Five Bible Principles/How to Be a Good Father

2. Good Fathers Are Good Communicators

In order to communicate effectively with your children, you must be a careful listener.  You need to cultivate the ability to listen without overreacting.

If your children think that you will lose your temper quickly and be judgmental,  they will have little incentive to express their inner feelings to you. But if you listen to them calmly, you will show that you are genuinely interested in them.  They will in turn be far more likely to share their precious thoughts and feelings with you.

Bible Principle:  The practical wisdom found in the Bible has proved to be beneficial in many aspects of daily life.  For instance,  the Bible says: "Every man must be swift about hearing, show about speaking, slow about wrath." (James 1:19)  Fathers who apply this Bible principle are able to communicate better with their children. 

3. Give Loving Discipline and Commendation

Even when you feel frustrated or angry, the discipline you administer should be any expression of loving concern for the long-term welfare of your child.  It includes advice, correction, education, and chastisement when needed.

Furthermore, discipline is much more effective when a father commends his children regularly. An ancient proverb says:  "As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it."  (Proverbs 25:11)  Commendation enriches a child's character.  Children blossom when they are acknowledge and appreciated. A father who looks for opportunities to give commendation  will help to build confidence in his children and motivate them not to give up trying to do what is right.

Bible Principle: "You fathers , do not be exasperating your children, so that they do become downhearted." -Colossians 3:21.

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