SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL STEP-FAMILIES

THE UNIQUE CHALLENGES OF STEP-FAMILIES

* According to step-family expert Dr. Patricia Papernow, trying to address step-family issues using a first-time family as a model is like "trying to navigate the streets of New York City using a map of Boston."

The fact is, step-family  challenges are not only unique but also greater than those faced by first-time families. In fact, psychologist William Merkel describes  the step-family as "the most complex, unnatural and difficult set of relationships known to humankind."

If it is that hard, how can a step-family ever succeed? The relationships in a  step-family can be likened to the seams in a  patchwork quilt. Even though the seams are weak when the stitching begins, when completed they can be as strong as the original fabric-if they are sewn carefully. 

Let us consider some common challenges that step-families face and the steps that have helped many to "stitch" their lives together.  Then, we will meet four step-families who have found success. 

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From the AWAKE! magazine, 2012