Should Parents Teach Their Children About Sex?

Many parents go to great lengths to protect their children from contracting harmful diseases. Parents need to invest similar effort into protecting their children from harmful moral attitudes. One way they can do so is by means of balanced sex education.  (Proverbs 5:3-23) Such parental training and moral guidance is essential because children are increasingly being exposed to graphic sexual material on TV and the Internet, in books and in comics. 

"The problem today isn't that our kids are learning about sex," explains Professor of education and author, Diane Levin.  "The problem is what they are learning , the age at which they're learning it, and who is teaching them. Children get  a very powerful and damaging kind of sex education from marketers and the popular culture."

Parents need to protect their children from the distorted and immoral views that are corroding society.  (Proverbs 5:1; Ephesians 6:4) Young children need to know how their bodies  work, how to care for themselves physically and how to protect themselves from immoral people. Before puberty-the age at which signs of sexual maturing begin to appear-a daughter needs to know about the changes  that will occur in her body and to understand why and how menstruation takes place.  Similarly, a boy should know in advance about nocturnal emission, or wet dreams. When children are little, parents can start teaching them the correct names for body parts. Loving parents teach their children three key lessons about these body parts.  (1) They are special and private. (2) they are not to be discussed in a bad way. (3) They are generally not to be touched by or exposed to others. As children grow older, parent  need to discern when to explain how a woman becomes pregnant.

When should parents start such instruction?  Earlier than many realize.  A girl might first menstruate at the age of 10 or even earlier. A boy might have his first nocturnal emission  as early as the age of 11 or 12. These life-altering events can be very disturbing if children do not understand  what is happening. Children need to be reassured ahead of time that there is nothing wrong  with such natural developments in their bodies. This is also the time to help them understand the value and importance of following the Bible's moral standards-something that most secular sex-education programs fail to provide. -Proverbs 6:27-35. 

Next time: When  a Loved One Dies -How Can You Cope?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Fulfilling Our Obligation to God

HAVE you ever wondered, 'What is the purpose of life?'  Jehovah endowed us with not only the capacity to ask such a question but also the deep, inner need to know the answer. Thankfully, our loving God has not left us in the dark.  The answer we yearn for is in his Word, the Bible.  Consider the words of King Solomon found at Ecclesiastes 12:13.

Solomon was in a unique position. He could well comment on hos to find happiness and meaning in life. Blessed with extraordinary wisdom, enormous wealth, and kingly authority, he was able to make a careful search  of human pursuits, including the quest for riches and prominence.  (Ecclesiastes 2:4-9; 4:4) Then under divine inspiration, he summed up his findings, saying:  "The conclusion of the matter everything having been heard, is: fear the true God and keep his commandments. For this is the whole obligation of man.  "Those words outline the most rewarding and noble human endeavor.  

"Fear the true God." The idea of fearing God might not seem appealing at first. But this fear is a healthy disposition of heart. We might think not of a slave who  is terrified of enraging a harsh master but of a child who is eager to please a loving father. One reference work says that  fear of God is the "attitude of reverence and aw that His people show to Him because they love Him and respect His power and His greatness."  Such an attitude moves us to submit  to God's will because we love him and we know that he loves us. This wholesome fear is not just a feeling, it is manifested by actions. How so? 

"Keep his commandments."  Fear of God moves us to obey him. It makes sense to give Jehovah our obedience. As our Maker, he knows the best way for us to live, just as a manufacturer knows the best way to use his product. In addition, Jehovah has our best interests at heart. He want us to be happy, and his requirements are designed  to promote our well-being.  (Isaiah 48:17) The apostle John put it this way:  "This is what the love of God means, that we observe his commandments; and yet his commandments are not burdensome." (1 John 5:3) Our obedience demonstrates our love for God, and his commandments reflect his love for us.

"This is the whole obligation of man."   These words highlight an important reason to fear God and obey him. Doing so is  our obligation, our duty. Jehovah is our Creator, so we owe our very life to him.  (Psalm 36:9)  We also owe him our obedience . when we live as he wants us to life, we are fulfilling our obligation. 

What, then, is the purpose of life? Put simply, it is this: We are here to do God's will. There is no better way to fill your life with meaning. Why not find out more about Jehovah's will and how you can bring your life into harmony with it?  Jehovah's Witnesses would be pleased to assist you. 

Next time: Should Parents Teach Their Children About Sex? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Conclusion of How Can Fathers Stay Close to Their Sons? -Build His Self-Confidence

"Look, Daddy, look!"  Did your little boy shout something like that to you when he mastered a new skill?  If he is now a teenager, does he still seek your approval so openly?  Maybe not. But he definitely  needs it if he is to grow into a well-balanced adult.

Note the example that Jehovah God himself set in dealing with one of his sons. When Jesus was about to begin a special phase of his life on earth, God publicly expressed his affection for him, saying:  "This is my Son, the beloved, whom I have approved." (Matthew 3:17; 5:48) True, you have an obligation to discipline and teach your son.  (Ephesians 6:4) But do you also look for opportunities to express approval for the good things he says and does?

Some men find it a challenge to express approval and affection. They may have grown  up in families where their parents emphasized mistakes rather than achievements. If that is true in your case, you will need to make a conscious effort to build your son's self-confidence. How could you do so?  Luca, quoted earlier, regularly works with his 15-year-old son, Manuel, as they do household chores.  "Sometimes," says Luca, "I tell Manuel to start a task by himself and that I will help him if he needs me. Most of the time, he manages the job on his own. His successes give him satisfaction and boosts his self-confidence. When he succeeds, I commend him. When he doesn't do as well as he hoped, I still let him know that I appreciate his effort."

You can also boost your son's self-confidence by helping him reach larger goals in life.  (Note: A daughter also needs her father to build her self-confidence, not just her mother)  What, though, if your son reaches goals more slowly than you wish? Or what if his goals, though not bad, are different from ones that you would choose for him?  In that case, you may need to reassess your expectations. Jacques, quoted earlier, says:  "I try to help my son set achievable goals.  But I also  try to make sure that they are his goals, not mine. Then I remind myself that he need to work toward  his objectives at his own pace." If you listen to your son's opinions, commend his strengths, and encourage him to overcome his failures, you will help him to reach his goals.

Realistically, your relationship will have its strains and challenges. But in the long run, your son will likely want to remain close to you. After all, who does not want to stay close to someone who helps him succeed?

Next time: Fulfilling Our Obligation to God

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Continue with How Can Fathers Stay Close to Their Sons - Pursue Common Interests

Some teenage sons may seem indifferent to a father's attempts to communicate with them. If you son appears to be evading your questions, do not conclude that  he is closed to any  conversation. He may be more willing to open up if you adapt the way you communicate with him. 

Jacques, a father who lives in France, sometimes found  it difficult to communicate with his son, Jerome. But instead of forcing his son to talk, he adapted his approach-he played soccer with him.  "After our physical exercise," says Jacques, "we use to sit on the grass and rest  a bit.  My son often opened  his heart at that time.  The simple fact that we were together and, I think , that he had me to himself during these times, created a special bond between us." 

What if your son does not like sports?  Andre' fondly remembers the hours he spent gazing at the stars with his son.  "We would set up deck chairs in the cold night air," says Andre'.  "Then we would wrap ourselves up warmly and, with a cup of tea in hand, observe the night sky. We talked about the One who created the stars. We talked about personal matters. We talked about almost everything." -Isaiah 40:25, 26.

What if you do not like to do some of the things that interest your son?  In that case, you may have to forgo personal preferences.  (Philippians 2:4) "I was far more interested in sports than my son Vaughan was," says Ian, who lives in South Africa.  "He liked airplanes and computers.  So I made those things my interest too, taking him to air shows and playing with a flight simulator on the computer. I feel that because we shared enjoyable activities together, Vaughan was able to speak more freely with me." 

Next time: Conclusion of Build His Self-Confidence

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011 

Continue with How Can Father Stay Close to Their Sons?

3. LACK OF BALANCED ADVICE:  Some cultures downplay the father's role in raising children.  "Where I grew up," says Luca, who  was raised in a Western European land,  "people felt that looking after their children was  wife's job."  In other cultures, fathers are encouraged to be strict disciplinarians  but little else. George, for example, was brought up in an African country. He says:  "In my cultured, fathers do not play together with their children for fear that this will lessen the Father's authority. So i have always had trouble just enjoying the company of my son."

TO THINK ABOUT:  In your community, what role are fathers expected to play?  Are they taught to view child rearing as women's work?  Are fathers encouraged to express love and affection for their sons, or are such ideas frowned upon? 

If you are a father who faces one or more  of these challenges, how can you succeed?  Consider the following suggestions. 

Start While Your Son Is Young

Sons seem to be born with a desire to imitate their father. So while your son is young, harness that desire. How can you do so?And when can you find time to spend with him? 

Whenever possible, include your son in your daily activities.  For example, if you are doing chores, have him help; you. Give your boy a small broom or a tiny spade. No doubt he will be delighted to work by the side of his hero and role model, his dad! It may take you a little longer to finish the chore; but you will strengthen the bond between you , and you  will be teaching him a good worth ethic.  Long ago, the Bible encouraged fathers to include their children in their daily activities and to use those occasions to communicate with them and to teach them.  (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)  Such advice is still sound.

In addition to working  with your boy, make time to play together with him.  Play does much more than provide and opportunity to have fun together. Research shows that when fathers play with their young children, they encourage them  to be more adventurous and bold. 

Play between a father and son serves an even more  important function.  "It is through play," says researcher Michel Fize,  "that a boy communicates best with his father."  During playtime, a father can express affection for his son by both words and actions. In doing so, he teaches his son how to express affection too.   "When my son was child," says  Andre', a father who lives in Germany,  "we often played together. I hugged him, and he learned to return my love." 

Bedtime is another occasion when a father can strengthen  the bonds of love with his son. Regularly read him a story, and listen to him express his joys and concerns about the day. If you do, you will make it easier for him to continue communicating with you as he grows older. 

Next time: Continue to Pursue Common Interests

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

How Can Fathers Stay Close to Their Sons?

"DADDY, how do you know so much?" Has your boy ever taken you by surprise with such a question?  At the time, you probably felt proud of being a father.  But if your son went a step further-if he applied your wise counsel and reaped the benefit-your heart no doubt glowed with even greater joy. -Proverbs 23:15, 24.

Over the years, however, has your son's admiration for you remained unbounded?  Or does it seem that as he grows, his regard for you shrinks?  How can you stay close to your son as he develops from a boy into a man? First, let us consider some of the challenges fathers face. 

Three Common Challenges

1. LACK OF TIME: In many countries, fathers earn most of the income  for the family.Often, their job requires that they be away from home for  most of the day. In some places, fathers spend remarkably little time with their children. A recent survey in France, for example, found that fathers there spend on average less than 12 minutes a day caring for their children. 

TO THINK ABOUT: How much time do you spend with your son?  Over the next week or two, why not write down the total amount of time that you interact  with him each day?  The results may surprise you.

2. LACK OF A GOOD EXAMPLE: Some men have had little to do with their own father.  "I lacked contact with my father," says Jean-Marie, who lives in France. How has Jean-Marie been affected?  "It has created problems that I never imagined," he says.  "For instance, I find it difficult  to engage my own sons in meaningful conversations."  In other cases, men know their father very well, but the relationship between Father and son is damaged.  Philippe, 43, says: "My father found it difficult to express affection for me. As  a result, I have to work hard at being more affectionate with my son. 

TO THINK ABOUT: Do you feel that the relationship  you have with your own father affects the way you treat your son?  Have you noticed yourself following your father's good or bad habits?  How so? 

Next time: Continue with How Can Father Stay Close to Their Sons

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

LEARN FROM GOD'S WORD-How Do God's Laws Benefit us?

1. Why should we obey God? 

      It is only right to obey God-he created us. Even Jesus always obeyed God.  (John 6:38; Revelation 4:11)  God's laws give us a way to prove that we love him. -Read 1 John 5:3. 

      All of Jehovah God's laws are good for us. They teach us the best way of live now and show  how we can give everlasting rewards in the future. -Read Psalm 19:7, 11; Isaiah 48:17, 18. 

2. How do God's laws benefit our health?

      God's laws against drunkenness protects us from deadly disease and accidents. Over drinking is addictive  and leads to foolish conduct.  (Proverbs 23:20, 29, 30)  Jehovah  allows us to drink alcohol but only in moderation.  Read Psalm 104:15; 1 Corinthians 6:10. 

    Jehovah also warns us against jealously, uncontrolled anger, and other destructive attitudes. To the extent that we apply his advice, our health will benefit. -Read Proverbs 14:30; 22:24, 25. 

3. How can God's law protect us?

     God's law forbids sex outside of marriage.  (Hebrews 13:4) Couples who obey this law feel more secure and create a better environment for their children. On the other hand, sex outside of marriage often results in disease, divorce,violence, emotional trauma, and one-parent families. -Read Proverbs 5:1-9.

      By avoiding situations that tempt us to have sex outside of marriage, we protect our friendship with God.  We also avoid harming others. -Read 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6.

4. How does respect for life benefit us? 

      People who respect God's gift of life enjoy health benefits when they drop such habits as smoking and other life-threatening addictions.  (2 Corinthians  7:1) God treasures even the life of a baby developing in the womb.  (Exodus 21:22, 23) So we should not deliberately kill an unborn child. Also, those who appreciate God's view of life take safety precautions at work, at home, and in a car.  (Deuteronomy 22:8) In addition, they do not risk their life for sport, because life is a gift from God. -Read Psalm 36:9. 

5. How does the sacredness of blood benefit us?

      Blood is sacred because God says that it represents the life, or soul, of a creature. (Genesis 9:3, 4) God's law, which equates the value of blood with that of life, benefits us. How?  It makes possible the forgiveness of sins. -Read Leviticus 17:11-13; Hebrews 9:22. 
  
    Jesus' blood was especially precious because he was perfect. Jesus presented to God something that represented his life-his blood.  (Hebrews 9:12) His shed blood makes everlasting life possible for us. -Read Matthew 26:28; John 3:16. 

Next time:How Can Fathers Stay Close to Their Sons? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011  

KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS - Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple

CHALLENGE 2: We have different abilities. 
"I have never been one to sit down and read a book," says Tony. His wife, Natalie says:  "I love to read, and I love to talk about what I've learned. Sometimes I think Tony is a bit intimidated by me when we discuss Bible-based material."

A possible solution:  Be supportive, not competitive or judgmental. Complement and encourage your mate's strengths.  "My wife's enthusiasm for discussing Bible topics can be a little overwhelming at times," says Tony, "and in the past i was reluctant to discuss spiritual subjects with her.  However, Natalie  is very supportive. Now we regularly discuss spiritual matters together, and I've discovered that there is nothing to be afraid of. I enjoy talking about these topics with her. It has helped us become more relaxed and at peace as a couple."  

Many couples have found that their marriage improves when they set aside a regular time each week to read and study the Bible together. A word of caution, though: Apply any points of counsel to yourself, not to your mate.  (Galatians 6:4) Discuss contentious marital issues at another time, not during your study sessions. Why not? 

Consider this: If you were eating a meal with your family, would you choose that time to dress a festering wound?  Not likely. You would ruin everyone's appetite. Jesus compared learning about and doing God's will to eating food. (Matthew 4":4; John 4:34) If you talk about emotional wounds each time you open the Bible, you could cause your mate to lose his or her spiritual appetite. Certainly, you need to discuss problems. But deal with those matters at a time set aside for that purpose. -Proverbs 10:19; 15:23. 

TRY THIS: Write down two or three qualities of your mate that you appreciate most. When you next discuss spiritual matters related to those qualities, tell your mate how much you appreciate the way he or she displays them. 

You Reap What You Sow 

If you sow, or cultivate, spirituality as a couple, you will eventually reap  a more peaceful and rewarding marriage. In fact, God's Word guarantees that "whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap." -Galatians 6:7.

Frederick and Leanne, quoted at the beginning of this article, learned the truth of that Bible principle. They have now been married for 45 years and know that perseverance pays off.  "I use to blame my wife for the lack of communication," says Frederick.   "However, in time, I realized that I had to make an effort too."  Leanne says:  "What really helped us through the difficult times was our mutual love of Jehovah God. Throughout the years, we have regularly studied and prayed together. As I see Frederick making an effort to improve in showing Christian qualities, it makes it easier for me to love him."

Next time: LEARN FROM GOD'S WORD-How Do God's Laws Benefit Us?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS-Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple - CHALLENGE 1

CHALLENGE 1: We can't find the time.

"My husband picks me up from work at 7:00 p.km.," says Sue, who has been married a short time.  "When we get home, all the chores are waiting for us. It's a struggle between mind and body; our minds tell us that we need to spend time learning about God together, but our bodies crave some rest."

A possible solution: Be adaptable and cooperative.  Sue says: "My husband and I decided to get up early and read and discuss a portion of the Bible together before going to work.  He also helps me with some of the chores so that I have time to spend with him."  What benefits come from making this extra effort?  Sue's husband, Ed, says:"I've found that when Sue and I regularly discuss spiritual matters together, we cope more effectively with the problems we face and we manage our anxieties better."

In addition to talking to each other, it is vital that you spend a few minutes each day praying together. How may that help?  "A little while ago," says Ryan, who has been married for 16 years, "my wife and I went through a very difficult time in our relationship.  But we made time to pray together each night, expressing our concerns to God. I feel that praying together helped us to resolve our problems and to regain joy in our marriage."

TRY THIS: Set aside just a  few minutes at the end of each day to discuss any good things that happened to you as a couple, things you can thank God for. Also talk about challenges you face, ones that you especially need God's help to cope with. Caution:  DO not use this as an opportunity to list your mate's faults. Instead, when you pray together, mention only those issues that you need to work on together. The next day, act in harmony with the requests you made in the prayer. 

Next time: Conclusion of KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS-Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple -CHALLENGE 2

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS-Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple

Why Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple?

Why, then, should marriage mates strive to cultivate spirituality as a couple? Consider this illustration: Two gardeners jointly own a garden plot and want to grow vegetables. One decides to plant seeds at a certain time of year, whereas the other  thinks that the seed should be planted later.  One wants to use a particular type of fertilizer, but the other disagrees strongly and feels that the plants  do not need any help. One wants to toil in the garden each day. The other is happy  to sit back and watch, rather than work. In such a scenario, the garden may yield  some results, but it will not produce  as much as it would have if both gardeners had agreed on what to do and then worked together to achieve those goals.

A husband and wife are like those gardeners. If just one partner cultivates spirituality, the relationship might improve. (1 Peter 3:1, 2) Yet, how much better it is when both partners agree to support each other as they serve God!   "Two are better than one," wrote wise King Solomon.  Why? "Because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them should fall, the other one can raise his partner up." -Ecclesiastes  4:9, 10. 

You likely yearn to cultivate spirituality with your marriage mate. But just  as with gardening, desire alone will not yield results. Consider two challenges  you may face and how you might overcome them. 

Next time: KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS -Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple; Challenge 1

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS-Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple

What is Spirituality?

The word "spirituality" as used in the Bible refers to an  attitude or an approach to life.  (Jude 18, 19) The Bible writer Paul, for example, highlights the difference in attitude between a spiritual person and one who is fleshly. Those with fleshly tendencies, Paul indicates, focus more on themselves than on others. They do what is right in their own eyes, rather than trying to live up to God's standards. -1 Corinthians 2;14; Galatians 5:19, 20.  

By contrast, those with a spiritual attitude value God's standards.  They view Jehovah God as their Friend and endeavor to imitate his personality.  (Ephesians 5:1) Thus, they are loving, kind, and mild when dealing with others.  (Exodus 34:6) And they obey God even when it is inconvenient for them to do so.  (Psalm 15:1, 4) "The way I understand it," says Daren, who lives in Canada and has been married for 35 years,  "a spiritual person always thinks about how his speech and actions will affect his friendship with God."  His wife, Jane, adds: "I think that a spiritual woman is one  who works hard each day to make the fruitage of God's spirit  part of her personality." -Galatians 5:22, 23. 

Of course, a person does not have to be married to develop a spiritual attitude. In fact, the Bible teaches that each individual  has the responsibility to learn about God and imitate him. -Acts 17:26, 27. 

Next time: Why Cultivate Spirituality as  a Couple? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS

Cultivate Spirituality as a Couple

Frederick:  When we were first married, I insisted that my wife and I study the Bible together. I was determined that she concentrate during our study sessions.  But Leanne just could not seem to sit still. And when I asked questions, she gave only yes or no answers. Her responses did not fit with how I felt a Bible study should be conducted." 

Leanne: "  I was 18 years when I married Frederick. We studied the Bible together regularly, but Frederick used each session as an opportunity to point out all my faults and the ways I needed to improve as  wife. I became so discouraged and hurt!" 


WHAT, do you think, was the problem with Frederick and Leanne's relationship?  They both loved God. And they both saw the need to study the Bible together.  But the very thing that could have helped to unite them seemed to have the opposite effect.  They may have been studying together, but they were not cultivating spirituality as a couple.

What is spirituality?  Why should married couples strive to cultivate it?  What challenges might they face, and how can they overcome them? 

Next time: What Is Spirituality?

Conclusion of HOW THE BIBLE CHANGES LIVES

How I HAVE BENEFITED: My mother was overjoyed when she saw me start to live by Bible principles. Now she no longer worries about what bad things i might be up to. We talk about the common bond we have-our love for Jehovah. At times, I look back at what I used to be like and can't believe the changes that I've been able to make with God's help. I no longer crave the immoral materialistic lifestyle i used to lead. 

If I hadn't responded to the Bible's message,I would be either dead or in prison today. Now, though, I have a wonderful, happy family. It gives me great joy to serve Jehovah God along with my supportive  wife and obedient daughter. I am thankful to Jehovah for allowing me to be a part of a loving Christian brotherhood. I am so grateful that someone made the effort to teach me Bible truth. And I value the opportunities I have to help others learn what the Bible teaches. I am especially grateful to Jehovah God for his loving kindness in drawing me to him.

Next time: KEYS TO FAMILY HAPPINESS 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Continue with THE BIBLE CHANGES LIVES

HOW THE BIBLE CHANGED MY LIFE: During this troubled  period of my life, my mother studied the Bible and became one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I saw positive changes in her personality and became curious. I decided  to find out what made my mother change, so I began discussing the Bible  with the Witnesses.

I found that the teachings of Jehovah's Witnesses were different from those of other religions and discovered that the Witnesses backed up everything  they said with the Bible.  They were the only group I knew of who preached from house to house, as the early Christians did.  (Matthew 28:19; Acts 20:20)  I became convinced that  I had found the true religion when I saw the genuine love they displayed for one another. -John 13:35. 

From what I learned from the Bible, I saw the need to make some changes in my life. I discovered that Jehovah God hates fornication and that if I was to please him, I would have to give practices  that defiled my body.  (2 Corinthians 7:1; Hebrews 13:4) I was moved  when I learned  that Jehovah has  feelings that my actions could either hurt him or make him happy.  (Proverbs 27:11) So I resolved to quit smoking marijuana, to give up my guns, and to try to improve my personality. Among the most difficult changes I made were giving up my immoral lifestyle and quitting my gambling. 

At first, I did not want my friends to know that I was studying the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses. But a turning point came after I read Matthew 10:33, where these words of Jesus are recorded:  "Whoever disowns me before men, I will also disown him before my Father who is in the heavens."  That statement prompted me to tell my associates that I was studying with the Jehovah's Witnesses.  They were shocked.  They couldn't believe that someone like me wanted to become a Christian. But I told them that I did not want anything more to do with my former lifestyle.  

Next time: Conclusion of HOW THE BIBLE CHANGES LIVES

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

THE BIBLE CHANGES LIVES

WHAT motivated a gambler and a burglar to break his addiction and change his lifestyle?  Read what he has to say.

"I was passionate about racehorses." -RICHARD STEWART


MY PAST: I grew up in a poor, densely populated area of Kingston, the capital of Jamaica. Unemployment was high, and crime wide-spread. Gangs kept people living in fear. I heard gunshots almost every day. 

My hardworking mother gave her all for me and my younger brother and sister. She made sure that we received a good education. I had little interest in school, but I was passionate about racehorses. I would skip school and go to the racetrack. I even rode the horses.

Soon I became heavily involved with gambling on horse races. I led an immoral life, becoming a serious womanizer.I smoked marijuana and committed robberies to pay for my lifestyle. I owned many guns, but I am thankful now that nobody was killed as result of the countless robberies in which I took part.

Eventually, I was caught by the police and sent to prison for my crimes. After my release, I merely picked up my lifestyle where I had left off. In fact, I became worse than before. Although I had an innocent-looking face, I was strong-willed, irritable, and cruel. I cared for no one but myself. 

Next time: Continue with THE BIBLE CHANGES LIVES -HOW THE BIBLE CHANGED MY LIFE 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Conclusion of WHY LIVE BY Bible Standards -"I Quickly Felt Relief"

Sarah discovered that her unrestrained lifestyle did not bring her the freedom and satisfaction for which she yearned>  "I felt that my conscience had become seared," she says.  "I was ashamed and worried that I might become pregnant or pick up a horrible disease. I never lost my belief that God existed, and I knew that my course of life had hurt him. I felt unclean, and it ate away at me." 

Eventually, Sarah found the strength to change her lifestyle.  She sought the help of her parents, who are Jehovah's Witnesses. She also asked for help from qualified Christian elders in the local congregation.  "I was pleasantly surprised by the warmth and love of my parents and the congregation elders," Sarah says.  "I quickly felt relief." 

Now Sarah is raising two children of her own.  "I openly tell my children," says Sarah, "about the choices I made. I want them to understand how disregarding God's standards affected me.  My goal is to help them appreciate the physical, mental, and emotional benefits  of living by God's standards regarding sex. I am convinced that God gives us moral standards because he does not want to see us get hurt. 

You too can experience the benefits of following God's loving guidance.  The Bible makes this promise: "The orders from Jehovah are upright, causing the heart to rejoice;  the commandment of Jehovah is clean, making the eyes shine. . . .In the keeping of them there is a large reward." -Psalm 19:8, 11. 

Next time: The Bible Changes Lives

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

WHY LIVE BY Bible Standards?

IS the Bible's view regarding sex old-fashioned and needlessly restrictive? No. On the contrary, the Bible's view of sex can help us avoid:

*Sexually transmitted diseases

*Out-of-wedlock pregnancies

* The painful consequences of broken marriages

* A guilty conscience

*The degradation of being used by others

Our Creator, Jehovah God, wants us to enjoy and benefit from the use of his gifts. God is "the One teaching you to benefit yourself." (Isaiah 48:17) A person who lives by the Bible's guidelines on sex gains: 

*God's approval

*Peace of mind

*Stronger family relationships

*A good reputation

*Self-respect

What, though, if you are not currently living by the Bible's moral standards?  Is it possible for you to change your lifestyle?  Will God hold your past against you?

Consider this fact:  Some who made up  the first-century Christian congregation were formerly fornicators, adulterers, and homosexuals. The chose to change their lifestyle, and they reaped great benefits.  (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) Today, thousands of individuals throughout  the world have made a similar choice.  They have freed themselves  from a promiscuous lifestyle and have experienced  the benefits of bringing their  conduct into harmony with the Bible's standards. Note, for example, the experience of Sarah, mentioned in the opening article.

Next time: WHY LIVE BY Bible Standards? -"I Quickly Felt Relief"

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Conclusion of TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered

8. Does God approve of homosexuality? 

Answer: The Bible clearly condemns fornication, which includes homosexual relations. (Romans  1:21-32; Galatians  5:19-21)   (Note: Also the Bible condemns it because it is not natural and that only men and women are meant to have that kind of a relationship. )  While the Bible is definite about God's disapproval of that lifestyle, we also know that "God loved the world so much that he gave his only begotten Son, in order that everyone exercising faith in him might not be destroyed but have everlasting life." - John 3:16. 

(Note: That is if the homosexuals change their sexual preferences for the natural male and female relationship, because if you read these verses, it will say that this unnatural relationship is something that Jehovah detests. But they won't say that for fear of offending anyone. I am not trying to offend anyone, that is what God's Word says in the Bible)

Even though they do not condone homosexual relations, true Christians show kindness to all people. -  Matthew 7:12.

9. Is there anything wrong with phone sex, "sexting," of cybersex? 

Answer:  Phone sex involves talking inappropriately about sex or listening to explicit erotic messages on the phone.  "Sexting" is a term that refers to using cell phones to send erotic messages  to others. Cybersex involves erotic interaction on the Internet.
The Bible does not specifically discuss modern practices such as these; (except for the fact, it is considered pornography in God's eyes and it is also a detestable thing with him.) The Bible also says:  "Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as it befits holy people; neither shameful conduct nor foolish talking, nor obscene jesting, things which are not becoming." (Ephesians 5:3, 4) Such things as phone sex, "sexting," and cybersex promote a distorted view  of sex and encourage people to experience sexual pleasures outside the marriage arrangement. Rather than help people control their sexual impulses, these practices promote selfish gratification.  

(Note; If it sounds wrong to you; then take a clue to the fact that it is wrong; and ignore Satan when he tells you it is okay.) 

10. What is the Bible view of masturbation?  

Answer:  The Bible does not specifically mention masturbation -the deliberate self-stimulation that produces sexual arousal and orgasm.  However, God's Word commands Christians:  "Deaden," therefore, your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, [and improper ] sexual appetite." -Colossians 3:5. 
Masturbation fosters a distorted and self-centered view of sex. The Bible assures us that God can impart "power beyond what is normal" to those who make  a sincere effort to break this habit and other unnatural habits as well.-2 Corinthians 4:7; Philippians 4:13. 

Next time: WHY LIVE BY Bible Standards? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

Continue TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered

4. Is polygamy acceptable?

Answer: For a time, God did permit  a man to have more than one wife. (Genesis 4;19; 16:1-4; 29:18-30:24) But God did not originate the practice of polygamy. He provided only one wife for Adam. 
God authorized Jesus Christ to reinstate His original standard of monogamy. (John 8:28) When asked about marriage, Jesus said:  "He who created  them from the beginning made them male and female and said: 'For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh.' " -Matthew  19:4, 5.
One of Jesus' disciples was later inspired by God to write:  "Let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. (1 Corinthians 7:2) The Bible also states that any married man in the Christian congregation who is given special responsibilities must be "a husband of one wife." -1 Timothy 3:2, 12.  

5. Is it wrong for married couples  to use contraceptives? 

Answer: Jesus did not command his followers to have children. Neither did any of Jesus' disciples  issue any such  directive. Nowhere does the Bible explicitly condemn birth control. 
Married couples, therefore, are free to decide for themselves whether they will raise a family or not. They may also decide how many children they will have and when they will have them. If a husband and wife choose to use a nonaboritive form of contraception to avoid pregnancy, that is their personal decision and responsibility.  No one should judge them. -Romans 14:4, 10-13.  

6. Is it wrong to have an abortion? 

Answer: (What the heck do you think nonaborative form of contraception is; It means no abortions should be performed) Life is sacred to God, and he views even an embryo as a distinct, living being.  (Psalm 139:16)  (Our laws here may say its okay, but its our laws on this that we should by. We need to do what God wants us to do.) God stated that a person should be called to account for injuring an unborn child. So, in his eyes, killing an unborn child is murder. -Exodus 20:13; 21:22, 23.
What, though, if an emergency situation at the time of childbirth forces a couple to choose between letting the mother live and the baby die or vice-versa?  In that case, the couple would have to decide which life to save.

7. Does the Bible permit divorce? 

Answer: The Bible does permit divorce. However, Jesus identified  only one acceptable reason to end a marriage, stating:  "Whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of fornication [sex outside of the marriage], and marries another commits adultery."  Matthew 19:9. 
God hates a deceitful, treacherous divorce. He will personally hold accountable those who frivolously leave their mate, especially when they do so with the motive of taking another partner. -Malachi 2:13-16; Mark 10:9. 

Next time: Conclusion of TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered- #'s 8-10. 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered

1. Was sex the original sin that was committed by Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden? 

Answer:  Many people are under the impression that the forbidden fruit in the garden of Eden represented sexual relations. However, that is not what the Bible teaches. 
Consider: Even before Eve was created, God commanded Adam not to eat the fruit of "the tree of the knowledge of good and bad." (Genesis 2:15-18) Because Adam was alone, this prohibition could not have referred to sexual relations. In addition, God gave Adam and Eve and unambiguous command to "be fruitful and become many and fill the earth." (Genesis 1;28) Would a loving God instruct the first couple to "fill the earth"-which, of course, involved having sexual relations-and then sentence them to death for obeying his instructions? - 1 John 4:8. (DUH!) 
Furthermore, it was when Eve's husband was not with her that she "began taking of [the forbidden] fruit and eating it. Afterward she gave some also to her husband when with her and he began eating it." -Genesis 3:6.  
Finally, Adam and Eve were not censured when they had relations and brought forth children.  (Genesis 4:1, 2) Clearly, the fruit that Adam and Eve ate did not represent their having sexual relations but was literal fruit that grew on a tree.  (Note: No one knows what kind of fruit it was. ) 

Note: You see this is what happens when you listen to the wrong people and do read the Bible yourself.  If you want the correct knowledge, get it from the right source, God's Word in  the Bible.  Do not let people think for you. Why do you think that detectives look for evidence in a crime?  To get to the true source of the crime and the person who committed it.  You can't always take just any one's word on something, especially when it comes to God and his Words in the Bible. You go to the true source and to help to understand it; you go to the Jehovah's Witnesses, but it should be pretty plain, if you really want to know the truth. 

2. Does the Bible prohibit sexual pleasure?

Answer: The first book of the Bible reveals that it was God who created humans as both "male and female." God declared his creation "very good." (Genesis 1:27)  Later, God inspired  a Bible writer to give these instructions to husbands:  "Rejoice with the wife of your youth . . .Let her breasts intoxicate you at all times." (Proverbs 5:16, 19) Do those statements sound as if the Bible prohibits sexual pleasure? 

Note: What they are not being clear about here; is the fact that it only a prohibition if you are a married male and female couple. Anything else is forbidden by God. Read the Bible and you will see! 

The fact shows that  in addition to making reproduction possible, God created the sexual organs in a way that allows a married couple to express their love and affection for each other in a mutually pleasurable way. Such relations can fill the physical and emotional needs of a man and woman who are in a warm and intimate relationship.  Anything else is Satan doing his thing. 

3. Does the Bible approve of a man and a woman living together if they are not legally married? 

Answer: The Bible clearly states that "God will judge fornicators." (Hebrews 13:4) The Greek word for fornication, por-nei'a, broadly refers to the misuse of the sexual organs of those who are not married to each other. Therefore, it would be wrong in God's eyes for a couple to live together-even if they intend to get married later. 
Even it a couple are deeply in love, God still requires that they marry before  enjoying sex. It was God who created us with the capacity to love.  God's primary quality is love. Therefore, he has good reason for insisting that sex be enjoyed only by married couples, as the next article will explain.

Next time: Continue with Ten QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered -4. Is Polygamy acceptable?  

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011
  

WHAT IS THE BIBLE'S VIEW ON SEX? -DOES THE ANSWER Matter?

"I was ten years old when I began going out with boys. At first, we would hold hands and kiss.  Soon, though, we were touching intimate body parts and experimenting with various sexual activities. When I was 15, I started working and was approached by men on the job who wanted to go all the way with sex.  I wanted to be daring and join my workmates in whatever they were doing. I wanted my associates to accept me, which in turn let to more and more sexual experimentation." -SARAH, AUSTRALIA  (name has been changed) 

WOULD it surprise you to learn that Sarah was brought up in a religious devout home? (Nope, it wouldn't surprise me at all. Those are usually the first ones  to experiment and end up pregnant, I have seen it for myself, many years ago) Her parents tried to raise her to live by the Bible's moral standards. But Sarah chose a different course. 

Many would agree with Sarah's choice.  They believe that the Bible's view of sex is hopelessly out-of-date. Others see no conflict between claiming to be religiously devout and pursuing a sexually permissive life-style. (They are not too bright then) 

Does it matter whether you know and live by what the Bible teaches about sex?  The Bible claims that it is "inspired of God and beneficial for teaching." (2 Timothy 3:16)  If you believe that God created humans and that the Bible is his inspired Word, then what it says on the subject is worth knowing.

Unfortunately, many are confused about what the Bible  teaches concerning sex. (Then they should read it, it is not just for looking at and pretending that you are religious. It is a book that should be read by everyone and is a very interesting book to read) Religious leaders who claim to respect the Bible promote conflicting  ideas. In fact, the issue has divided many mainstream churches.  (Apparently, these people have never picked up a Bible and actually read it! If they had, they would not be spreading that garbage, that is Satan talking!) 

Rather than rely on what others say, why not take a few minutes to investigate the subject for yourself?  The following article considers ten frequently asked questions about the Bible's view of sex. In that articles in this series will consider why  the choices we make do matter. 

Next time: TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX Answered

From the Watchtower magazine, 2011

TO WHOM DID THE EARLY CHRISTIANS PRAY?

Within weeks of Jesus' return to heaven, his disciples were being harassed and threatened by their opposers. (Acts 4:18)  Of course, they reached out in prayer-but to whom did they turn?  "They raised their voices with one accord to God," praying that he would continue helping them "through the name of [his]holy servant Jesus." (Acts 4:24, 30) So the disciples followed Jesus' guidelines on  prayer. They prayed to God not to Jesus.

Years later, the apostle Paul described the manner is which he and his associates prayed. Writing to fellow Christians, he said:  "We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, when we pray for you."  (Colossians 1:3)  Paul also wrote to his fellow believers about "always giving thanks to our God and Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ." (Ephesians 5:20) From these words, we see that Paul encouraged others to pray to his "God and Father for everything"-but of course, in Jesus' name. -Colossians 3:17. 

Like the early Christians, we can show our love for Jesus by heeding his advice on prayer.  (John 14:15) As we pray to our heavenly Father-and to him alone-the words  of Psalm 116:1,2. will become ever more meaningful to us:  "I love Jehovah because he hears my voice . . .I will call on him as long as I live." 

Next time: WHAT IS THE BIBLE'S VIEW ON SEX? - DOES THE ANSWER  Matter?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

Should We Pray to Jesus?

A RESEARCHER recently pulled over 800 youths from more than a dozen religious denominations, asking whether they believed that Jesus answers prayers. Over 60 percent said that they firmly believe that  he does. However, one youth crossed out the name of  Jesus on the survey and wrote "God" instead. 

What do you think?  Should we address our prayers to Jesus or God?"  To find the answer, first let us consider how Jesus taught his disciples to pray. 

TO WHOM DID JESUS TEACH US TO PRAY?

   Jesus both taught and showed us to whom we should pray.

HIS TEACHING: When one of his disciples asked Jesus, "Lord, teach us how to pray," Jesus replied: "Whenever you pray, say: 'Father.' " ( Luke 11:1, 2)  Further, in his famous Sermon on the Mount, Jesus urged his listeners to pray. He said:  "Pray to your Father."  He also assured them by saying: "Your Father knows what your need even before you ask him." (Matthew 6:6, 8) On his final night as a human, Jesus told his disciples:  "If you ask the Father for anything, he will give it to you in my name." (John 16:23)  Jesus thus taught us to pray to the one who is both his Father and our Father, Jehovah God. -John 20:17.

HIS EXAMPLE: In line with the way he taught others to pray, Jesus personally prayed:  "I publicly praise you Father, Lord of heaven and earth." (Luke 10:21) On another occasion,  "Jesus raised his eyes heavenward  and said:  'Father, I thank you that you have heard me.' " (John 11:41)  And as he was dying, Jesus prayed:  "Father, into your hands I entrust my spirit." (Luke 23:46) In praying to his heavenly Father-the "Lord of heaven and earth" -Jesus set a clear example for all to follow.  (Matthew 11:25; 26:41, 42; 1 John 2:6)  Is that how Jesus' early disciples understood his instructions?

Next time: TO WHOM DID THE EARLY CHRISTIANS PRAY?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

As used in the Bible, what does the term "eunuch" mean?

At times, the word may refer to a man who was castrated. In Bible times, some men were castrated as punishment or on being captured or enslaved. Trusted men who had been castrated oversaw the women's quarters, or harems, in royal households. For example, the eunuch Hegai and Shaashgaz served as guardians of the wives of the concubines of Persian King Ahasuerus, who is thought to be Xerxes I. -Esther 2:3, 14. 

However, not all whom the Bible calls eunuchs were actually castrated. Some scholars say that the term was also used in a broader sense to refer to an official assigned to duties in the court of the king.  This appears to be the sense in which the term is applied to Ebed-molech, the associate off Jeremiah, and to the unnamed Ethiopian  to whom the evangelizer Philip preached.  Ebed-molech evidently was a high-ranking official, for he had direct access to King Zedekiah.  (Jeremiah 38:7, 8) And the Ethiopian is described as a royal treasurer who "had gone to Jerusalem to worship." -Acts 8:27.

Why did Shepherds in Bible times separate sheep from goats? 

When describing a future time of judgment, Jesus said:  "When the Son of man comes in his glory, , .  .he will separate people one from another, just as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats." (Matthew 25:31, 32) Why would literal shepherds separate these animals?

Normally, sheep and goats were herded and allowed into enclosures that protected  them from wild animals, thieves, and the cold.  (Genesis 30:32, 33; 31:38-40) The two types of animals would  be placed in separate  enclosures to protect the relatively docile sheep, particularly the ewes and the lambs, from harm that could be inflicted on them by the more aggressive goats.  The shepherd also separated the sheep from the goats when "breeding, milking, and shearing," says the book All Things in the Bible. Jesus' illustration thus drew on practices and imagery that would be familiar to listeners in a pastoral environment like that of ancient Israel. 

Next time:Should We Pray to Jesus?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

JESUS' LIFE-A PERFECT MODEL FOR HUSBANDS

Jesus sought to refresh others and lighten their load. Jesus promised all who were oppressed and weighed down by person problems:  "Come to me,  . . .and I will refresh you. (Matthew 11:28, 29) He often alleviated their  physical suffering and provided refreshing spiritual help. No wonder many felt drawn to  Jesus, convinced that he would lighten their load! 

HOW HUSBANDS CAN IMITATE JESUS. Look for ways to lighten your wife's load. Some wives feel as did Rosa, who lamented:  "I was nothing more than my husband's maid-servant."  In contrast, a man named Kweku, who has a good marriage says:  "I often ask my wife how I can share the load. Because I love her, I often take the initiative to help; her with household chores." 

JESUS WAS CONSIDERATE AND SYMPATHETIC. For 12 years, a poor woman had suffered from a grievous health problem. On hearing about Jesus' miraculous power, "she kept saying: 'If I just touch his outer garments, I will get well.' " She was right. She approached Jesus, touched the fringes of his garment, and was cured at once.  Though some observers  likely concluded that this woman acted presumptuously, Jesus perceived that she was desperate."  He kindly told her"Daughter, . . .be healed from your grievous sickness."  Not only  did he avoid embarrassing or rebuking her but he acknowledged her illness. He thus showed what kind of man he was-a man of empathy. -Mark 5:25-34. 

How husbands can imitate Jesus. When you wife does not feel well, show her extra consideration and be patient. Try to relate to her and understand her reactions. Ricardo, for example, explains, "When I notice that  my wife is extra sensitive, I make a special effort to avoid saying things that could make her feel worse." 

Jesus communicated with his disciples.  Jesus talked extensively to his friends. "I have made known to you all the things I have heard from my Father," he said. (John 15:15) It is true that Jesus sometimes wanted to be alone with his thoughts and to pray.  But he often shared his innermost feelings with his disciples. The night before he was put to death as a condemned criminal , he frankly told them that he was "deeply grieved."  (Matthew 26:38) Even when their actions disappointed him, Jesus never stopped talking to his friends. -Matthew 26:40, 41. 

How husbands can imitate Jesus. Communicate -from your mind and heart-with your wife. A woman may complain that her husband seems to have no trouble speaking  in public but keeps silent at home. On the other hand, note how Ana feels when her husband opens up to  her.  "I sense that he really loves me, " she says,  "and I feel close to him. " 

Refuse to use silence as weapon to punish your wife.  "When my husband was upset with me," says one woman, "he refused to talk to me for days.  He made me feel guilty and despised." Edwin, however, tries to imitate Jesus' example.  "When I get annoyed, I don't respond right away, but i look for the right moment for us to talk things out."

Joy, quoted at the outset, has seen changes in her husband since he began studying the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses. Joy relates:  "He has improved and is trying hard to be a more loving husband in imitation of Jesus."  Millions of married couples are benefiting from the same Bible instruction .  Would  you like to join them?  You can ask  one of Jehovah's Witnesses for a free Bible study. 

Next time: AS used in the Bible, what does the term "eunuch" mean? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015 

HUSBANDS Make Your Home Secure

WHAT kind of security should a man provide for his wife?  Many people are raised to believe that a husband's primary  goal is to help his family to be financially secure.  However, some  wives who have plenty of material things still feel emotionally  insecure-even terrified.  A Spanish woman name Rosa, for example, says about the man she married, "With outsiders he was a likable man, but at home he was a rough husband."  Joy, who is from Nigeria, admits, "When I didn't agree with my husband he would say.  "You have to do everything I say because I am your husband.' " 

How can a man fulfill his role as a husband in a loving way?  What does it take for a husband to make his home secure, "a resting place for his wife" -Ruth 1:9. 

(What would have helped me to  feel secure in relationship was to know I was loved; but I never got that) 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT A HUSBAND'S AUTHORITY

Although husband and wife have an equal standing in God's eyes, the Bible says that  each spouse had a distinct role in the family. Romans 7:2 states that  a married woman comes under "the law of her husband." Just as many institutions appoint a head to oversee their affairs, God has appointed the husband to be head of  his wife. (1 Corinthians 11:3) Husbands should take the lead in their household.  

As husbands, how should you exercise your God-given authority?  "Continue loving your wives," the Bible says "just as the Christ also love the congregation." (Ephesians  5:25)   Yes, although he never married Jesus Christ's example can help you to become a good husband. Let us see how. 

Next time: JESUS' LIFE-A PERFECT MODEL FOR HUSBANDS

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

HOW I HAVE BENEFITED

HOW I HAVE BENEFITED: The Bible's convincing  logic changed my whole outlook on life for the better.  The credible explanations I found through God's Word bring me inner peace. I draw great joy and comfort from the hope of seeing my father again through the resurrection promised in God's Word. -John 5:28, 29. 

For six years I have been happily married to my God-fearing husband, Jonathan. We have both learned that the truth about God is logical and simple, yet at the same time a priceless treasure. That is why we appreciate sharing our faith and our wonderful hope with others. Today, I know that Jehovah's Witnesses are not "strange" but are true Christians. 

Next time:  HUSBANDS Make Your Home Secure

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

HOW THE BIBLE CHANGED MY LIFE

HOW THE BIBLE CHANGED MY LIFE:

My faith in God was shattered in 2002. We had just immigrated to Germany when, only a week later, my father suffered a stroke and fell into a coma. For years I had prayed for the health and well-being of my family. Convinced that the Almighty alone has power over life and death, I pleaded every day for the life of my dad. I thought, 'It is a small thing for God to fulfill a little girl's heartfelt wish.'  I was sure he would grant my entreaties.  But my father died.  

Aghast at God's seeming indifference, I was devastated.  'Either I am praying the wrong way,' I reasoned, 'or God dies not exist.' I was stunned and unable to pray namaz anymore. Other religions did not make sense to me, so I concluded that there is no God. 

Six months later, Jehovah's Witnesses called at our door. Since we did not think highly of Christianity, my sister and I wanted to show them politely that they were wrong. We asked them:  "How can Christians  worship Jesus, the cross, Mary, and other idols when that is against the Ten Commandments?"  From the Scriptures the Witnesses  showed us convincing  proof that idol worship is forbidden for true Christians and that prayers  should be directed exclusively to God. That astounded me.

Then we asked:  "What about the Trinity?  If Jesus is God, how could he live on earth and be killed by humans?" Again, the answered with the Bible and explained that Jesus is neither God nor equal to Him.  The Witnesses explained that for this reason, they do not believe in the Trinity. I was astounded and thought, 'These are really strange Christians. 

Still, I wanted to know why people die and why God allows suffering. The Witnesses showed me the book Knowledge that Leads to Everlasting Life, which contained  entire chapters that addressed my questions.  They immediately started a Bible study  with me.

During each study session, I found sensible Bible-based answers to my questions. I came to know that God's name is Jehovah.  (Psalm 83:18)  His main quality is unselfish love.  (1 John 4:8) He created humans because he wanted  to share the gift of life. I came to understand that  although God permits injustice, he detests it and will soon remove it forever.  I learned that the rebellion of Adam and Eve has been detrimental  to mankind.  (Romans 5:12) Among the sad consequences is the death of beloved ones, such as my father. However, God will undo such tragedies in a coming new world, where those who have died will return to life. -Acts 24:15. 

Bible truth satisfied my thirst for answers. I started to believe in God again. As i got to know Jehovah's Witnesses better, I realized that they are a worldwide brotherhood. The unity and love among them impressed me.  (John 13:34, 35) What I learned about Jehovah moved me to want to serve him, so I decided to become one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I was baptized on January 8, 1005. 

Next time: HOW I HAVE  BENEFITED

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

Bible truth satisfied my thirst for answers

MY PAST:  I was born in Baku, Azerbaijan, as the second of two children.  My father was Muslim, and my mother was Jewish. My parents loved each other and accepted their differing beliefs. Mom supported Dad when he fasted during Ramadan, and Dad supported Mom when she observed the Passover. In our home we had the Koran, the Torah, and the Bible.

I considered myself a Muslim. Although I never questioned God's existence, there were issues that puzzled me. I wondered, 'Why did God create humans, and for what useful purpose would someone suffer his entire life only to be tormented forever in hell?' Since people said that everything that happens is God's will, I wondered, 'Is God just a puppeteer who enjoys watching people suffer?  When I was 12 years old, i started to pray namaz, the Muslim's five daily ceremonial prayers. About that time, Father sent my sister and me to a Jewish school. Among other subjects, we were taught Torah traditions and the Hebrew language. Before daily classroom lessons, we had to pray according to Jewish tradition. Thus, in the morning, I prayed namaz at home, and later in the day, I joined Jewish prayers in school.

I desperately hungered for logical answers to  my questions. I repeatedly asked the rabbis at  school:  "Why did God create humans? How does God view my Muslim father? He is a good man, so why is he considered unclean? Why did God create him?" The few answers I received were irrational and unconvincing. 

Next time: HOW THE BIBLE CHANGED MY LIFE

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015