Single Parents Can Succeed!

MASTERING THE HOUSEHOLD ROUTINE

Consider the task of managing a home.  "There are many occasions when you wish you had a man around," admits one divorcee, "like when your car starts making noises and you don't know where they are coming from." Men who are recently divorced or widowed may likewise be bewildered by the multitude of household tasks they must now perform.  For children, domestic disarray adds to feelings of instability and insecurity.

What can help?  Note the example set by the  "capable wife" described at Proverbs 31:10-31.  The breadth of her accomplishments is remarkable-buying, selling, sewing, cooking, investing in real estate, farming, managing a business.  Her secret?  She was diligent, working late and getting up early to start  her activities. And she was well organized, delegating some tasks and using her own hands to care for others. No wonder she won praise!  If you are a single parent, be conscientious about your domestic responsibilities.   Find satisfaction in such work, for this does much to add to the happiness of your children.  However, proper planning and organization are essential.  The Bible says:  "The plans  of the diligent one surely make for advantage."  (Proverbs 21:5)  One single father admitted:  "I tend not to think about meals until I'm hungry."  But planned meals tend to be more nutritious and appealing than those hastily improvised.  You man also have to learn to use your hands in new ways. By consulting knowledgeable friends, how-to-books, and helpful professionals, some single mothers have been able to tackle painting, plumbing, and simple auto repairs. 

Is it fair to ask children to help out?  One single mother reasoned:  "You want to make up for the absence of the other parent by making it easy for the children." That may be understandable but perhaps not always in the best interests of the child.  God-fearing youths o Bible times were assigned appropriate chores.  (Genesis 37:2; Song of Solomon 1:6)  So, although being careful not overload your children, you will be wise to assign them tasks such as taking care of the dishes and keeping their room clean.  Why not perform some chores together?  This can be very enjoyable.  

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From the book: The Secret of FAMILY HAPPINESS