If Marriage Is at the Breaking Point

THE BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE

Happily, in most Christian marriages, any problems that arise can be handled.  Sometimes, though, this is not the case. Because humans are imperfect and live in a sinful world that is under the control of Satan, some marriages do reach the breaking point.  (1 John 5:19) How should Christians deal with such a trying situation?

As mentioned in Chapter 2 of this book,  fornication is the only Scriptural grounds for divorce with the possibility of remarriage.  (Matthew 19:9) If you have definite proof that your marriage mate has been unfaithful, then you face a difficult decision.  Will you continue in the marriage or get a divorce?  There are no rules.   Some Christians have completely forgiven a genuinely repentant partner, and the preserved marriage has turned out well. Others have decided against divorce for the sake of the children.

On the other hand, the sinful act may have resulted in pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease. Or perhaps the children need to be protected from a sexually abusive parent.  Clearly, there is much to consider  before making a decision.  If, however, you learn the infidelity of your marriage partner and afterward resume sexual relations with your mate, you thus indicate that you have forgiven you mate and desire to continue in the marriage.  Grounds for divorce with the Scriptural possibility of remarriage no longer exist.  No one should  be  a busybody and try to influence your decision, nor should anyone criticize your decision when you make it. You will have to live with the consequences of what you decide.  "Each one will carry his own load." -Galatians 6:5. 

Next time: If Marriage Is at the Breaking Point/ GROUNDS FOR SEPARATION

From the book: The Secret of FAMILY HAPPINESS