HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE/When You Are Disappointed With Your Marriage

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Focus on your spouse's good qualities.  Try this. Write down three positive qualities that your mate possesses.  Keep the list with you, perhaps on the back of a small wedding picture or in a mobile device. Regularly refer to this list as a reminder of why you married your spouse.  Focusing on the positive qualities of your mate promotes peace and will help you put up with your differences. -Bible principle:  Romans 14:19. 

Plan special time together. Before you were married, likely you both set aside time to do things together. Dating was new and exciting, but it was not left to chance.  Why not do something similar now?  Plan occasions here you and your spouse can spend special times together, as if on a date. Doing so can help you draw closer to each other and enable you to cope better with life's unexpected problems. -Bible principle:  Proverbs 5:18. 

Discuss your feelings.  If you have been hurt by your spouse's words or actions, can you overlook the matter? If not, do not play games by resorting to the silent treatment. Calmly talk things out with your mate as soon as you can, that very day if at all possible. -Bible principle: Ephesians 4:26. 

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