BE REALISTIC

An element that sometimes leads to problems is the unrealistic expectations that one or both of the marriage partners may have. Romance novels, popular magazines, television programs, and movies can create hopes and dreams that are far removed  from real life.  When these dreams do not come true, a person can feel cheated, dissatisfied even bitter.  How, though, can two imperfect people find happiness in marriage?  It takes work to achieve a successful relationship. 

The Bible is practical. It acknowledges the joys of marriage, but it also warns that those who marry "will have tribulation in their flesh." (1 Corinthians 7:28)  As already noted, both partners are imperfect and are prone to sin.  The mental and emotional makeup and the upbringing of each partner are different .  Couples sometimes disagree  about money, children  and in-laws.  Insufficient time to do things together and sexual problems can also be  a source of conflict.  It takes time to address such matters, but take heart!  Most couples are able to face such problems and work out mutually acceptable solutions. 

Next time: DISCUSS DIFFERENCES

From the book: THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS, 1996