Prevention in the Home - A Loving Family Head

 

Researchers find that abuse is more common among families with domineering husbands.  The widely held view that women exist merely to to fulfill male needs is Scripturally wrong.  Some men use this unchristian opinion to justify turning to a daughter for anything they cannot get from a  wife.  This type of oppression can cause women in these circumstances to lose their emotional balance.  Many lose even the natural urge to protect their children.  (Compare Ecclesiastes 7:7.) One study, on the other hand, found that when workaholic fathers were largely absent from the home setting, sometimes mother-son-sexual abuse  has festered. 

What about your family?  Do you as husband take the role of head seriously, or do you abdicated to your wife? (1 Corinthians 11:3)  Do you treat your wife with love, honor, and respect? (Ephesians 5:25; 1 Peter 3:7)  Do her views count?  (Genesis21:12; Proverbs 31:26, 28)  And what about your children? Do you see them as precious? (Psalm 127:3) Or do you view them as mere burdens, really exploitable? (Compare 2 Corinthians 12:14) Eliminate warped unscriptural views of family roles in your household, and you will make it more resistant to abuse. 

Note: They mean that women should not be abused, treated unfairly, but to view her as they said above. The daughter is not to be abused, or mistreated either. The wife should be  in a way subservient to her husband-not treated as a slave or abused and when sex is mentioned, it should be agreed upon between the two of you. If it is not agreed upon, then you respect her wishes as she should yours. This way it is also showing respect to Jehovah.  But that does not mean that either of you when not agreeing on sex that particular time, that either one of you should go elsewhere for  it.  And the wife, should not sexually abuse children in any way.  Respect should abound with all of the family. 

Next time: Prevention in the Home - An Emotionally Safe Place

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