The Influence of Other Students

Certain boarding schools may have impressive academic standards. But what about the moral standards of those who attend or perhaps even of some operating such schools?  Concerning the sort of people that would abound  in these "last days," the apostle Paul wrote:  "In the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, self-assuming, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, disloyal, having no natural affections, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, betrayers, headstrong, puffed with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, having a form of godly devotion but proving false to its power; and from these turn away." -2 Timothy 3:1-5.

This moral and spiritual decline is global, presenting a challenge to Jehovah's Witnesses in living by Bible principles. Students who come home every day find that even their limited association with worldly schoolmates  can exert  a powerful negative influence on their spirituality. Counteracting that influence can be quite a struggle for Witness children, even with daily support, counsel, and encouragement from their parents. 

What, then, is the situation of children who are sent away from their homes to boarding schools?  They are marooned, cut off from the regular spiritual support of loving parents. Since they live with their classmates 24 hours a day, pressure to conform  to the crowd exerts a stronger influence  on their young minds and hearts than it is likely to do so on students who live at home. Said one student: "Morally,  a boarder is living in danger from morning to night.

Paul wrote:  "Do no be misled. bad associations spoil useful habits." (1 Corinthians 15:33) Christian parents should not be misled into thinking that their children will suffer no spiritual harm if they are in constant association with those who do not serve God. Over a period of time, godly children can become desensitized  to Christian values and can lose all appreciation  for spiritual things. Sometimes this does not become evident to parents until after their children have left boarding school.  Then it is often too late to correct matter. 

The experience of Clement is typical.  He relates:  "Before going away to boarding school, I had love for the truth and went out in field service with the brothers. I particularly enjoyed participating in our family Bible study and the Congregation Book Study. However, once i went into boarding school at the age of 14, I let the truth completely. Throughout the five years I spent in boarding school, I never attended meetings . As a result of bad company, I got involved with drugs, smoking, and heavy drinking.'

Next time: The Influence of Teachers

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Education and Spirituality

All caring parents want to give their children a good start in life, and to that end a sound, balanced education is important. Often secular education opens doors to future employment opportunities and helps young people to develop into adults able to care for themselves and for their future families.

'If a boarding school offers a good education along with some moral guidance, why not take advantage of it?' You might ask.  In answering that question, Christian parents should prayerfully consider a vitally important  factor-the spiritual welfare of their children. Jesus Christ asked:  "Really, of what benefit is it for man to gain the whole world and to forfeit his soul?"  (Mark 8:36)  Of course, there is no benefit in this at all.  Before deciding to send their children to a boarding school, therefore, Christian parents have on their children's prospects for everlasting life. 

Next time: The Influence of Other Students

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Should Your Child Go to a BOARDING SCHOOL?

IMAGINE that you live in a small town in a developing country.  You have several children in primary school, but at the age of 12, they will progress to secondary school. In your area, secondary schools are overcrowded, ill-equipped, and poorly staffed. Strikes sometimes close the schools for weeks and months at a time.

Someone hands you a brochure that describes a boarding school in the city.  You see pictures of happy, smartly dressed students, studying well-equipped  classrooms,  laboratories, and libraries.  The student peer into computers  and relax in dormitory rooms. You read that one of the aims of the school is to help pupils "achieve the highest academic standard of which they are capable." You further read:  "All pupils are  required to abide by a code of behavior similar to that normally expected within a family where emphasis is given to courtesy, politeness, respect for parents and elders, co-operation, tolerance, kindness, honesty and integrity."

A smiling young man is quoted as saying: "My parents gave me the privilege of a lifetime to attend the best school." A girls says: "School is challenging and exciting. Here learning comes naturally."  Would you send your son or daughter to such a boarding school? 

Next time: Education and Spirituality

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Where Can True Happiness Be Found

MANY people feel that happiness can be found by acquiring material possessions. How about you? While material things can certainly contribute to our happiness, they do not ensure it; nor do physical comforts build faith, or fill spiritual needs.

In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus Christ said:  "Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them." (Matthew 5:3)  Jesus also said:  "Guard against every sort of covetousness, because even when a person had an abundance his life does not result from the things he possesses." - Luke 12:15.

Many seek happiness by engaging in illicit sex and other "works of the flesh." (Galatians 5:19-21) However, yielding to sensual pleasures does not bring true and lasting happiness.  In fact, those preaching such things will not inherit God's Kingdom. -1 Corinthians 6:9, 10. 

Others turn inward in their quest for happiness by trying to build up their own self-worth. Libraries  and bookstores are filled with self-help books,  but such publications have not brought people lasting happiness. So, then, where can we find real happiness? 

To be truly happy, we must recognize our in-born spiritual need. Jesus said:  "Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need."  Of course, it would do us little good to comprehend this need and then fail to do anything about it. To illustrate: What would happen to a marathon runner who after the race failed to respond to his body's craving for water?  Would he not soon face dehydration and other serious consequences?  Likewise, if we fail to respond to our need for spiritual nourishment, we will eventually wither spiritually.  This will lead to a loss of joy and happiness. 

Jesus fully recognized his spiritual need, regularly studying and meditating on God's Word. He could locate and read sections of the Holy Scriptures with ease, and he taught others to do the same.  (Luke 4:16-21) Jesus also likened the doing of his heavenly Father's will to food.  Doing God's will brought him much happiness. -John 4:34.

Yes, true happiness cannot be obtained by acquiring material things; nor does happiness result from  catering to the fallen flesh. True happiness is a condition of the heart, based on genuine faith and a good relationship with Jehovah God. Appropriately, then, the psalmist David sang: "Happy is the people whose God is Jehovah." -Psalm 144:15b. 

Next time: Should Your Child Go to a BOARDING SCHOOL?

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Discernment and Decision-Making

Making decisions regarding financial or business matters can be quite stressful. But spiritual discernment can help us to weigh  factors and make wise decisions. Moreover, prayerful reliance on Jehovah can bring us "the peace of God." (Philippians 4:6, 7) It is a calmness  and tranquility resulting from a close personal relationship with Jehovah. Surely, such peace can help us to maintain our balance when we are faced with difficult decisions.

Let us be determined not to let business disputes disrupt our peace or that of the congregation.  We need to remember that the Christian congregation functions to help us spiritually, not to serve as a center for commercial pursuits.  Business matters should always be kept separate  from congregation activities. We need to use discernment and caution when embarking upon business ventures. And let us always maintain a balanced view of such matters, seeking Kingdom interests first.  If a business venture involving fellow worshipers should fail, may we seek what is best for all concerned.

Instead of being overly concerned about financial matters and other less important things, may all of us incline our hearts to discernment, pray for God's guidance, and keep Kingdom interests first.  In harmony with Paul's prayer,  'may our love abound with accurate knowledge and full discernment so that we may make sure of the more important things and not be stumbling others' or ourselves. Now that Christ the King is on his heavenly throne, let us show spiritual discernment in every aspect of life.  And 'may we be filled with righteous  fruit through Jesus Christ to the glory and praise of  our God,' the Sovereign Lord Jehovah. -Philippians 1:9-11.

Next time: Where Can True Happiness Be Found? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

What If There Is Fraud?

Discernment helps us to realize that profits do not result from all investments. Yet, what if fraud is involved? Fraud is "the intentional use of deception, trickery, or perversion of truth for the purpose of inducing another to part with some valuable thing belonging to him or to give up a legal right."  Jesus Christ outlined steps  that may be taken when a person thinks he has been defrauded by a fellow worshiper. According to Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus said: "If your brother commits  a sin, go lay bare his fault between you and him alone.  If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.  But if he does not listen, take along with you  one or two more, in order that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every matter may be established. IF he does not listen  to them speak to the congregation. If  he does not listen even to the congregation, let him be to you just as a man of the nations and as a tax collector." The illustration that Jesus subsequently gave indicates ta t he had in mind such sins as those involving financial matters, including fraud. -Matthew 18:23-35.  

Of course, there would be no Scriptural basis for taking the steps outlined at  Matthew 18:15-17 if there was no evidence or even a suggestion of fraud.  Yet, what if a professing Christian actually defrauded us?  Discernment can safeguard us from taking action that may put the congregation in a bad light. Paul advised fellow Christians to let themselves be wronged and even defrauded instead of taking a brother to court. -1 Corinthians 6:7.

Our genuine brothers and sister are not 'full of fraud and villainy,' like the sorcerer Bar-Jesus.  (Acts 13:6-12)  So let us use discernment when money is lost in business ventures involving fellow believers.  If we are thinking about taking legal action, we should consider the possible effects  on us personally, on the other person or persons, on the congregation, and on outsiders. Pursuing compensations could consume much of our time, energy, and other resources. It might result only in enriching attorneys and other professionals. Sadly, some Christians have sacrificed theocratic privileges because of becoming overly absorbed in these things.  Our being sidetracked in this manner must make Satan happy, but we want to  make Jehovah's heart rejoice. (Proverbs 27:11)  On the other hand, accepting a lose may spare us heartaches and save much time for us and for the elders.  It will help to preserve the congregation's peace and will enable us to keep on seeking first the Kingdom. 

Next time: Discernment and Decision -Making

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

When Business Ventures Fail

Business failures have led to disappointment and even to loss of spirituality on the part of some Christians who entered into unsound ventures. Heartache and bitterness have resulted from failure to let discernment act as a safeguard. Greed has snared  many.  "Let . . .greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as it befits holy people," wrote Paul. (Ephesians 5:3) And he warned:  "Those who are determined  to be rich fall into temptation and a snare and many senseless and hurtful  desires, which plunge men into destruction and ruin.  For the love of money is a root of all sorts of injurious things, and by reaching out for this love some have been led astray from the faith and have stabbed themselves all over with many pains." -1 Timothy 6:9, 10.

If a Christian developed a love of money, he would cause himself much spiritual harm. The Pharisees were money lovers, and this is a trait of many in these last days. (Luke 16:14; 2 Timothy 3:1, 2)  In contrast, a Christian's manner of life should be "free of the love of money." (Hebrews 13:5) Of course, Christians can do business with one another or start businesses together. IF they do so, however, discussions and negotiations should be kept separate from congregational matters. And remember:  Even among spiritual brothers, always commit business agreements in writing. Helpful in this regard is the article  "Put It In Writing!," published in AWAKE! of February 8, 1983, pages 13 to 15. 

Proverbs 22:7 tells us: "The borrower is servant to the man doing the lending." It is often unwise for us to put ourselves or our brother in the position of such a servant. When anyone asks us to lend him money for a business venture, it would be advisable to consider his ability to repay the sum. Is he known to be reliable and trustworthy?  Of course, we should realize that making such a loan could mean the loss of the money because many business ventures fail. A contract in itself does not ensure a successful venture. And surely it is not prudent for anyone to place more risk in an enterprise than he could afford to lose.

We need to show discernment if we have lent funds to a Christian for business purposes and the money was lost, though no dishonest practices were involved. If the business failure was not the fault of our fellow believer who borrowed the money, can we say that we were wronged? No, because we voluntarily  made the loan, we have probably been collecting interest on it, and nothing dishonest  has taken place.  Since there was no dishonesty, we have no basis for legal action against the borrower. what good would it do to sue an honest fellow Christian who had to file for bankruptcy  because a well-intentioned business venture failed? -1 Corinthians 6:1.

Those experiencing business failures sometimes seek relief by declaring bankruptcy.   Since Christians are not negligent about indebtedness, even after being legally freed of certain debts, some have felt obliged to try to pay off the canceled sums of the creditors would accept payment.  But what if a borrower lost his brother's money and then lived in a luxurious manner?  Or what if the borrower acquired sufficient funds to pay back what he borrowed but ignored the moral obligation he may have to his brother financially? Then there would be questions about the borrower's qualifications to serve in a responsible capacity in the congregation. 1 Timothy 3:3, 8. 

Next time: What If There Is Fraud?

From the Watchtower, magazine, 1997

What About Investments?

Both discernment and caution are needed when considering an investment in a business venture.  Suppose someone wants to borrow money and makes promises like these: "I guarantee that you will make  money." "You can't lose. This is a sure thing." Beware when anyone gives such assurances. Either he is not being realistic or he is dishonest, for investing is rarely a sure thing.  In fact, some smooth-talking, unscrupulous individuals have defrauded members of the congregation. This calls to mind the "ungodly men" who slipped into the first-century congregation and 'turned the undeserved kindness of God into an excuse  for loose conduct.'  They were like jagged underwater rocks that could rip and kill swimmers. (Jude 4, 12) True, the motives of defrauders are different, but they too prey upon members of the congregation. 

Even well-meaning Christians have shared information about seemingly profitable ventures, only to find that they and those following their example lost the money they invested. As a result, a number of Christians have lost privileges in the congregation. When get-rich-quick ventures prove to be fraudulent schemes, the only one to profit is the defrauder, who often promptly disappears. How can discernment help one to avoid such situations? 

Discernment carries the though of being able to grasp what is obscure. This ability is needed to evaluate claims  about investments. Christians trust one another, and some may reason that their spiritual brothers and sisters would not get involved in ventures that would endanger the resources of fellow believers.  But the fact that a businessman is  a Christian does not guarantee that  he excels in business matters or that his enterprise will succeed.

Some Christians seek business loans from fellow believers because reputable lending agencies would never advance money for their risky enterprises.  Many have been fooled into believing that simply by investing their money, they could make a quick fortune without doing much work or perhaps to work at all.  Some are attracted to an investment because of the glamour associated with it, only to lose their life savings!   One Christian invested a large sum of money, expecting to get a 25-percent rate of return  in just two weeks.  He lost all that money when bankruptcy was declared .  In another venture, a real-estate developer borrowed large sums of money from others in the congregation. He promised unreasonably high returns but went bankrupt and lost the borrowed funds.

Next time: When Business Ventures Fail

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Special Need for Discernment

With proper discernment, we can act in harmony with Jesus Christ's words:  "Keep on, then, seeking first the Kingdom and  [God's] righteousness, and these other [material ] things will be added to you." (Matthew 6:33) Jesus also said:  "The lamp of the body is your eye.  When your eye is simple, your whole body is bright." (Luke 11:34) The eye is a figurative lamp. A  "simple" eye is sincere, focused.  With such an eye, we can show discernment and walk without stumbling spiritually.  

Instead of keeping their eye simple, some have complicated their lives and the lives of others with tempting business dealings. But we should remember  that the Christian congregation is "a pillar and a support of the truth." (1 Timothy 3:15) Like a building's columns, the congregation uphold God's truth, not anyone's business enterprise. Congregations of Jehovah's Witnesses have not been established as locations to promote commercial interests, goods, or services.  We must refrain from pursuing personal business affairs in the Kingdom Halls, Congregation Book Studies, assemblies, and conventions of Jehovah's Witnesses are places for Christian association and spiritual discussion.  If we were  to use spiritual  relationships to promote any sort of commercialism, would this not show at least some lack of appreciation for spiritual values?  Congregational connections should never be exploited for financial gain. 

Some have used theocratic contacts to sell health or beauty aids, vitamin products, telecommunication services,  construction materials, travel plans, computer programs and equipment, and so forth.  However, congregation meetings are not place for selling or promoting commercial products or services. We can discern the underlying principle if we remember that Jesus  "drove all those with sheep and cattle out of the temple, and he poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. And he said to those selling the doves: "Take these things away from here! Stop making the house of my Father a house of merchandise!' " -John 2:15, 16.

Next time: What About Investments?

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

LET DISCERNMENT SAFEGUARD YOU

JEHOVAH wants you to exercise discernment. Why? Because he knows that it will safeguard you from various dangers. Proverbs 2:10-19 opens by saying: "When wisdom enters into your heart and knowledge itself becomes pleasant to your very soul, thinking ability itself will keep guard over you, discernment  itself will safeguard you."  Safeguard you from what?  From such things as  "the bad way," those leaving upright paths , and people devious in their general course. 

Likely you will recall that discernment is the faculty of the mind whereby it distinguishes one thing from another.  A person with discernment perceives differences of ideas or things and has good judgment. As Christian, we especially  desire spiritual discernment based on accurate knowledge of God's Word. When we study the Scriptures, it is as though  we are quarrying the building blocks of spiritual discernment. W hat we learn can help us to make decisions that please Jehovah. 

When God asked Israel's King Solomon what blessing he wanted, the young ruler said: "You must give to your servant an obedient heart to judge your people, to discern between good and bad."  Solomon had asked  for discernment, and Jehovah gave it to him to an unusual degree.  (1 Kings 3:9; 4:30)  To acquire discernment, we need to pray, and we have to study God's Word with the help of the enlightening publications provided through "the faithful and discreet slave." (Matthew 24:45-47) This is will help us to develop spiritual discernment to the extent that we become "full grown in powers of understanding," able to "distinguish  [or, discern between] both right and wrong." -1 Corinthians 14:20; Hebrews 5:14.

Next time: Special Need for Discernment

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Abound With Spiritual Discernment

To please Jehovah, we need "discernment in all things." (2 Timothy 2:7) Avid study of the Bible and compliance with the direction of God's spirit and organization  will help us to discern what to do when we face situations that could lead us into a wrong course. For example, suppose something in the congregation is not handled as we think it should be. Spiritual discernment will help us to see that this is no reason to stop associating with Jehovah's people and to quit serving God. Think of our privilege to serve Jehovah, of the spiritual freedom  we enjoy, of the joy we can derive from our service as Kingdom proclaimers .  Spiritual discernment enables us to get the right perspective and to realize that we are  dedicated to God and should cherish  our relationship, regardless of what others do.  If there is nothing that we can do theoretically to handle a problem, we need  to wait patiently for Jehovah to remedy the situation. Instead of quitting or yielding to despair, let us "wait for God." -Psalm 42:5, 11.

Spiritual discernment helps us to remain loyal to God and his people. Paul told Christians in Philippi: "This is what I continue praying, that your love may abound yet more and more with accurate knowledge and full discernment, that you may make sure of the more important things, so that you may be flawless and not be stumbling others up to the day of Christ." (Philippians 1:9, 10) To reason properly, we  need  "accurate knowledge and full discernment."  The Greek word here rendered "discernment" denotes  "sensitive moral perception."  When we learn something, we want to perceive its relationship to God and Christ and to meditate on how it magnifies Jehovah's personality and provisions.  This enhances our discernment and our appreciation  for what Jehovah God and Jesus Christ have done for us. If we do not fully understand something, discernment will help us to realize that we  must not cast aside our faith in all the important things we have learned about God, Christ, and the divine purpose.

We will abound  with spiritual discernment if we always harmonize our thoughts and actions with God's Word.  (2 Corinthians 13:5)  Doing this is a constructive way helps us to be humble, not opinionated  and critical of others.  Discernment will help us to benefit from correction and make sure of the most important things. (Proverbs 3:7)  With a desire to please Jehovah, then, let us seek to be filled with accurate knowledge of his Word. This will enable us to discern right from wrong, determine what is truly important, and loyally cling to our precious relationship with Jehovah. All of this is possible if we incline our heart to discernment.  Yet, something else is needed. We must let discernment safeguard us. 

Next time: LET DISCERNMENT SAFEGUARD YOU

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Always Look to Jehovah for Discernment

To follow an upright course in life, all of us need to acknowledge our imperfection and look to Jehovah for spiritual discernment. Says Proverbs 2:6-9: "Jehovah himself gives wisdom; out of his mouth there are knowledge and discernment. And for the upright ones he will treasure up  practical wisdom; for those walking in integrity he is a shield, by observing the paths of judgment, and he will guard  the very way of his loyal ones.  In that case you will understand righteousness and judgment and uprightness, the entire course  of what is good." -Compare  James 4:6. 

Acknowledging our dependence upon Jehovah, let us humbly seek to discern his will by delving deeply into his Word.  He possesses wisdom in the absolute sense, and his counsel is always beneficial.  (Isaiah 40:13; Romans 11:34) In fact, any advice  that stands in opposition  to him is valueless. Proverbs 21:30 states:  "There is no wisdom, nor any discernment, nor any counsel in opposition to Jehovah." (Compare Proverbs 19:21)  Only spiritual discernment, developed by a study of God's Word with the help of publications provided through "the  faithful and discreet slave," will help us to pursue a proper course in life.  (Matthew 24:45-47) Therefore, let us direct our way of life in harmony with the counsel of Jehovah, knowing that no matter how plausible contrary advice may seem, it cannot stand against his Word.

Discerning Christians who give counsel realize that it should be based solidly on God's Word and that Bible study and meditation are required before answering a question. (Proverbs 15:28) If question about serious matters are wrongly answered, great harm can result. Hence, Christian elders need spiritual discernment and should pray for Jehovah's guidance when endeavoring to  assist fellow believers spiritually. 

Next time: Abound With Spiritual Discernment

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Discernment and Our Course in Life

Discernment helps us to maintain a proper course in all our affairs. This is indicated at Proverbs 15:21, which says:  "Foolishness is a rejoicing to one who is in want of heart, but the man of discernment is one who goes straight ahead."  How are we to understand this proverb? A course of foolishness, or folly, is a cause of joy to senseless men, women, and young people.  They are "in want of heart," lacking good motive, and are so unwise that they rejoice in foolishness.

Israel's discerning King Solomon  learned that frivolity means very little. He admitted:  "is said, even I, in my heart: do come now, let me try you out with rejoicing. Also, see good." And, look! That too was vanity. Is said to laughter: 'Insanity!' and to rejoicing: 'What is this doing?' (Ecclesiastes 2:1, 2) As a man of discernment, Solomon found that mirth and laughter alone are not satisfying, for they do not produce real and lasting happiness.  Laughter may help us to forget our problems temporarily, but afterward they may loom up to an even greater degree.  Solomon could rightly  speak of laughter as "insanity." Why?  Because thoughtless  laughter beclouds sound judgment. It may cause us to take very serious matters  lightly.  The kind of rejoicing associated with the words and actions of a court jester cannot be pointed to as producing something worthwhile.  Discerning the import of Solomon's experiment with laughter and mirth helps us to avoid being "lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God." -2 Timothy 3:1, 4. 

How is it that the man of discernment goes "straight ahead"?  Spiritual discernment and the application  of godly principles lead people in an upright, straightforward course. Byington's translation bluntly says:  "Foolishness is bliss to a brainless man, but an intelligent man will go straight." The man of discernment " makes straight paths for his feet and is able to distinguish between right and wrong because of applying God's Word in life. -Hebrews 5:14; 12:12, 13. 

Next time: Always Look to Jehovah for Discernment

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Discernment and Our Family

Family members need to show wisdom and discernment, for those qualities will build up a household. Says Proverbs 24:3, 4:  "By wisdom a household will be built up, and by discernment it will prove firmly established. And by knowledge will the interior rooms be filled with all precious and pleasant things of value."  Wisdom and discernment are like find building blocks for successful family life.  Discernment  helps Christian parents to draw out the feelings and concerns of their children. A discerning person is able to communicate, to listen and gain insight into the feelings and thoughts of his or heir marriage mate. -Proverbs 20:5.  

Wisdom and discernment are unquestionably vital for happy family life. For instance, Proverbs 14:1 says: "The truly wise woman has  built up her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands."  A wise and discerning married woman in proper subjection to her husband will work hard for the good of the household and will thereby help to build up her family.  One thing  that will 'build up her house' is that she always speaks well of her husband and thus increases the respect of others for him. And a capable, discerning wife who had the reverential fear of Jehovah wins praise for herself. -Proverbs 12:4; 31:28. 30. 

Next time: Discernment and Our Course in Life

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Discernment and Our Spirit

Inclining our heart to discernment also helps us to control our spirit.  "He that is slow to anger is abundant in discernment," says Proverbs 14:29,  "but one that is impatient is exalting in foolishness."   One reason why a discerning person strives to avoid uncontrolled anger is that it has adverse effects upon us physically. It can raise blood pressure and cause respiratory trouble. Doctors have cited  anger and rage as emotions aggravating or causing such ailments as  asthma, skin diseases, digestive problems, and ulcers.

It is  not just to avoid injuring our health that we should use discernment and be "slow to anger." Being impatient can lead to foolish actions that we will regret. Discernment makes us consider what could result from unbridled speech or rash conduct and thus keeps us from "exalting foolishness" by doing something unwise. Especially does discernment help us to realize  that rage can upset our thinking processes, so that we cannot use sound judgment.  This would impair our ability to do the divine will and live according to God's righteous principles.  Yes, yielding to uncontrolled anger is spiritually damaging.  In fact, "fits of anger" are classed among the detestable  "works of the flesh" that would keep us from inheriting God's Kingdom. (Galatians 5:19-21) As discerning Christians, then, let us be "swift  about hearing, slow about speaking, slow about wrath." -James 1:19.

If we do become angry, discernment may indicate  that we should keep quiet so as to avoid conflagration. Proverbs 17:27 says:  "Anyone holding back his sayings is possessed of knowledge, and a man of discernment is cool of spirit."  Discernment and brotherly love will help us to see the need to control an urge to blurt out something hurtful. If an outburst of anger has already occurred, love and humility will move us to apologize and make amends.   But suppose someone has offended us.  Then let us speak to him alone in a mild and humble way and with the principal objective of promoting peace. -Matthew 5:23, 24; 18:15-17.

Next time: Discernment and Our Family

From the Watchtower magazine 1997 

Discernment and Our Conduct

Bible proverbs help us to use discernment and avoid improper conduct.  For example, Proverbs 10:23 says: "To the stupid one the carrying on of loose conduct is like sport, but wisdom  is for the man of discernment."  Those to whim loose conduct is "like sport" are blind to the wrongness of their course and discount to God as the one to whom all must render an account. (Romans 14:12) Such 'stupid ones'  become perverted in their reasoning to the point of assuming that God does not see their wrongdoing.  By their actions, they in effect say:  "There is no Jehovah." (Psalm 14:1-3; Isaiah 29:15, 16) Not being guided by godly principles, they lack discernment and cannot judge matters correctly.- Proverbs 28:5.

"The man of discernment" realizes that loose conduct is not "sport," a game. He knows that it displeases God and can destroy our relationship with him.  Such conduct is stupid because it robs people of self-respect, ruins marriages, harms both  mind and body, and leads to loss of spirituality.  Let us therefore incline our heart to discernment and avoid loose conduct or immorality of any kind. -Proverbs 5:1-23. 

Next time: Discernment and Our Spirit

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Discernment and Our Speech

Discernment helps us to realize that there is "a time to keep quiet and a time to speak." (Ecclesiastes 3:7)  This quality also makes us careful about what we say. Proverbs 11:12, 13 states:  "The one in want of heart has despised his own fellowman, but the man  of broad discernment is one that keeps silent.  The one walking  about is a slanderer uncovering confidential talk, but the one faithful in spirit is covering over a matter."  Yes, a man or a woman who despises  another person is in want of heart."  According to lexicographer Wilhelm Gesenius,  such an individual is "void of understanding." He or she lacks good judgment, and the use of the term "heart" shows that positive qualities of the inner person are deficient.  If a professing Christian should  carry his or her loose talk to the point of slander or reviling, appointed elders must act to put an end to this unwholesome situation in the congregation. -Leviticus 19:16; Psalm  101:5; 1 Corinthians 5:11. 

Unlike those "in want of heart," individuals of "broad discernment" keep silent when it is appropriate to do so.  They do not betray a confidence. (Proverbs 20:19)  Knowing that unguarded speech can cause harm, discerning ones are "faithful in spirit."  They are loyal to fellow believers and do not divulge confidential matters that might endanger them. If discerning Christians receive confidential information of any kind pertaining to the congregation, they keep it to themselves until Jehovah's organization sees good to make it known by its own means of publication.

Next time: Discernment and Our Conduct

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

INCLINE YOUR HEART TO DISCERNMENT

JEHOVAH is our Grand Instructor.  (Isaiah 30:20, 21) But what must we do to benefit from  "the very knowledge of God" revealed in his Word?  In part, we must 'incline our heart to discernment'-have a heart-felt desire to acquire and display this quality.  For this, we must look to God, for the wise man said:  "Jehovah himself gives wisdom; our of his mouth there are knowledge and discernment." (Proverbs 2:1-6) What are knowledge and discernment?

Knowledge is familiarity with facts acquired by experience, observation, or study.  Wisdom is the ability to put knowledge to work.  (Matthew 11:19)  King Solomon displayed wisdom  when two women claimed  the same child and he used his knowledge  of a mother's devotion to her offspring to settle the dispute.  (1 Kings 3:16-28) Discernment is "acuteness of judgment."  It is "the power or faculty of the mind by which it distinguishes one thing from another." (Webster's  Universal Dictionary) If we incline our heart to discernment, Jehovah will give  it to us through his Son.  (2 Timothy 2:1, 7) But how can discernment affect various aspects of life?

Next time: Discernment and Our Speech 

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

A Fine Balance

It is important to recognize, however, that because of our circumstances and limitations, some privileges may not be received. Setting  them as goals leads only to disappointment and frustration. Such goals should be set aside, at least for the time being.  Doing this will not be difficult if we pray for godly contentment and make the doing of Jehovah's will our chief concern. When we reach out for privileges, Jehovah's glory-not the recognition of our personal accomplishments-is important. (Psalm 16:5, 6; Matthew 6:33) The Bible appropriately  tells us:  "Roll your works upon Jehovah himself and your plans  will be firmly established." -Proverbs 16:3. 

In considering the 84th Psalm, we can see that the psalmist manifested each an attitude toward service privileges, and Jehovah blessed him richly.  Moreover, this psalm continues to benefit Jehovah's people down to this day.

With prayerful reliance upon Jehovah, you can balance your longing for additional privileges with contentment with those you now enjoy. Never let the desire to do more rob you of appreciation for what you have now and the joy of serving Jehovah forever.  Trust in Jehovah, for this results in happiness as shown in the Levite's words:  "O Jehovah of armies, happy is the man that is trusting in you." -Psalm 84:12.

Next time: INCLINE YOUR HEART TO DISCERNMENT

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Set Attainable Goals

Our being content with current service privileges does not require that we stop setting further theocratic goals. In discussing the heavenly resurrection, Paul spoke of  "stretching forward to the things ahead." He also said: "To what extent we have mad progress, let us go walking orderly in the same routine." (Philippians 3:13-16) Theocratic goals can help us stretch forward. The challenged, however, is to keep them realistic.

Realistic goals are reasonable and attainable. (Philippians 4:5)  This does not mean that a goal requiring several years of hard work is unrealistic.   Such a long-ranged goal can be reached gradually by setting a series of intermediate goals, or steps.  These can serve as markers for spiritual progress.  Successfully completing each step  will provide  a sense of satisfaction along the way rather than disappointment.

Next time: A Fine Balance 

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Do Not Become Discouraged

If we do not receive a certain privilege of service, we need not conclude that Jehovah has move love  for those who do not enjoy it or that he is holding back good from us. Surely, we should not enviously assume that these others  have undeservedly obtained their privileges through human favoritism instead of theocratic appointment. Brooding over such ideas may lead to jealousy, contention, and even to our giving up altogether. -1 Corinthians 3:3; James 3:14-16. 

Laura mentioned at the outset, did not give up. She eventually came to grips with her feelings of anger and  jealousy. Laura repeatedly prayed to God for help to overcome her negative reaction to her being unable to pioneer.  She also sought assistance from qualified men in the congregation and felt reassured of God's love.  "Jehovah gave me peace of mind," she said.  "While my husband  and I can't pioneer  now,we cherish the time when we did and draw strength from experiences that we had. We also help our grown son in his pioneering."  Being content, Laura is not able to "rejoice with people who rejoice" in their pioneer service. -Romans 12:15.

Next time: Set Attainable Goals

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Conclusion of Learn to Be Content

Christian meetings are also  a sacred provision not to be taken lightly. At our meetings, we receive vital instruction and enjoy  needed fellowship.  At meetings we can also make public expression of our faith and hope by commenting regularly and by sharing in the program in other ways. (Hebrews 10:23-25) Our meetings are indeed a provision to be cherished!

Michael, mentioned earlier, valued these blessings highly and appreciated them deeply.  But his disappointment at not being able to serve as elder pushed his appreciation for them into the background temporarily.  By refocusing on them, he was able to regain his equilibrium  and patiently wait on Jehovah. 

Rather than feeling discontent because of not having a certain privilege,w e do well to reexamine the ways that Jehovah is blessing us, as did the psalmist.  If we fail to see much, we need to loo again,asking Jehovah to open our eyes to see our privileges and the ways that he is blessing us and using us to his praise.-Proverbs 10:22. 

It is also important to realize that special privileges, such as the office of overseer, call for specific qualifications.  (1 Timothy 3:1-7; Titus 1:5-9) So we need  to examine ourselves , looking for any ares where improvement is needed and then make earnest efforts to improve. -1 Timothy 4:12-15. 

Next time: Do Not Become Discouraged

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Learn to Be Content

"A day in your courtyards is better than a thousand elsewhere," says the Levite.  "I have chose to stand at the threshold in the house of my God rather than to move around in the tents of wickedness." (Psalm 84:10)  He appreciated that spending even one day at Jehovah's house is an inestimable privilege. And the Levite had far more than one day to serve the temple.  His contentment with is privileges made him sing for joy. 

What about us? Do we count our blessings, or do we tend to forget  what we already have in Jehovah's service?  Because of their devotion to him, Jehovah has entrusted to his people a wide range of privileges and duties.  These include the heavier responsibilities  of oversight, shepherding, teaching, and various features of the full-time service. But they also involve other precious things having to do with Jehovah's worship.

For example, consider the Christian ministry.  The apostle Paul likens our privilege of preaching the good news to our having a "treasure in earthen vessels." (2 Corinthians 4:7) Do you look upon such service as a priceless treasure?  Jesus Christ, who spearheaded Kingdom-preaching activity, viewed it that way, setting the pattern.  (Matthew 4:17) "Since we have this ministry . . ., we do no give up," said Paul. -2 Corinthians 4:1. 

Next time: Conclusion of: Learn to Be Content

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

A Levite's Appreciation

The composers of the 84th Psalm were the sons of Korah, Levites who served at Jehovah's temple and highly esteemed their service privileges.  "How lovely your grand tabernacle  is, O Jehovah of armies!"   One of them exclaims.  "My soul has yearned and also pined away for the courtyards of Jehovah. My own heart and my very flesh cry out joyfully to the living God." -Psalm 84:1, 2. 

This Levite had such a  longing to serve at Jehovah's temple that even the ordinary scenery along the way to Jerusalem appeared attractive to him.  'Passing along through the low plain of the baca bushes," he said, "they turn it into a spring itself." (Psalm 84:6) Yes,  a normally dry area was like a well-watered region. 

Because the psalmist was a nonpriestly Levite, he could serve at the temple for only one week every six months.  (1 Chronicles 24:1-19; 2 Chronicles 23:8; Luke 1:5, 8, 9) The rest of his time was spent at home in one of the Levite cities. He therefore sang: "Even the bird itself has found a house, and the swallow a nest for herself. , where she has put her young ones-your grand altar, O Jehovah of armies, my King and my God!" (Psalm 84:3)  How happy the Levites would have been if he was like the birds that had a more permanent dwelling place at the temple!

It would have bee easy for the Levite to give in to bitterness because he could not serve at the temple more often. However, he was pleased to serve as he could, and he surely realized that wholehearted devotion to Jehovah is worth the effort. What helped this faithful Levite to remain content with his service privileges? 

Next time: Learn to Be Content

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Do You Long To Serve More Fully?

"I WAS angry with Jehovah," says Laura.  "I prayed and prayed that he would help us fix our financial problems so that I could continue to pioneer-but to no avail. I finally had to get off the pioneer list. I must also admit that I was jealous of those who would continue." 

Consider, too, the case of Michael, a ministerial servant in a congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses. He had been reaching out for the office of overseer.  (1 Timothy 3:1)  When his longing went unfulfilled for several years, he became so bitter that he no longer wanted to be considered, for the privilege. "I just couldn't bear the pain of disappointment again," he says. 

 Have you had a similar experience? Have you had to relinquish  a beloved theocratic  privilege?  For instance, have you had to stop serving as a pioneer, a full-time Kingdom proclaimer?  Or do you long for certain congregation responsibilities entrusted to others?   It may even be that you keenly desire to serve at Bethel or as a missionary, but your circumstances do not allow it.

"Expectation postponed is making the heart sick," acknowledges the book of Proverbs. (Proverbs 13:12) This may especially be so when others receive the very privileges that you hope for. Does God's Word provide insight, comfort, and hope for any  who experience such disappointments?  Yes, it does.  In fact, the 84th Psalm expresses the sentiments of a servant of Jehovah who had similar unfulfilled desires regarding Jehovah's service. 

Next time: A Levite's Appreciation

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

Believing Though Not Seeing

The apostle Thomas had difficulty exercising faith in Jesus' resurrection from the dead.  "Unless I see in his hands the print of the nails and stick my finger into his side, I will certainly not believe," Thomas declared.  When Jesus later materialized body that displayed the wounds of his impalement, Thomas responded favorably to this miracle. However, Jesus said:  "Happy are those who do not see and yet believe." -John 20:25-29.

Today, millions of Jehovah's Witnesses are "walking by faith, not by sight." (2 Corinthians 5:7)  Although they did not see the miracles recorded in the Bible, they firmly believe that these occurred.  The Witnesses exercise faith in God and his Word. With the help of his spirit, they are able to understand the Bible's teachings and its predominant theme-the vindication of Jehovah God's sovereignty by means of his heavenly Kingdom.  (Matthew 6:9, 10; 2 Timothy 3:16, 17) With great benefit to themselves, these genuine Christians apply the Bible's wise counsel in life. (Psalm 119:105; Isaiah 48:17, 18)  They accept the irrefutable proof that Bible prophecies mark our time as "the last days," and they have faith that God's promised new world is near at hand.  (2 Timothy 3:1-5; Matthew 24:3-14; 2 Peter 3:13)  For them it is a joy to share the knowledge of God with others. (Proverbs 2:1-5)  They know that it is only through a study of the Scriptures that those seeking God can truly find him. -Acts 17:26, 27. 

Do you recall Albert, who was mentioned in the previous article?  A few days after his prayer for a miracle had gone unanswered, he was visited by Jehovah's Witnesses, and elder woman who left some Bible-based literature with him. Albert therefore accepted a free home Bible study. As he became better acquainted with the Bible's message, his disappointment turned to excitement. He began to realize that he had found God after all.

The Scriptures urge:  "Search for Jehovah, you people, whole he may be found. Call to him while he proves to be near." (Isaiah 55:6)  You can do this, not by awaiting a modern-day miracle from God, but by gaining accurate knowledge of his Word. This is a necessity, for miracles alone do not build faith.  

Note: You see by sending the Jehovah's Witnesses to Albert's apartment, God has in a round about way answered Albert's prayer; in order to show and teach Albert that there are no miracles performed anymore and that in order to understand God and his ways and words in the Bible, he needed these Jehovah's Witnesses to teach him all that he needed to know to learn about and love Jehovah.  God may not always directly intervene. He will find other ways to help someone.  Or guide them to learn what they need  to learn or to help them.  

Next time:Do You Long To Serve More Fully?

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

The Meaning of True Faith

Faith is more than true belief. It is also more than a momentary emotional reaction to some miracle.  Says Hebrews 11:1: "Faith is the assured expectation  of things hoped for, the evident demonstration of realities though not beheld." An individual having faith is convince in his heart that everything Jehovah God promises is as good as fulfilled. Moreover, the undeniable  proof of unseen  realities is so powerful that faith itself is said to be equivalent to that evidence. Yes, faith  is based one evidence. And in times past, miracles played a role in the development of faith or the building of it.  The signs performed  by Jesus served to convince others that he was the promised Messiah. (Matthew 8:16, 17; Hebrews 2:2-4)  Similarly such gifts  of God's holy spirit, or active force, as miraculous healing and speaking in tongues proved that the Jews no longer had Jehovah's favor but that  his approval now rested on the Christian congregation, established by his Son, Jesus Christ. -1 Corinthians 12:7-11.

Among the miraculous gifts of the spirit was the ability to prophesy. When unbelievers observed this miracle, some were move to worship Jehovah declaring: "God is really among you." (1 Corinthians 114:22-25)  However, Jehovah God did not intend  that miracles  be a permanent feature of Christian worship. Accordingly, the apostle Paul wrote:  "Whether  there are gifts of prophesying, they will be done away with; whether there are tongues, they will cease." (1 Corinthians 13:8) These gifts evidently ceased with the death of the apostles and those who had received gifts by means of them. 

Would people then be left without a basis for faith? No, for Paul said:  "[God] did not leave himself without witness in that he did good, giving you rains from heaven and fruitful seasons, filling your hearts to the full with food and good cheer." (Acts 14:17)  Indeed, to honesthearted ones who are willing  to open their minds and hearts to the evidence that surrounds us, Jehovah God's "invisible qualities are clearly seen from the world's creation onward, because they are perceived  by the things made, even his eternal power and Godship so that they [those who deny God] are inexcusable." -Romans 1:20.

More than belief in God's existence is needed. Paul urged:  "Quit being fashioned after this system of things, but be transformed by making your mind over, that you may prove to yourselves the good and acceptable perfect will of God."  (Romans 12:2) This can be done by diligently studying the Scriptures  with the aid of Christian publications, such as this magazine. Faith, based on accurate knowledge  of God's Word, the Bible, is not weak or shallow. Those who have discerned God's will and are doing it in faith are rendering sacred service to God. -Romans 12:1. 

Next time:Believing Though Not Seeing

From the Watchtower magazine, 1997

How Miracles Did Not Build Faith

How can such lack of faith exist in the face of miracles? Rejection of Jesus by Jewish religious leader seems especially puzzling when you consider that at the very time that he began his ministry, the Jews as a whole were "in expectation" of "the Christ," or the Messiah. (Luke 3:15) However, the problem lay in what those expectations  were.  Lexicographer W.E.Vine quotes a well-known Bible scholar as saying that the Jews were obsessed with the idea of a Messiah who would give them "temporal triumph" and "material greatness."  Hence, they were not prepared for the humble, non political Jesus of Nazareth, who appeared in their midst  as the true Messiah in 29 C.E. The religious leaders also feared that Jesus' teachings would upset the existing state of affairs and jeopardize their prominent positions. (John 11:48)  (Oh Boo-hoo!) Their preconceived ideas  and selfishness blinded them to the meaning of  Jesus' miracles.

Jewish religious leaders and others later rejected the miraculous proof that Jesus' followers enjoyed divine favor.  For example, when his apostles healed a man lame from birth, irate members of the Jewish high court asked:  "What shall we do with these men? Because, for a fact, a noteworthy sign has occurred through them, one manifest to all the inhabitants of Jerusalem; and we cannot deny it. Nevertheless, in order that it may be spread abroad further among the people, let us tell them with threats not to speak anymore upon the basis of this name to any man at all." (Acts 3:1-8; 4:13-17) Clearly, this wonderful miracles had not built or produced faith in the hearts of those men. 

Ambition, pride, and greed are factors that have moved many to shut the doors of their hearts. This appears to have been the case with Korah, Dathan, and Abiram, mentioned at the outset. Jealousy, fear, and a host of other hurtful attitudes have hindered others. We are reminded, too, of the disobedient angels, the demons, who once had the privilege of looking upon the very face of God.  (Matthew 18:10) They do not doubt the existence of God. Indeed, "the demons believe and shudder." (James 2:19) Yet, they have no faith in God. 

Next time: The Meaning of True Faith

From the Watchtower magazine, 1996

WHY MIRACLES ALONE DO NOT BUILD FAITH

SEEING is believing.  That is the view of many. Some say that they would believe in God if he were to reveal himself in some miraculous way.  Perhaps that is so,but would such belief lead to genuine faith? 

Consider the Israelites  Korah, Dathan, and Abiram. The Bible shows that they were eyewitnesses of these awe-inspiring miracles from God: the ten plagues upon Egypt, the escape of the nation of Israel through the Red Sea, and the annihilation of the Egyptian Pharaoh and his military force. (Exodus 7:19-11:10; 12:29-32; Psalm 136:15) Korah, Dathan, and Abiram also heard Jehovah speak from heaven at Mount Sinai.  (Deuteronomy 4:11, 12) Yet, not long after these miracles occurred, the three men instigated a rebellion against Jehovah and his appointed servants. -Numbers 16:1-35; Psalm 106:16-18.

About 40 years later, a prophet named Balaam also witnesses a miracle. Even angelic intervention did not deter  him from siding with God's enemies, the Moabites . That miracle notwithstanding, Balaam went ahead and took a stand against Jehovah God and His people. (Number 22:1-35; 2 Peter 2:15, 16) Balaam's lack of faith, however, pales alongside that of Judas Iscariot.  Despite having been a close companion of Jesus and an eyewitness to an extraordinary array of miracles, Judas betrayed Christ for thirty silver pieces. -Matthew 26:14-16, 47-50; 27:3-5. 

The Jewish religious leaders were also aware of Jesus' many miracles. After he resurrected Lazarus, they even admitted: "This man performs many signs." But did the sight of the now-living Lazarus soften their hearts and give them faith?  No, indeed. Instead, they schemed to kill both Jesus and Lazarus! -John  11:47-53; 12:10. 

Even direct intervention by God failed to produce faith in those wicked men. While Jesus was in the temple precincts on one occasion, he prayed aloud:  "Father, glorify your name."  Jehovah replied in a voice out of heaven:  "I both glorified it and will glorify it again." Yet, this miraculous event did not produce faith in the hearts of those present. Says the Bible:  "Although he had performed many signs before them, they were not putting faith in him." -John 12:28-30, 37; compare Ephesians 3:17.

Next time: Why Miracles Did Not Build Faith

From the Watchtower, 1997

Faith in God-Should it call for a miracle?

ALBERT was in his early 20's when he began searching for God.  He tried a number of religions but remained dissatisfied. Reading parts of the Bible, he learned how God dealt with such individuals as Noah, Abraham, Sarah, and Moses. Albert found himself drawn to the God of the Bible.  Could he, however, be sure that God really exists? 

One evening Albert drove to an isolated place where he prayed, "Please God, give me a sign-anything to prove that you exist." Albert waited and waited. He recalls that when nothing happened, his expectation  "turned to disappointment, to emptiness, to anger." 

Like Albert many feel that they have searched for God in vain.  They may be confused by the sermons of clergymen or disillusioned by the salesmanship of television evangelizers.  Struck by the hyprocisy evident among  many of their neighbors, some are not sure what to believe. Yet, King David of ancient Israel assured his son Solomon:  "If you search for [God], he will let himself be found by you." -1 Chronicles 28:9. 

Well, then, how does God reveal himself?  Should you expect a sign-some supernatural experience that will prove to you that God exists? According to a recent poll reported in Time magazine, more than two thirds of Americans believe in miracles.  the article also noted that  "the fastest-growing churches in America are the Charismatic and Pentecostal congregations whose worship revolves around 'signs and wonders.' " (Then they are deluding themselves)

Should it really take "signs and wonders" to believe in God? (No!) He has used miracles in times past.  To illustrate:  Saul of Tarsus,m who was persecuting the followers of God's Son, Jesus Christ, had an extraordinary experience on the road from Jerusalem to Damascus.  This  miraculous encounter with the resurrected Jesus led to Saul's conversion. (Acts 9:1-22)  Thus a former persecutor became the apostle Paul-one of the foremost advocates of Christianity! 

But do miracles always evoke such a favorable response?  Is genuine faith in God dependent upon one's having some miraculous experience? 

Next time: Why Miracles Alone Do Not Build Faith

From: Watchtower, 1997

THE FAMILY AND YOUR FUTURE

Jesus was raised in a godly family and, as an adult, showed a son's proper concern for his mother. (Luke 2:51, 52; John 19:26) However, Jesus' prime objective was to fulfill God's will, and for him this  included opening up the way for humans to enjoy everlasting life. This he did when he offered his perfect human life as a ransom for sinful mankind. -Mark 10:45; John 5:28, 20. 

After Jesus' death, Jehovah raised him to heavenly life and gave him great authority, eventually installing him as King in the heavenly Kingdom. (Matthew 28:18; Romans 14:9; Revelation 11:15)  Jesus' sacrifice made it possible for some humans to be selected to rule with him in that Kingdom.  It also opened the way for the rest of righthearted human kind to enjoy perfect life on an earth restored  to paradisaic conditions.  (Revelation 5:9, 10; 14:1, 4; 21:3-5; 22:1-4)  One of the greatest privileges we have today is to tell this glorious good news to our neighbors. -Matthew 24:14. 

As the apostle Paul showed, living a life of godly devotion holds the promise that people can inherit those blessings in the life "which is to come."  Surely, this is the very best way to find happiness! Remember , "the world is passing away and so is its desire, but he that does the will of God remains forever."  (1 John 2:17) Hence, whether you are a child or a parent, a husband or a wife, or a single adult with or without children, strive to do God's will. Even when  you are under pressure or are faced with extreme difficulties, never forget that you are a servant of God.  Thus, may your actions bring joy to Jehovah.  (Proverbs 27:11) And may your conduct result in happiness for you now and everlasting life in the new world to come!

Next time: Faith in God -Should it call for a miracle?

From the book: Watchtower, 1997

THE FAMILY THAT DOES GOD'S WILL

A Christian's whole life is centered on doing the will of God.  (Psalm 143:10) This is what godly devotion really means. Doing God's will helps families to keep their eyes on the truly important things. (Philippians 1:9, 10)  For example, Jesus warned:  "I came to cause division, with a man against his father and a daughter against her mother, and a young wife against her mother-in-law. Indeed, a man's enemies will be persons of his own household."  (Matthew 10:35, 36) True to Jesus' warning, many  of his followers have been persecuted by family members.  What a sad, painful situation!  Still, family ties should not outweigh our love for Jehovah God and for Jesus Christ. (Matthew 10:37-39)  If one endures despite family opposition, the opposers may change when they see the good effects of godly devotion. (1 Corinthians 7:12-16; 1 Peter 3:1, 2)  Even if that does not happen, no lasting good is gained by ceasing to serve God because of opposition.

Doing God's will helps parents to make right decisions. For example, in some communities parents tend to view children as an investment, and they count on their children to care for them in their old age.  While it is right and proper for grown children to care  for their aging parents, such a consideration should not make parents direct their children to a materialistic way of life. Parents do their children no favor if they bring them up to value material possessions more than spiritual things. -1 Timothy 6:9. 

A find example in this regard is Eunice, the mother of Paul's young friend Timothy.  (2 Timothy 1:5) Although she was married to an unbeliever, Eunice, along with Timothy's grandmother Lois, successfully raised Timothy to pursue godly devotion. (2 Timothy 3:14, 15) When Timothy was old enough, Eunice allowed him to leave home and take up the Kingdom -preaching work as Paul's missionary companion.  (Acts 16:1-5) How thrilled she must have been when her son became an outstanding missionary!  His godly devotion as an adult reflected well on his early training. Surely, Eunice found satisfaction and joy in hearing reports of Timothy's faithful ministry, even though she probably missed having him with her. -Philippians 2:19, 20.

Next time: THE FAMILY AND YOUR FUTURE

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996

THE VITAL ROLE OF LOVE

The word "love" appears repeatedly throughout this book.  Do you remember the kind of love primarily referred to?  It is true that romantic love (Greek, e'ros) plays  a part in marriage, and in successful marriages, deep affection and friendship (Greek, phi-li'a) grow between a husband and a wife. But even more important is he love represented by the Greek word  a-ga'pe.  This is the love that we cultivate for Jehovah, for Jesus, and for our neighbor.  (Matthew 22:37-39)  It is the love Jehovah expresses toward mankind.  (John 3:16) How wonderful that we can show the same kind of love for our marriage mate and children! -1 John 4:19.

In marriage this elevated love is truly "a perfect bond of union." (Colossians 3:14)  It binds a couple together and make them want to do what is best for each other and for their children. When families face difficult situations, love helps them to handle things unitedly. As a couple get older, love helps them to support and continue appreciating each other.  "Love . . .does not look for its own interests. . . .It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." -1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

The marriage union is especially strong when it is sealed not just by love between marriage mates, but primarily by love for Jehovah. (Ecclesiastes  4:9-12) Why? Well, the apostle  John wrote:  "This is what the love of God means, that we observe his commandments." (1 John 5:3) Thus, a couple should train their children in godly devotion not simply because they love their children deeply but because this is Jehovah's command.  (Deuteronomy 6:6, 7)  They should shun immorality not only because they love each other but chiefly because they love Jehovah, who "will judge fornicators and adulterers." (Hebrews 13:4) Even if one partner causes severe problems in a marriage, love for Jehovah will move the other to continue following the Bible principles.  Happy indeed, are those families in which love for one another is cemented by love for Jehovah! 

Next time: THE FAMILY THAT DOES GOD'S WILL

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996

"BE SWIFT ABOUT HEARING"

In this book the need for communication is frequently  highlighted. Why?  Because things work better when people talk to and really listen to each other.  It was repeatedly emphasized that communication is a two-way street. The disciple James expressed it this way:  "Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking." -James 1:19.

It is also important to be careful about how we speak.  Rash, contentious, or severely critical words do not constitute successful communication.  (Proverbs 15:1; 21:9; 29:11, 20)  Even when what we say is correct, if it is expressed in a cruel, proud, or insensitive manner, it is likely to do more harm than good.  Our speech should be tasteful, "seasoned with salt." (Colossians 4:6) Our words should be like "apples of gold in silver carvings." (Proverbs 25:11)  Families that learn to communicate well have taken a major stride toward achieving happiness.  


Next time: THE VITAL ROLE OF LOVE

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996

A PROPER VIEW OF HEADSHIP

The second important principle is recognition of headship. Paul described the proper order of things when he said:  "I want you to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn the head of a woman is the man; in turn the head of the Christ is God." (1 Corinthians 11:3)  This means that a man takes the lead in the family, his wife is loyally supportive, and the children are obedient to their parents.  (Ephesians 5:22-25, 28-33; 6:1-4)  Notice, though, that headship leads to happiness only when it is handled in a proper way.  Husbands  who live with godly devotion know that headship is not dictatorship.    They imitate Jesus, their Head. Although Jesus was to be "head over all things," he "came, not to be ministered to, but to minister."  (Ephesians 1:22; Matthew 20:28) In a similar way, a Christian  man exercises headship, not to benefit himself, but to care for the interests of his wife and children. -1 Corinthians 13:4-5. 

For her part, the wife who lives with godly devotion does not compete with or seek to dominate her husband.  She is happy to be supportive of him and to work with him.  The Bible sometimes speaks of the wife being  "owned" by her husband, leaving no doubt that he is her head. (Genesis 20:3) Through marriage she comes under "the law of her husband." (Romans 7:2) At the same time, the Bible calls her a "helper" and a "complement." (Genesis 2:20) She supplies qualities and abilities that her husband lacks, and she gives him needed support. (Proverbs 31:10-31) The Bible also says that a wife is a "partner," one who works side by side with her mate.  (Malachi 2:14)  (which is a man, men and women only should be married with each other. God's Words) These Scriptural principles help a husband and wife to appreciate each other's position and to treat each other with proper respect and dignity. 

Next time: "BE SWIFT ABOUT HEARING"

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996

THE VALUE OF SELF-CONTROL

King Solomon said:  "As a city broken through, without a wall, is the man tha that has no restraint for his spirit."  (Proverbs 25:28; 29:11)  'Restraining one's spirit,' exercising self-control, is vital for those who want a happy marriage.  Surrendering to destructive emotions, such as rage or immoral lust, will cause damage that takes years to repair-if it can be repaired at all.

Of course, no descendant of Adam can full control his imperfect flesh.  (Romans 7:21, 22) Still, self-control is a fruit of the spirit.  (Galatians 5:22, 23) Hence, God's spirit will produce self-control in  us if we pray for this quality, if we apply the appropriate counsel that is found in the Scriptures, and if we associate with others who manifest it and avoid  those who do not.  (Psalm 119:100, 101, 130; Proverbs 13:20; 1 Peter 4:7)  Such a course will help us to "flee from fornication,"  even when we are tempted.  (1 Corinthians 6:18)  we will reject violence and will avoid or conquer alcoholism. And we will deal more calmly  with provocations and difficult situations.  May all-including children-learn to cultivate this vital fruit of the spirit. -Psalm 119:1, . 

Next time: A PROPER VIEW OF HEADSHIP

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996

SECURE A LASTING FUTURE FOR YOUR FAMILY, CHAPTER SIXTEEN

WHEN Jehovah united Adam and Eve in marriage, Adam expressed his joy by speaking the earliest recorded Hebrew poetry.  (Genesis 2:22,23) However, the Creator had more in mind than merely bringing pleasure to his human children.   He wanted married couples and families to do his will. He told the first pair:  "Be fruitful and become many and fill the earth and subdue it, and have in subjection the fish of the sea and the flying creatures of the heavens and every living creature that is moving upon the earth." (Genesis 1:28) What a grand, rewarding assignment that was! How happy they and their future children would have been if Adam and Eve had done Jehovah's will in full obedience! 

Today, too, families are happiest when they work together to do God's will.  The apostle Paul wrote:  "Godly devotion is beneficial for all things, as it hold promise  of the life now and that which is to come."  (1 Timothy 4:8) A family that  lives with godly devotion and that follows Jehovah's guidance as contained in the Bible will find happiness in "the life now." (Psalm 1:1-3; 119:105; 2 Timothy 3:16)  Even if only one member of a family applies Bible principles, things are better than if no one does.

This book has discussed many Bible principles that contribute  to family happiness.  Likely you have noticed that some of them appear repeatedly throughout the book. Why? Because they represent powerful truths that  work for the good of all in various aspects  of family life.  A family that strives to apply these Bible principles  finds that godly devotion really holds "promise of the life now.' Let us look again at four of those important principles. 

Next time: THE VALUE OF SELF-CONTROL

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996