may ease a person's grief.  (Acts 20:35) Many bereaved Christians have found that working to help others has brought them great comfort. -2 Corinthians 1:3, 4. 

Next time: How to Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving-Comforting Those Who Mourn

From The Watchtower magazine 

When a Loved One Dies

Dealing With Your Grief

There is no shortage on this subject. Not all of it, however, is helpful.  For instance, you may find that some will advise you not to cry or show your feelings in any way. Others may push you to do the opposite and expose all your feelings. The Bible presents a more balanced view, on that is supported by modern research. 

In some cultures it is considered unmanly for a male to cry. But is there  a real  need to feel ashamed about shedding tears, even in public?  Mental-health experts acknowledge that tearfulness is a normal part of grieving. And grieving may, in time, help you to move on despite the enormity of your loss. Suppressing grief, however, may do more harm than good. The Bible lends no support to the notion that it is wrong or unmanly to shed tears of grief. Think of Jesus, for example. At the death of his dear friend Lazarus, Jesus openly wept, even though he had the power to bring the dead back to life! -John 11:33-35. 

Bouts of anger are often part of grieving, especially in cases of sudden, unexpected death.  There are many reasons why a bereaved person may feel angry, such as when thoughtlessness and unfounded  comments are made by a respectful person.   "I was only 14 years old when my father died," explains a South American man named Mike.  "At the funeral, the Anglican minister said that God needs good people and takes them early.  This angered me because  we desperately needed our father. Now 63 years later,it still hurts." 

And what about guilt? Especially in the case of an unexpected death, the bereaved person may repeatedly think,  'It might not have happened if only I had done this or that.' Or maybe your last encounter with the deceased  involved in an argument. This may add to your feeling of guilt.

Next time: When a Love One Dies - Conclusion of Dealing With Your Grief

From The Watchtower magazine 

When a Loved One Dies

Is It Wrong to Grieve?

Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that.  "There is no such thing as 'getting over' grief," writes Dr.Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse's Grieving Heart.  However, he adds:  "Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften."

As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died.  The Bible says that  "Abraham began to mourn and weep over Sarah."  The expression "began to" suggests that it took some time to cope with his loss.  Another example is Jacob, who was deceived into believing that his son Joseph had been killed by a wild animal.  He grieved for "many days," and his family members were unable to comfort him.  Several years later, the death of Joseph still weighed heavily on his mind. -Genesis 23:2; 37:34, 35; 42:36; 45:28. 

The same is true today of many who mourn the death of someone very close. Consider the following two examples.  

My husband, Robert, died on July 9, 2008.  The morning of the fatal accident was no different from any other day. After breakfast, as we always did when he was leaving for work, we gave each other a kiss, a cuddle, and an 'I love you.'  Six years later the pain in my heart is still there. I don't think I will ever get over my loss of Rob." -Gail, aged 60. 

"Although i have been without my dear wife for more than 18 years, I miss her and grieve over my loss. Whenever I see something in nature that is attractive, my thoughts go to her, and I cannot help wondering how she would have enjoyed seeing what I am seeing." -Eugene, ages 84.  

Clearly, such painful and long-lasting feelings are only natural. Each person grieves in his or her own way, and it would be unwise to judge the way another person responds to tragedy. At the same time, we may need to hold off from condemning ourselves if our reaction to loss seems excessive. How can we cope with grief?

Next time: When a Loved One Dies - Dealing With Your Grief

From The Watchtower magazine  

When a Loved One Dies

"God knows best, baby. . . .Don't . . .you . . .cry."

Those words were whispered into the ear of a woman named Bebe. She was at the funeral of her father, who had died in a car accident.

Bebe had been very close to her father. The remark came from a well-meaning family friend, but Bebe found it more cutting than comforting.  "His death wasn't for the best," she kept repeating to herself.  It was clear that when Bebe recounted the incident  in a book years later, she was still grieving. 

As Bebe came to see, it can take a very long time for someone to overcome grief, especially when the bereaved person was very close to the deceased. In the Bible, death is aptly described as "the last enemy." (1 Corinthians 15:26) It breaks into our lives with irresistible force, often when we are completely unprepared, and it robs us of those we hold dear. None of are immune to its ravages.  So it is not surprising if we feel at a loss when it comes to coping with death and its aftermath.

Perhaps you have wondered:  'How long does it take to get over grief?  How can person cope with grief? How can I comfort others who have been bereaved?  Is there any hope for our loved ones who have died?' 

Next time: When a Loved One Dies -Is It Wrong to Grieve?

From The Watchtower magazine 

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

The Christian View

Christians view life as a precious gift from Jehovah God. When one deliberately puts his life in danger by taking needless chances just to demonstrate his daring courage (or what I call stupidity) -his machismo-or to excite the crowd or satisfy his own need to experience a rush, he is, in effect,  showing contempt for the marvelous gift of life that God has given us.  Jesus certainly showed deep respect for his life and did not unnecessarily  endanger it.  He refused to put God to the test. -Matthew 4:5-7. 

Christians, likewise, have an obligation to show respect for life.   "I once climbed a steep rock cliff and found myself unable to go backward or forward," wrote one Christian.  "To this day I shudder  at how close I came to dying. What a stupid waste it would have been!"

'Where I live,' wrote a Christian youth, 'the kids participate in many of these thrill sports.  They are always trying to get me to join them.  In the news, though, I often see reports of people dying or getting seriously hurt from the same supposedly fun sports that kids tell me about.  I realize that it would unwise for me to endanger the life that Jehovah God gave me, for such a short-lived thrill.'  May you be of the same mind and judgment.  

Next time: When a Love One Dies

From The Watchtower magazine 

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

Why Do They Do It?

Many sports extremist defend their participation in death-defying stunts as an escape from boredom. Bored by routine jobs, some have left their work and have pursued a new career in the world of extreme sports.  "I started to use bungee jumping as a drug, as  way to clean my slate." said one.  "I would jump and I'd be like, 'Problems? what problems?' "   He is a veteran of 456 jumps, including leaps from Yosemite's El Capitan, the San Francisco Bay Bridge , and the world's highest tram in France," a magazine reported.   

Declared another extreme sports participant:  "Time stands still. You couldn't care less about what's going on in the world."   Another said:  "What we do for kicks [which for many includes a monetary reward], most people wouldn't do if you held a gun to their heads."  Newsweek magazine commented:   "All of them are hellbent for thrills. " 

Note: Well, time will definitely stand still for them if they get killed. They may think it is their idea, but it is just Satan putting that idea in their heads because he knows that Jehovah God is totally disapproving of those death-defying activities. They are testing God in that and He does not like it at all!)

Some psychologists have done extensive research into thrill seeking. One categorizes  thrill seekers as type T personality.  'The T stands for  "thrills" - Risk taking stimulation seeking, excitement seeking, and arousal seeking.' He says: "There are some people who hold on to the handrails of life-the rules, the traditions.  The Type T let go of the handrails. They create their own life." (Yeah, and God can take that life away just as well.) "Accidents  are the leading cause of death among teenagers, often because they put themselves in a dangerous position from need for thrills.  (The teenagers' problem is, that they think they are infallible-that nothing can hurt or kill them.   That is worse thing that they say or feel, because when you feel you can make no mistakes, that nothing can happen to you because you think you are too good at it, that is when your luck will run out.)

Scientists and psychologists admit that it is unnatural for anyone to seek out sports that have a high-level fatal risk factor.  The fact that many have suffered serious, life-threatening injuries, only to recover after long stays in  hospitals and rehabilitation centers and then continue in their death-defying pursuit, indicates that all is not well with their thinking ability. Yet, often these may be highly intelligent people.  (I don't think so, more like idiots. And these life-threatening accidents could be someone above is trying to tell you something and if you refuse to listen, that could not turn out well at all.) 

Experts are not sure what draws the thrill seekers to risk life and limb. the answers they suggest, may lie in the brain.  "You are not going to stop that thrill -seeking," they say,  "but you try to prevent them from taking lethal risks. At the very least, you want them to avoid putting other people at risk."   

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?/The Christian View

From the Awake! magazine 

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

Conclusion of Flirting With Death

In the United States, "a growing number of 'typical boys and girls are being killed or maimed playing  bizarre new dangerous games," reported Family Circle magazine.  "Car surfing"-climbing through the window of a speeding car onto the top and standing while the car speeds along-or standing on top of a moving elevator or on top of a speeding subway train have taken youthful lives. 

Even towering Mount Everest is involved as never before. Climbers without adequate training will pay as much as $65,000 to be led to the top and down again.  Since 1953, more than 700 climbers have reached the top. Many never made it down.  Some of the bodies are still up there.  "Climbers now compete to set records as the youngest, the oldest, the fastest  on Everest," wrote one journalist.  "Unlike any other sport," wrote another,  "mountaineering demands that  its players die."  Must one defy disaster to prove courage?  (More like show their inherent stupidity.) "Courage doesn't mean doing stupid things," warned one veteran climber. Among "stupid things," he lists " 'adventure tours' up Mount Everest by less-than-expert climbers." 

And do it goes.  The number and kinds of death-defying pursuits that are becoming common throughout the world are limited only by the imagination of those willing to create new ones.  A psychologist predicts that extreme sports, in which participants live for a while on the edge between life and death, "will become the major spectator and participant sports of the 21st century." 

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?/Why Do They Do It? 

From the Awake! magazine 

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

Flirting With Death

Then there are those who have a passion for flirting with death in other ways.  There are motorcycle stuntmen who defy death and serious injury by jumping over 50 cars parked side by side or over a number of huge passenger buses or over a wide canyon.  One such stunt-man reported that he had broken 37 bones in his body and had been in a coma for 30 days.  He said:  "Broken bones or arms mean nothing to me any more. .  . .I've had twelve major open reduction operations. That's when they cut you open and plate or screw in. I suppose I've had about 35 or 40 screws put in me, to hold the bones together.  I'm always in and out of hospitals." Once when he was injured in a practice run and was unable to attempt his jump over a number of cars, the crowds booed to show their disappointment.    

Many thrill seekers take part in extreme sports, including death-defying stunts such as climbing the sides of city skyscrapers without safety equipment,snowboarding down  steep 20,000-foot mountains, bungee jumping of high towers and bridges, parachuting out of airplanes while strapped to another jumper's back, or climbing sheer ice-covered cliffs withe nothing but a pair of small pickaxes in their hands.  "I expect to lose three to four friends a year," lamented one ice climber. These are just some of the death-defying stunts that have become  popular in the sports world.  (more like the world of stupidity-someone who has no respect for the life that God gave him) "It is the chance of a  catastrophe that makes extreme sports so enticing," declares one writer.  (Why don't they just go ahead and commit suicide, that is basically what is going happen anyway.  And the people who want to watch that garbage is just as bad as the one that wants to do it. These people, not brave but stupid people who do that, their luck will run out.) 

"Even the most extreme of extreme sports  are booming," wrote U.S.News & World Report magazine.  "Sky surfing, in which expert parachutists perform circus-worthy twists and turns on graphite boards whole free falling from 13,000 feet, didn't exist in 1990; now it attracts thousands of devotees. And a sport known as BASE jumping (for Buildings,m Antennas, Spans, and Earth), officially established in 1980, now lures hundreds, who parachute-often illegally and at night-off fixed objects such as radio towers or bridges." This sport  has already taken dozens of lives.  "There aren't many injuries in BASE jumping," said one seasoned jumper. "You either lie or you die."     (Yes, this is definite something Satan would put their head to do.  This is not a sport, it is pure outright stupidity and lack of respect for God's gift of life.)

Rock climbing up the sheer sides of mountains with nothing but tiny finger-holds and toeholds is attracting thousands.  (The audience is no less dumber than the stunt person here or any so-called death-defying activity, because they know that they will not be the one to die; and also the ones cheering on-and think about this; they are cheering on for that person to die, plus paying to watch it as well.)  Even television and magazine commercials advertising everything from trucks to headache remedies show climbers hanging precariously from steep mountain  precipices hundreds of feet in the air, secured only by a thin  rope.  It is reported that in 1989 some 50,000 people in the United States dared to take part in this sport; more recently an estimated half-million are drawn by its fatal attraction.  Worldwide the numbers are increasing.  Note: Well, you can't fix stupid! 

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction/Conclusion of Flirting With Death

From the Awake! magazine  

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

Running of the Bulls

"The crowd is four deep at Sixto's on Pamplona's  Calle Estafeta, and the noise level is a steady roar, " noted one report."  The talk is multilingual-Basque, Castilian, English." Crowds gather early to watch the event. Bulls kept for bullring fighting are housed in corrals only a half mile from the arena.

On the mornings of the fights, the corral gates  are thrown open, releasing six bulls, plus one in reserve, that will fight that night.  The street is lined with buildings, and barricades block entrance to side streets.  This makes a suitable passage way for the bulls' run to the arena, which will take them about two minutes if all goes well. 

Years ago men, defying disaster, decided to try their skills at outrunning bulls. Every years some still try it. Over time it has become an international event.  Many have been severely injured by the bulls, and others gored to death.  "If you think you can outrun them," said one runner, "you're making a big mistake."  In a 20-years period, according to the Spanish Red Cross, there was "an average of one goring injury each day." Another 20 to 25 people were also treated daily for injuries.

Why this fatal attraction?  Answered one runner:  "Those seconds when you're right up there with the bulls, pacing them, smelling them, hearing the clatter of hooves, and watching those horns go up and down a few inches away-that's what the [running] is all about."  The runners are spurred on by the cheering crowds.  Will some be disappointed if they do not witness a fatal goring or a runner being violently thrown over the shoulder of a 1,500-pound charging bull?  Could blood-shed hold the same attraction for some of them as it did for the crowds in Roman arenas?  

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?/Flirting with Death

From the Awake! magazine

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

The Main Event

The thrill-seeking crowds rise to their feet as human gladiators make their appearance in the arena, and amid great fanfare.  Some are armed with swords and shields and metal helmets or with daggers, and some are lightly armed and lightly clad.  They fight hand to hand, often to the death of one or both as the spectators cheer.  Records show that at one event 5000 animals were killed in 100 days. At another event 10,000 gladiators were slaughtered.  Still the public clamored for more. 

Criminals and prisoners of war provided a steady supply of manpower for the games.  However, states one source, "they should not be confused with the group  of the skilled gladiators who fought with weapons, who earned considerable fortunes, and who are under no life sentence." In some  places gladiators attended special schools to be taught the art of hand-to-hand combat.  Adrenaline flowing, they were caught up in the thrill of the sport and its fatal attraction.  The need to fight another day was a dominant passion.   "It was a very successful gladiator who completed a career of fifty fights before he retired," concludes one source. 

Bullfighting

In our time the world has entered a new millennium. But it is apparent that very little has dampened the passions of the many people who are captivated by living-on-the edge sports, especially those that are death defying.   For example, bullfighting has been a popular event in South American and Mexico for centuries. Today, it flourishes in Latin America, Portugal, and Spain. 

Reportedly there are about 200 arenas in Mexico and over 400 in Spain.   One arena in Mexico seats 50,000 people.  Many of these arenas are filled to capacity with people who come to watch men put their bravery against charging bulls. Any show of cowardice on the part of the bullfighter brings the displeasure of the jeering crowds.

Now female fighters have become matadors, earning millions of dollars for killing bulls.  One female matador interviewed on television declared that nothing  could satisfy her thrill-seeking passions like being in a bullring with a charging beast, the ever present threat of being gored to death notwithstanding.

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?'/Running of the Bulls 

From the Awake! magazine 

THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

IN THE ancient Roman arena, the excited crowds-50,000 strong-were on the edge of their seats.  Their anticipation had been building for days as widespread  advertising had proclaimed that the events to take place would provide  "spectacular thrills not to be missed." 

While magic shows, pantomimes, clowns,  and comedy still drew crowds in local theaters, the events in the arena were very different.  The discomfort of the hard seats and the cares of the day would soon be forgotten in the breathtaking thrills to be played out before the eyes of the spectators. 

Now came the singers, followed by the robed priest. Then incense bearers led a  succession of idols depicting gods and goddesses, carried aloft for all to see.  This gave the events the appearance of having divine blessing. 

Animals Slaughtered

Now the great entertainment features were about to begin.  First, ostriches and giraffes, which few in attendance had ever seen, were loosed in the arena with no way of escape.  Scores of skilled archers with bows and arrows slaughtered the helpless animals, down to the last one, to the joy of the thrill-seeking audience. 

The cheering crowds were next  treated to a life-and-death battle between two huge elephants whose tusks had been fitted with long, sharp iron spikes.  There is thunderous applause as one mighty animal falls to the blood-soaked sand mortally wounded.  This scene has only whetted the appetite of the spectators for the main event just minutes away.  

Next time: THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?/The Main Event

From the Awake! magazine 

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT -ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?

Conclusion of A New "City"

The apostle Paul, writing of his former prominent position in Judaism, speaks for them all:  "What things were gains to me, these I  have considered loss  on account of the Christ.  Why, for that matter, I do indeed also consider all things to be loss on account of the excelling value of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord." -Philippians 3:7, 8.

Since the apostle Paul had the greatest respect for God's Law and the temple arrangements, his words obviously do not imply that these divine arrangements were to be looked down on.  (Acts 21:20-24) Paul was simply showing that the Christian arrangement was superior to the Jewish system.

No doubt Paul and other Jewish Christians of the first century had specific knowledge of many fascinating details of the Jewish system of things.  And since archaeology opens windows to the past, some of those details can now be appreciated by Christians. Yet, note where Paul told the young man Timothy to focus  his main attention:  "Ponder  over these things [having to do with the Christian congregation]; be absorbed in them, that your advancement may be manifest to all persons." -1 Timothy 4:15. 

Commendably, Biblical archaeology has expanded our understanding of the background of the Bible.  Yet, Christians realize that their faith is dependent, not on evidence unearthed by men, but on God's Word, the Bible. -1 Thessalonians 2:13; 2 Timothy 3:16, 17. 

Next time:  THRILL SEEKERS Why the Fatal Attraction?

From the Awake! magazine 

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT-ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?

A New "City"

On Pentecost 33 C.E., the Jewish nation lost its favored position before God.  (Matthew 21:43) This made way for something much greater-a heavenly government that would bring blessings to all mankind.  (Matthew 10:7) True to Jesus' prophecy, Jerusalem with its temple was destroyed in 70 C.E.   Archaeology supports the Bible's record of such an event. Yet, for Christians, faith is  not dependent on whether ruins of that ancient temple have been found.  Their faith is centered on another Jerusalem, but this one is a different type of city.

In the year 96 C.E., the apostle John, who had heard Jesus' prophecy about the destruction of Jerusalem and its temple and had lived to see its fulfillment, was given the following vision:  "I saw also the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God." A voice from the throne said:   "He will reside  with [mankind], and they will be his peoples.  And God himself will be with them. And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore." -Revelation 21:2-4. 

This "city" is made up of faithful Christians who will serve as kings with Christ in heaven. Together they form the heavenly government-God's Kingdom-that will rule over the earth, bringing the human race back to perfection during the Millennium.  (Matthew 6:10; 2 Peter 3:13) The first-century Jewish Christians who were to be part of that group realized that nothing they had in the Jewish system of things could compare with the privilege of ruling with Christ in heaven. 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT - ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?/ Conclusion of A New "City" 

From the Awake! magazine 

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT- ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?

On the Jewish calendar date of Nisan 11,in the spring of 33 C.E., Jesus Christ, accompanied by some of his disciples, left the temple in Jerusalem for the last time. As they made their way to the Mount of Olives, one of the disciples said:  "Teacher, see! what sort of stones and what sort of buildings!" - Mark 13:1.

These faithful Jews felt a deep love for God and his temple.  They were proud of this magnificent complex of buildings and the 15 centuries of tradition they represented.   Jesus' reply to his disciple was shocking:  "Do you behold these great buildings? By no means will a stone be left here upon a stone and not be thrown down." -Mark 13:2. 

Now that the promised Messiah had arrived, how God allow the destruction of his own temple?  Only gradually,with the aid of holy spirit, would Jesus' disciples fully grasp what he meant.  What, though, do Jesus' words have to do with Biblical archaeology? 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT - ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?/A New "City"

From the Awake! magazine 

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT - ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?

In 1873 the English clergyman Samuel Manning wrote concerning Jerusalem:  "Drawn by an irresistible attraction, pilgrims flock hither from the very ends of the earth.  The crumbling wall, the squalid filthy streets, the mouldering ruins, are regarded with a profound and reverential interest by millions of mankind, such as no other spot on earth can excite." 


THE lure of the Holy Land has drawn people since at least the time of the Roman Emperor Constantine.   For some 1,500 years, pilgrims came and went, seeking a religious, personal contact with the Holy Land. Yet, surprisingly , it was not until the early 19th century that scholars began accompanying these pilgrims, thus opening the era of Biblical archaeology-the study of the artifacts, people, places and languages of the ancient Holy Land. 

The findings of archaeologists have resulted in an increased understanding of many aspects of the Bible times.  Also, the archaeological record has often harmonized with  Bible history. But is such knowledge necessary to a Christian faith?  To answer, let us focus our attention on the site of many archaeological digs-the city of Jerusalem and its temple.  

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT-ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?/'A Stone Will Not Be Left Upon a Stone'

From the Awake! magazine 

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES CAN SUCCEED -Conclusion of A Lone Parent, but Not Alone

Success Stories

Are these principles effective? Yes, as can be seen from numerous success stories of single parents.  Gloria, a divorced  single  working mother in England, who was mentioned in the first article, raised two sons and a daughter.  All three of them grew up to become full-time Christian ministers, devoting their lives  to promoting  Bible education.  When asked how she managed, Gloria explained:  "The first challenge was to keep up a regular, interesting family Bible study.  I wanted the children to be happy, to have peace of mind, to be content, and to be protected from pitfalls. I found a job working nights. My aim was to have the children with me whenever I could. Before I went to work, we had a family prayer and I put them to bed.  My aunt stayed in the house while I was at work." 

How did Gloria help her children set the right priorities?  She continues:  "My greatest aim was to put spiritual things first. We didn't have much money, and I was very open about this with the children. Whatever I asked them to do, I do myself, and they were all cooperative."  Reminiscing about how she kept a close-knit family, Gloria says:  "The secret was  doing things together. Nobody went off to his or her own room.  We cooked, cleaned, decorated together.  We balanced our activities.  I always made sure there was recreation too."

Carolyn, a single  mother of a young boy named Joseph, is pleased with the way he is growing up.  What is her secret?  "We read the Bible together at bedtime," she says,  "and then I ask him questions about what he has learned.  Additionally, we consider selected paragraphs from Bible-based publications and apply them personally.  This helps Joseph when he faces problems, such as bullying at school."  Carolyn admits that her life is my no means easy, but she does not feel that she is alone. She observes:  "It is a constant struggle, but I feel that Jehovah has really helped me.  I also receive a lot of encouragement from the Christian congregation." 

The success stories of thousands of single parents, such as Gloria and Carolyn, proves that parents today can rely on the time-tested principles of the Bible to raise fine,spiritually strong  children.  (Proverbs 22:6)  Success is possible!  Single parenting provides many challenges that are opportunities for growth and sharing. Relying fully on God and being convinced that he will provide help  is the best way to cope with the demands of single parenthood. -Psalm 121:3. 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT-ARCHAEOLOGY NECESSARY FOR FAITH?

From the Awake! magazine 

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES CAN SUCCEED - Continue with: A Lone Parent, but Not Alone

Sound home management.  Successful single parents strive to be well organized and work hard to  coordinate schedules.  Proper planning and organization are essential.  The Bible says:  "The plans of the diligent one surely makes for advantage." -Proverbs 21:5. 

Commitment.  Successful single parents make family life one of their first priorities.  The focus on putting the needs of their children ahead of their own. -1 Timothy 5:8. 

A balanced approach. Successful single parents neither minimize nor exaggerate problems; they seek solutions. They accept the difficulties and try to cope with them without self-pity or bitterness.

Good communication.  Successful single parents foster communication. They encourage clear and open expression of thoughts and feelings in the family.  Says a single father about his children: "I talk to them at every opportunity. We have 'cozy moments' when we prepare dinner. It is then that they really confide in me."

Caring for Oneself.  Despite the demands on their time, successful single parents recognize that caring for their own spiritual, emotional, and physical needs is important. Ethel,  a divorced single mother of two, explained:  "I try to save some time for myself.   For example, when a friend gives the children music lessons, that gives me an hour to myself. I sit down and leave the TV off." 

A positive attitude.  Successful single parents maintain a positive outlook toward parenting and life in general.  They see positive aspects in stressful situations.  One single mother states:   "I've come to realize that being a single parent is not all negative." 

Next time: SINGLE PARENT FAMILIES CAN SUCCEED -Conclusion of  A Lone Parent, but Not Alone/Success Stories

From the Awake! magazine 

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES CAN SUCCEED - A Lone Parent, but Not Alone

"When my children come home and give me a hug and tell me that they love me, that's the best part of being a mother." -DORIS, A SINGLE MOTHER OF TWO. 

SINGLE parents can find reassurance in the Bible statement:  "Children are a blessing and a gift from the LORD." (Psalm 127:3, Contemporary English Version)  When children are raised  in a single-parent family, they are no less precious in God's eyes.   Our Creator desires to see the single-parent families succeed.  The Bible says of him:  "The fatherless boy and the widow he relives." (Psalm 146:9)  (Note: Our Creator would prefer for the child to have two parents because that is how God planned it to be; but there are rare exceptions.)  Single parents can be certain that God is ready to support them. 

  A child is entitled to be raised in  loving, safe, and secure environment that will allow him to develop physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  It is each parent's duty and privilege to be used by God to train a child. Many single parents have found that success requires diligent prayer, consistent application of Bible principles, and complete reliance on Jehovah.  This is in line with the exhortation found at Psalm 55:22: "Throw your burden upon the Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you."

From time to time, grandparents, local elders, and experienced parents in the Christian congregation may be available to assist a single-parent family to manage trying situations.  True, family members and fellow worshipers can offer  much to support the efforts  of single parents, but the ultimate God-given responsibility rests with the child's parents.  Happily, many single parents have managed  successfully to handle the unique challenges of their situation and raise responsible , well-behaved, God-fearing children.  Awake! spoke with a number  of them.  Here are some of the things such parents have in common.  

Next time: SINGLE PARENT FAMILIES  CAN SUCCEED -A Lone Parent, but Not Alone/Sound home management

From the Awake! magazine 

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES CAN SUCCEED-Single Parents, Multiple Challenges

Children's Cooperation Essential

Children living in single-parent families also need to understand that their cooperation is essential to the success of the family.  (Ephesians 6:1-3)  Their obedience to parental authority shows that they love their parent and respect the added effort that the parents makes to provide a safe and happy household.   Since communication is a two-way street, children in a single parent family need to remember that they must be willing to support the parent's efforts to maintain good communication in the family. -Proverbs 1:8; 4:1-4. 

Such children are often required  to assume responsibilities quicker than those who live in two-parent households. With loving and patient instruction, boy and girls will gain self-confidence and a sense of self-worth as they master life skills at an early age. Also, some chores  may be delegated to children so they can assist in the orderly management of the household.

This does not mean that the objective of the single parent is to make her children into little, self-sufficient adults who have no need of parental direction. Certainly, it is most unwise to leave a young child alone or unsupervised. 

Single parents are often mistakenly drawn into thinking  that they must be buddies or chums with their children. While a close relationship is necessary, single parents should keep in mind that children need a parent and that a child is not emotionally mature enough to be the parent's confidant or peer. Your children need you to act like a parent. 

Single parents and children cooperating together  in a loving relationship can contribute  to a successful family.  As more and more children are being raised  in  single-parent households, everyone should be aware of the particular challenges facing single parents and their children and be willing to offer loving encouragement and support. 

Next time: SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES  CAN SUCCEED-A Lone Parent, but Not Alone

From the Awake! magazine