How to Show Appreciation

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Be Observant.  During the coming week, notice positive traits that your spouse displays. Also, watch for things that he or she does to keep your household running smoothly-things that perhaps until now you have taken for granted.  At the end of the week, make a list of (1) traits that you appreciate in your spouse and (2) things that he or she did for the benefit of your family. -Bible principle:  Philippians 4:8.

Why is being observant necessary?  "After you've been married  for  a few years," says a wife named Erika, "you can start to take your spouse for granted. You stop noticing the good things he does and tend to focus more on what he isn't doing." 

Ask yourself: 'Do I take my spouse's hard work for granted?'  For example, if you husband fixes things around the house, do you hold back from thanking him because you feel that it is his duty to take care of such chores?  If you are a husband, do you feel that your wife's efforts in child-rearing do not merit commendation because she is simply doing what is expected of her?  Make it a goal to notice and be grateful for all the efforts-both large and small-that your spouse  makes for the benefit of your family. -Bible principle:  Romans 12:10.

Give praise generously.  The Bible does not just say that we should be thankful but says:  "Show yourselves thankful."  (Colossians 3:15)  So try to get into the habit of thanking your spouse. A husband name James says, "When my wife expresses appreciation for the things I do, it makes me work harder to be a better husband and to  increase the effort I put into the marriage." -Bible principle:  Colossians 4:6.

Husbands and wives who express appreciation for each other strengthen their relationship.  "I believe that many marriages could be saved if spouses kept to the fore what they like about each other," says a husband name Michael.  "When problems arise, they'd be less inclined to end the marriage, because they have constantly been reminded of what good thing they have."  

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From the Awake! magazine