DO YOU NEED MORE TIME?

IF YOU checked off the second or third choice for most of the accompanying questions, you probably do need more time. And you are not alone. Almost everywhere people are under pressure  to do what must be done-and that may have nothing to do with what is truly important to them. Instead, it may have everything to do with the demands of the moment-fixing the car, satisfying the boss, handling unexpected interruptions.  As you respond to one crisis after another, you may feel you have no control over how your time is spent. You may even feel that you are rushing through life without experiencing it. 

Of course, you tell yourself that this is all temporary. Eventually,  life will slow down, and you will have  time to focus on the things that really matter to you-the things that enrich your life as well as that of your family  and others. But when?  Do you see an opening in your schedule today?  This week? Next month?

Realistically, the world around you is unlikely to slow down. But you can take action to create the time you need.  How might you do that?

How often do you have time for things that are truly important to you? 

O Every day
O On weekends
O Hardly ever

During a typical day, do you 

O Do what you planned to do?
O Follow an imposed routine that gets in the way of your plans?
O Respond impulsively to whatever demands arise?

During a typical day, do you feel 

O In control?
O Pressured to meet unreasonable demands?
O Helplessly pushed from one activity to the next?

At the end of the day, have you

O Accomplished the important things?
O Finished the necessary work perhaps poorly ? 
O Had no time for what really matters?

How do you actually feel at the end of the day?

O Satisfied and fulfilled
O Empty, tired, and tense
O Frustrated 

Next time: DO YOU NEED MORE TIME? -TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR TIME

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2010

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/WORK

Does it matter what kind of work you do?

WHAT SOME PEOPLE SAY If the pay is good, the work is good. That thinking, combined with the lure of easy money, has led some people to engage in dishonest business practices and even to take on employment that is illegal. 

Others, fed with the 'follow your dream' and do what you love' philosophies, will accept only work that is constantly stimulating.  If their job is not their "calling" in life or if it gives them anything less than an adrenaline rush, they consider it boring. As a result, they have a negative view of their work and exert only enough initiative to get by.  They may even turn down good job opportunities because they feel that the work involved is beneath their dignity. 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS   The Bible does not approve of work that is dishonest or that contributes to harming people in any way.  (Leviticus 19:11,13; Romans 13:10)  Good work benefits others and helps the worker "maintain a good conscience." -1 Peter 3:16.

The Bible also teaches that work serves a noble purpose-not primarily to give self-fulfillment but to make a living and support one's family . While it is certainly  not wrong to enjoy our secular work, it should be a means to an end-not an end in itself.

True, inflation and rising prices can make us anxious about how we will make ends meet, but the Bible emphasizes moderation.  It states:  "Having food and clothing, we will be content with these things." (1 Timothy 6:8)  Those words  do not require that we become ascetics. But we should be realistic about what we can afford and be reasonable about the number of possessions we acquire. -Luke 12:15. 

WHAT IT MEANS FOR YOU  Be industrious at your work. Take a real interest in it. Even if what you so seem menial or is not the type of work you feel you were born for, endeavor to become skillful at it. Industrious work leads to  a sense of accomplishment, and developing you skill might actually increase your  job satisfaction. 

At the same time, be balanced. Enjoy occasional rest and relaxation. These periods are even more enjoyable  after we have worked diligently. Also, by earning our necessities, we build a sense of self-worth and win the respect of others-including our family. -2 Thessalonians 3:12. 

Next time: DO YOU NEED MORE TIME? 

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/WORK

What is the proper view of work?

WHAT SOME PEOPLE SAY  To survive in a competitive job market, you have top put your work ahead of everything else.  That attitude has caused some to become so consumed with their job that they reject their family and their health. 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS   The Bible promotes a balanced  view of work. It praises industriousness and condemns laziness.  (Proverbs 6:5-11; 13:4) At the same time, the Bible does not endorse being a workaholic. Rather, it encourages us to enjoy reasonable  periods of relaxation. Ecclesiastes 4:6 says:  "Better is a handful of rest than two handfuls of hard work that we neglect our family or our health.  There is no merit in working ourselves to death! 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/WORK - Does it matter what kind of work you do?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015 

HELP FOR THE FAMILY/YOUNG PEOPLE

Continue with;  When a Courtship Ends

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Acknowledge the pain.  "I lost more than just a good friend;  I lost my best friend," confides Elaine, quoted at the outset. When you break up with someone who was that close, a period of grieving is normal.  "A relationship has ended," says a young man named Adam, "and there's always some pain involved in that, even if you know it's for the best." You might feel similar to King David of the Bible.  "All night long I soak my bed with tears," he wrote during a period of anguish.  (Psalm 6:6)  Sometimes the best way out of pain is through it, not around it. Acknowledging the reality of your own feelings can be the first step in healing. -Bible principle: Psalm 4:4. 

Associate with people who care about you. Admittedly, that may not be easy.  "At first, I didn't even want to see people," admits Anna, quoted earlier.  "I needed time to recover, to go over everything in my head and make sense o it all."  In time, though, Anna saw the wisdom of spending time with close friends  who could build her up.  "I have a better frame of mind now," she says,  'and the breakup isn't as devastating to me as it was before." -Bible principle: Proverbs 17:17. 

Learn from what happened. Ask yourself:  'Has this experience revealed an areas in which I need to grow?  What, if anything, would I do differently in my next relationship?" says a young woman named Marcia. However, I had to to wait until  I could look at things rationally rather than emotionally." Adam mentioned earlier, feels similarly.  He says:  "It took a year for me to get over the breakup.  It took even longer for me turn the experience into something constructive. What I went through taught me a lot about myself, the opposite sex, and relationships. I feel much less pain now about the breakup."

Pray about your anxiety.  The Bible says that God "heals the brokenhearted; he binds up their wounds." (Psalm 147:3)  While he is not a celestial matchmaker-nor can he be blamed when a courtship ends-God has an interest in your well-being. Pour out your feelings to him in prayer. -Bible principle:  1 Peter 5:7.

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/WORK -What is the proper view of work?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

HELP FOR THE FAMILY/YOUNG PEOPLE

When a Courtship Ends

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW  A breakup can be painful, even for the person who initiated it.  "I felt terrible!" says a young woman named Sarah, who broke up with her boyfriend after six months.  "One minute this person was in my life and in my future; the next minute he was gone.  Then I'd hear songs that were special to the two of us, and that would remind me of the good times we had. I'd be at places that were special to us, and I'd feel the pain of his absence. I felt all of this even  though I was the one who initiated the breakup!" 

A breakup though painful, can be a good thing.  "You don't want to hurt the person," says Elaine. "On the other hand, you realize that eventually It would hurt both of you if you were to pursue a courtship that just isn't working." Sarah would agree.  "I think if you aren't happy with someone when you're dating him, you probably won't be happy married to him, so breaking up is for the best," she says."

A breakup does not make you a failure.  Really, a successful courtship ends in a decision, not always in marriage.  If either of you or your partner has serious misgivings, the right decision may well be to break up. If that happens, the fact that the relationship  has failed does not mean that you have failed. You can move on! How? 

Next time: Continue with HELP FOR THE FAMILY/YOUNG PEOPLE - When a Courtship Ends

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Can You Control Your Life?

THERE is a saying, Life is not a matter of holing good cards but of playing a poor hand well. Today, no one has been dealt a perfect set of circumstances. Often the secret  to gaining control is learning both to accept  those circumstances and to work within the limitations that they impose. If you can reclaim some control of your life despite unfortunate circumstances, that is good. If your circumstances eventually improve, that is better. But the best is yet to come. 

The Bible promises a time when all people will be able to have a satisfying measure of control over their life.  They will be able to live to their full potential, uninhibited  by frustrating circumstances, daily pressures, and negative feelings.  (Isaiah 65:21, 22) The Bible refers to this as "the real life." -1 Timothy 6:19. 

Can you be part of that future? Can you be confident that it will come? For more information, visit our website at www.jw.org.

Next time: HELP FOR THE FAMILY/YOUNG PEOPLE -When a Courtship Ends

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Are You in Control of Your Life?

THE CHALLENGE

Negative Feelings

SO STRONG feelings=- perhaps sadness, anger, or resentment-consume you?  If so, you may have this time or energy to pursue what is truly important to you. What can you do about it?

BIBLE EXAMPLE: DAVID

King David was subject to a wide range of emotions-including anxiety and sorrow. What helped him to keep functioning?  David left matters in God's hands.  (1 Samuel 24:12, 15) He also wrote his feelings down. And as a man of faith, he prayed frequently.

WHAT GREGORY DOES 

As mentioned in the opening article, Gregory suffers from an anxiety disorder.  "My excessive worrying was out of proportion and out of control," he says. How did Gregory regain control?  "To get perspective," he says, "I accepted the kind help of my wife and friends. I also sought  professional assistance and learned more about my condition. After making some lifestyle changes. I  began to feel that I was in control of my condition, not that it was in control of me. Although I still experience bouts of anxiety, I now have a better sense of what triggers them, and I know how to manage my disorder." 

WHAT YOU CAN DO

If negative feelings control your life, try the following:  

* Write down your feelings in a journal. 

* Express your feelings to a close relative or friend.

* Challenge your feelings.  For example, ask yourself, 'Is there really evidence to support such a negative view of myself?' 

* Do not hole  on to anxiety, anger, or resentment. Redirect your energies to something more productive.

Bottom line: Often, negative feelings are not the result of our circumstances but of how we view them.  

Next time: Can You Control Your Life?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Are You in Control of Your Life?

THE CHALLENGE

Overwhelming Demands

THE children need your attention-now, so does your employer. Your spouse is calling. All this while you are trying to care for you ailing parent.  This is not the life you planned, but it consumes you every day.  "What can I do?" you ask,  "People need me!" Responding to their every demand may not be in your best interests-or theirs. How can you regain control?

BIBLE EXAMPLE: MOSES

By acting as sole judge of Israel in Bible times, Moses may have felt he as simply doing what was needed. But his father-in-law told him: "What you are doing is not good.  You will surely wear out."  He suggested that Moses delegate much of the judging to capable men who would, in turn, bring only the hardest cases to Moses. The result?  Moses' father-in-law assured him:  "You will be able to stand the strain, and everyone will go home satisfied." -Exodus 18:17-23. 

WHAT DELINA DOES

As mentioned in the opening article, Delina suffers with dystonia, a neuromuscular disorder. She also cares for three disabled siblings.  "I've found that taking one day at at time and avoiding procrastination reduces stress," she says.  "Being open about my situation has resulted in my receiving assistance from others, including my husband. Also, i take a little time each morning  for gardening-something that brings me a lot of satisfaction." 

WHAT CAN YOU DO 

If overwhelming demands control your life, try the following:  

* See if you can enlist the aid of others.  For example, do you have children living at home you can help?  Are there family members or friends living nearby who could give you assistance? 

* Make your needs known. For example, talk to your employer if his demands are unreasonable.  That does not mean you have to give him an ultimatum. Simply make him aware  of what you are up against .  He may be willing to adjust your load? 

* Keep track of the number of demands you face in a week. Can any of them be delegated to others?

* Be selective about accepting social invitations. If you canot attend because of a  lack of time or energy, kindly say no.  

Bottom line: If you try  to  do everything you may render yourself unable to do anything. 

Next time. Are You in Control of Your Life? -THE CHALLENGE

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Are You in Control of Your Life?

THE CHALLENGE

Unchangeable Circumstances

HAS your life been taken over by a chronic illness? A divorce? The loss of a loved one? When confronted with unchangeable circumstances you may feel unable to do anything but wish your situation would change. How can you regain control of your life?

BIBLE EXAMPLE: PAUL

The apostle Paul traveled as a zealous first-century missionary.  But his travels  came to a halt when he was unjustly arrested and then confined to a house under a soldier guard for two years. Rather than succumb to despair, Paul focused  on what he could do. He gave spiritual help and comfort  to all who came to visit him. He even wrote several of the letters that are now part of the Bible. -Acts 28:30, 31. 

WHAT ANJA DOES

As mentioned in the preceding article, Anja is housebound.  "Cancer has influenced every aspect of my life," she says.  "I  can't afford to risk infection right now, so my secular work and social life are all but nonexistent."  How does Anja cope with her unchangeable circumstances?  "Creating a new routine was the key for me," she says. "I prioritize what was most important to me and made a schedule  with my limited abilities in mind. This has given me a sense of control.

WHAT YOU CAN DO

If unchangeable circumstances seem to be controlling your life, try the following:  

* Focus on what you can control.  For example, you may not have full control  over your health, but can you exercise, eat healthful food, and get sufficient rest? 

* Clarify what you would like to accomplish in life.  Break it down into small steps.  Try to spend at least a little time each day working toward your goals.  

* Do tasks, even small ones, that give you a sense of control. Clean the kitchen table, and wash the dishes. Dress neatly. Do the most important tasks first thing in the morning. 

* Look at the possible benefits of your circumstances. For example, does you situation give you greater insight into ways of coping with difficulties"  Can you use this insight to help others? 

Bottom line:  You may not be able to control your circumstances, but you may be able to control your response to them. 

Next time: Are You in Control of Your Life? - THE CHALLENGE

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Are You in Control of Your Life?

When you were younger, what were your life goals? Perhaps you wanted to marry, perfect a certain skill, or pursue an exciting career.  But life does not always turn out the way we plan. Unexpected challenges can throw life completely off course. That is what happened to Anja, Delina, and Gregory. 

Anja, in Germany, was diagnosed with cancer at age 21, and she is now almost completely housebound. 

Delina, in the United States, suffers from  a neuromuscular disorder  called dystonia. In addition, she cares for three disabled siblings.  

Gregory, in Canada, copes with a crippling anxiety disorder. 

Despite their circumstances, Anja, Delina, and Gregory have been able to take control of their lives. How?

A Bible proverb states:  "If you become discouraged in times of trouble, your strength will be meager." (Proverbs 24:10) The implication is clear:  Attitude makes a difference.  People who succumb to negativity relinquish the little control they still have, while those with a positive mind-set often summon the strength to put themselves back in the driver's seat.

Consider how that proved true for Anja, Delina, and Gregory. 

Next time: Are You in Control of Your Life? -The Challenge

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/POVERTY

Will there ever be an end to poverty?

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS.  While human relief efforts have been unsuccessful in bringing the problem of poverty under control, in due time, God will give attention to the root of the problem-the tendency of selfish people and governments to look after  merely their own interests.  (Ecclesiastes 8:9) Our Creator will replace human governments that are driven by self-interest.  His Kingdom, or heavenly government, will provide generously for all of earth's residents, without discrimination.  The Bible  explicitly promises that the King of God's Kingdom will compassionately address the needs of the poor.  "He will rescue the poor who cry for help . . .He will have pity on the lowly and the poor, and the lives of the poor he will save." -Psalm 72:12-14.

The earth will be a true paradise with housing and food for all, without a trace of poverty. In the Bible book of Isaiah, God promises that his people "will build houses and live in them, and they will plant vineyards and eat their fruitage. . . .the work of their hands my chosen ones will enjoy to the full." (Isaiah 65:21, 22)  Instead of struggling to eke out a meager existence, all will enjoy "a banquet of rich dishes" and other good things provided by Jehovah. -Isaiah 25:6.

WHY DOES IT MATTER? Reflecting on God's promise of a poverty-free world reassures those living under oppressive conditions that God cares about them and that the end of their struggles is in sight. Focusing on such a hope can give a person strength to endure difficult conditions now. 

Next time: Are You in Control of Your Life?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/POVERTY

How can the poor be happy?

WHAT PEOPLE SAY. Many people believe that happiness and fulfillment are achieved through material prosperity and that real success depends largely on how much money a person has. With little or no access to basic education, quality health care, and other benefits, those trapped in poverty are not expected to have a happy and satisfying life. 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS.  The Bible teaches that real happiness depends, not on one's economic situation, but on one's spiritual well-being and relationship with the Creator.  The Bible says: "Happy are those  conscious of their spiritual need." (Matthew 5:3)  Regardless of their financial status, those who are aware  of their spiritual need are move to seek God's thinking on matters and can thus learn Bible truths that bring real comfort and peace of mind. That is what brings true happiness. 

Those who understand and follow the Bible's counsel are better equipped to deal with poverty. For example, Bible counsel steers people away from harmful habits, such as the use of tobacco and the abuse of alcohol. Practices like these waste money and potentially result in  the need for expensive medical treatment. -Proverbs 20:1; 2 Corinthians  7:1.

The Bible also cautions against the damaging effects of greed and materialism.  (Mark 4:19;  Ephesians 5:3) Such counsel can help a person avoid wasting money on gambling or developing a "love of money," which the Bible describes as "a root of all sorts of injurious things."  (1 Timothy 6:10) The Scriptures warn:  "Even when a person has an abundance, his life does not result from the things he possesses." (Luke 12:15)  Simply put, no amount of money can buy life itself. On the other hand, acting in harmony with the Bible's  wise counsel makes life meaningful and results in genuine happiness. 

While those living in poverty may have to struggle to get food, clothing, and shelter, they can find considerable happiness by cultivating contentment, focusing their lives on pleasing their Creator, and living in harmony with his will.  They recognize the truth of the Bible's promise that "it is the blessing of Jehovah that makes one rich and He adds no pain with it." -Proverbs 10:22. 

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/POVERTY -Will there ever be an end to poverty?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Focus on your spouse. Try to think of a time when someone apologized to you and how good that made you feel. Why not make your spouse feel the same way?

Even if you do not believe you were wrong, you can apologize for the hurt your spouse feels for the unintended consequences of your actions. Such words can help  your spouse to heal! -Bible principle: Luke 6:31.

Focus on your marriage. View an apology, not as a defeat for you, but as a victory for your marriage. After all, a person who remains offended is "more unyielding than a fortified city," says Proverbs 18:19. It is difficult, if not impossible, to restore peace in such a defensive atmosphere. On the other hand, when you apologize you prevent the offense from becoming a barrier.  In essence, you put your marriage ahead of yourself. -Bible principle: Philippians 2:3. 

Be quick to apologize.  True, apologizing may be difficult if you are not fully to blame.  But your spouse's faults do not excuse bad behavior on your part. So do not hesitate to apologize thinking that the passing of time will cover over the offense.  Your apologizing can make it easier for your spouse to apologize too.  And the more you practice apologizing, the easier it will become for you.  -Bible principle: Matthew 5:25. 

Prove that you mean it.  Rationalizing your behavior is not the same as apologizing for it.  And saying, perhaps with a tinge of sarcasm , "I'm sorry that you're so sensitive about this" is not an apology at all!  Accept responsibility for your actions and acknowledge the hurt your spouse feels, whether you believe  that the hurt is warranted or not. 

Face facts.  Humbly accept that you will make mistakes. After all, everyone does! Even if you think your are blameless in a situation, recognized that your version  of what happened is probably not the whole story.  "The first  to state his case seems right," says the Bible, until the other party comes and cross-examines him." (Proverbs 18:17) You will be more apt to apologize if you have a  realistic view of yourself and your shortcomings.    Remember, no one is perfect.

Next time: THE BIBLE'S VIEWPOINT/POVERTY

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE

How to Apologize

THE CHALLENGE 
You and your spouse have just had an argument. 'I don't need to apologize,' you tell yourself. 'I'm not the one who started it!'

You drop the issue, but the tension lingers. You reconsider apologizing, but you cannot bring yourself to say those simple words "I'm sorry."

WHY IT HAPPENS 

Pride. "Sometimes, it's hard to say 'I'm sorry' because my  ego gets in the way," admits a husband named Charles. Inordinate pride can make you  too embarrassed to acknowledge your share of the blame. 

Viewpoint.  You might feel that an apology is in order only if you are responsible  for the problem. A wife name Jill say:  "When I know I'm a hundred percent at fault, It's easy to say 'I'm sorry.' But when we both said things we regret, it's difficult. I mean, why should I apologize if both of us messed up?" 

You might feel even more justified if you feel that what happened  was entirely your spouse's fault.  "When you genuinely believe that you haven't done anything wrong," says a husband named Joseph, "withholding an apology becomes a way of declaring your innocence." 

Upbringing. Perhaps you were raised in a household where apologies were seldom uttered. If so, you may not have learned to own up to your mistakes. Having had little practice as a child, offering sincere apologies as an adult has never become your habit. 

Next time: HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE - WHAT YOU CAN DO

From the AWAKE!  magazine, 2015

A Balanced View of Money

HOW DO YOU VIEW MONEY?

A self-examination might alert you to the need to acquire a balanced view of money.  For example, ask yourself the following questions. 

* Am I attracted to get-rich-quick schemes? 

* Do I find it difficult to be generous with my money? 

* Do I tend to make friends with people who constantly talk about money and  
   the things they own?

* Do i resort to lying or to other unethical practices in order to make money?

* Does money make me feel important? 

*Am I always thinking about money?

* Is my attitude toward money adversely affecting my health and my family life?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, make an effort to reject materialistic thoughts and temptations. Avoid friendships with people who attach too  much importance to  money and possessions. Instead, seek association with people who place a greater value on high moral principles than on possessions. 

Never allow the love of money to take root in your heart. Rather, keep money in its place-always subordinate to friends, family, and your emotional and physical health.  By doing so, you will show that you have a balanced view of  money.  

Next time: HELP FOR THE FAMILY/MARRIAGE -How to Apologize

From the AWAKE!  magazine, 2015 

Continue with A Balanced View of Money

THE BIBLE SAYS:  "let your way of life be free of the love of money, while you are content with the present things." -Hebrews 13:5.

A person who is content is not immune to financial anxiety; however, he knows how to put his anxiety in perspective.  For example, a content person will not overreact to financial loss. Rather, he will strive to have the attitude  of the apostle Paul, who wrote:  "I know how to be low on provisions and how to have an abundance. In everything and in all circumstances I have learned the secret of both how to be full and how to hunger, bot how to have an abundance and how to do without." -Philippians 4:12.

 THE BIBLE SAYS:  "The one trusting in his riches will fail." -Proverbs 11:28. 

Researchers cite  money problems as a common factor in marital strife resulting in divorce. Money problems have also been a factor in suicide.  For some people, money is more important than their marriage vows or even their life!  In contrast, those who have a balanced view do not put their trust in money. Instead, they recognized the wisdom of Jesus' words;  "Even when a person has an abundance, his life does not result from the things he possesses." -Luke 12:15. 

FAMILY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MONEY

"My father recently made a decision about his will that substantially reduced the amount  I would inherit, while increasing the amount that would go to my siblings. But we talked about it. I understand his reasoning completely, and I agree with his decision. I will never allow anything as trivial as money to cause a division in my family." -Josue, 55.

MONEY AND FAVORITISM 

"The poor man is hated even by his neighbors, but many are the friends of the rich person." -Proverbs 14:20.

As that verse from the Bible indicates, our view of money can affect how we treat people. For example, we might tend to despise those who have little means and who can do nothing for us. On the other hand, we might fawn over those who are rich, ingratiating ourselves with them in an effort to gain their -favor and perhaps some type of monetary reward. 

The Bible expresses disapproval of people who show favoritism, whether by despising the lowly or by "flattering others for their own benefit." (Jude 16; Isaiah 10:1, 2) Make it your goal to view and treat people equally.

Next time: Continue with A Balanced View of Money -HOW DO YOU VIEW MONEY?

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

A Balanced View of Money

MONEY AND PREJUDICE 

A distorted view of money can cause people to become judgmental. For example, a wealthy person might assume that those who are poor are too lazy  to better themselves. Or a person with lesser means might hastily conclude that those who have more are materialistic or greedy.  Leanne, a teenager in a relatively wealthy family, was a victim of that type of prejudice, she relates: 

"I used to be known as the girl whose father makes loads of money. So I often got comments such as:  "If you want something, all you have to do is ask Daddy' or 'Sorry we aren't all rich and can afford nice cars like your family.'  I finally asked my friends to stop saying those things, and I explained to them why their words hurt me.  I wanted to be known, not as a person has money, but as someone who does kind things for others." 

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS

The Bible neither condemns money nor criticizes those who have it-even a lot of it.  The point is not the amount a person has but the attitude toward what he has or wants to acquire.  The Bible's counsel regarding money is balanced, and it is as relevant today as when it was written. Note the following examples. 

THE BIBLE SAYS: "Do not wear yourself out  to gain wealth." -Proverbs  23:4. 

According to the book the Narcissism Epidemic, people who pursue wealth are more apt  to "suffer from poor mental health; they also report more physical health problems such as sore throats, backaches and were more likely to drink too much alcohol and use illegal drugs. Striving for financial success, apparently, makes people miserable." 

Next time: Continue with A Balanced View of Money - More examples

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

A Balanced View of Money

THERE is a saying,  "Money makes the world go around."  There is some truth to that statement. After all, it takes money to buy food, obtain clothing, and pay for rent or buy a home. "The role of money in society  is incredibly important," writes one financial editor."  If money was removed as a means of exchange, we would be in a state of panic and war within a month." 

Of course, money  has its limitations. Norwegian poet Arne Garborg said that  with money "you can buy food, but not appetite; medicine, but not health; soft beds,, but not sleep; a knowledge, but not wisdom; glitter, but not beauty; splendor, but not warmth; fun, but not joy; acquaintances, but not friends; servants, but not faithfulness."  

When a person maintains a balanced view of money-regarding it as a means to an end rather than an end in itself-it is possible to enjoy a greater measure of contentment. The Bible warns that "the love of money is a root of all sorts of injurious things, and by reaching out for this love some have . . .stabbed themselves all over with many pains." -1 Timothy 6:10.

Note that it is the love of money-not money itself-that brings harm. Indeed, an inordinate focus on money can drive a wedge between friends and between family members. Consider some examples. 

Daniel:"  "I always thought of my friend Thomas as a pleasant and honest person. I never had any problem with him until he bought my used car.  Still, he agreed in writing to buy the car as is.  Three months later the car broke down. Thomas felt cheated and angrily insisted that I return his money. I was shocked! When I tried to reason with him, he became belligerent and hostile. When money became a issue, he was no longer the amiable Thomas I knew." 

Esin:  "Nesrim is my only sibling. We always got along, so I never thought that our relationship could be damaged over money. But that's exactly what happened. When my parents died, they left us a small inheritance and stipulated that the money was to be divided equally between us.  My sister went against my parents' wishes and demanded more than her share.  Because I chose to honor my parents' instructions, she exploded with anger and threats. To this day, she remains bitter resentful of me." 

Next time: A Balanced View of Money -MONEY AND PREJUDICE

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

Why do we preach?

Perhaps nothing distinguishes us as much as our extensive preaching work-from house to house, in public places, and wherever people are found. Why do we do it?

Jehovah's Witnesses preach to glorify God and to make known his name.  (Hebrews 13:15) We also want to obey Christ Jesus, who commanded:  "Go out and make disciples of people of all the nations, .  . .teaching them to observe all things I have commanded you." -Matthew 8:19, 20. 

Moreover, we love our neighbor.  (Matthew 22:39) Of course, we realize that most people have their own religious beliefs and that not everyone is interested in our message. Still, we feel that Bible teachings are lifesaving.  That is why we continue  "without letup teaching and declaring the good news about the Christ," as did the first-century Christians. -Acts 5:41, 42.

Most readers of our literature are not Jehovah's Witnesses. And millions who study the Bible with us belong to other religions.  Yet they are grateful that Jehovah's Witnesses call on them. 

Of course, you may have other questions about Jehovah's Witnesses. We invite you to learn the answers by

* Asking one of Jehovah's Witnesses.

* Visiting our website, www.jw.org.

*  Attending our meetings, which are free and open to all.

Next time: A Balanced View of Money

From the AWAKE! magazine, 2015

How is our ministry financed?

Each  year, we print and distribute hundreds of millions of Bibles and pieces of Bible literature. We build and operate  branch offices and printeries around the world. Tens of thousands of congregations meet in modest yet attractive places of worship called Kingdom Halls.  Who pays for all this?

Our work  is supported entirely by voluntary donations.  (2 Corinthians j9:7) In 1879, the second issue of this magazine stated:  " 'Zion's Watchtower' [as this magazine was then called} has, we believe JEHOVAH for its backer, and while this is the case it will never beg or petition man for support.  "We have not wavered from that policy.

Donations are sent directly to one of our branch offices or placed in a contribution box that is located in each Kingdom Hall.  But we never tithe, take up collections, or charge a fee for our services or publications.  We are not paid to preach, to teach int he congregation, or to help build places of worship.  After all, Jesus said:  "You receive free, give free." (Matthew  10:8) All ministers at our branch offices and at our world headquarters, including those making up the Governing Body of Jehovah's Witnesses, are un-salaried members of a religious order. 

Donated funds are also used for disaster relief. The early Christians were pleased to share in relief measures for victims of adversity. (Romans 15:6) We likewise assist the afflicted by providing food, clothing, and medical treatment.  
Next time: Why do we preach?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

What do Jehovah's Witnesses believe?

Jehovah's Witnesses believe that "all Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial." (2 Timothy 3:16) We use the Bible as a practical guide to learn about the Creator and to live meaningful lives.

The Bible says:  "Many people know that you, whose name is Jehovah, you alone are the Most High over all the earth." (Psalm 83:18) Therefore, we worship only Jehovah God, and as his Witnesses, we endeavor to make known his personal name. -Isaiah 43:10-12. 

As Christians, we believe that Jesus,  "the Son of God," came to earth and became the Messiah.  (John 1:34, 41; 4:25, 26) After he died, Jesus was raised  to heaven.  ( 1 Corinthians 15:3, 4) Later he became King of God's Kingdom.  (Revelation 11:15)  That Kingdom is a real government that will restore Paradise to the earth.  (Daniel 2:44) "The meek will possess the earth, and they will find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace," says the Bible. -Psalm 37:11, 29.  

Jehovah's Witnesses believe that Bible principles can benefit people even today. (Isaiah 48:17, 18) Therefore,we adhere closely to those principles.  For example,  because the Bible warns us to avoid practices  that pollute our minds and bodies, we do not smoke or misuse drugs ( 2 Corinthians 7:1)  We also avoid practices  specifically condemned in the Bible, such as drunkenness, sexual immorality, and stealing. - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.

Note: There are many more practices that we avoid  specifically condemned in the Bible, these are but a very few. 

Next time: How is our ministry financed? 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

What sort of people are Jehovah's Witnesses?

"[Jehovah's Witnesses] have tremendous moral strength. We could use such unselfish people even  in the highest political functions-but we are  never going to get them there. . . .They recognize governmental authorities but believe that only God's Kingdom is capable of solving all human problems." -Nova Svoboda newspaper, Czech Republic. 

We are an international organization unaffiliated with other religious groups. Although our world headquarters are in the United States, the vast majority  of Jehovah's Witnesses live in other countries. In fact, some eight million of us teach people the Bible in over 230 lands. We so so in response to Jesus' words: "This good news of the Kingdom will be preached in all the inhabited earth for a witness to all the nations." -Matthew 24:14. 

Regardless of where we live, we conscientiously obey the law.Yet we endeavor to remain politically neutral. This is because we observe Jesus' direction for Christians to be "no part of the world." Thus we do not take part in political issues and activities or support warfare.  (John 15:19; 17:16)  In fact, during World War II, Jehovah's Witnesses were imprisoned, tortured, and even worse because they would not compromise their neutrality.  A former German bishop wrote:  "They can rightfully claim to be the only major conscientious objectors in the Third Reich." 

Still, we do not isolate ourselves.  Jesus prayed to God regarding his followers:  "I do not request that you take them out of the world." (John 17:15) Therefore, you may see us as we work, shop, and got to school in the local community.  

LANDS WITH THE MOST WITNESSES; 

United States          1,190,000
Mexico                           800,000
Brazil                              770,000
Nigeria                            330,000
Italy                                  250,000
Japan                                220,000

Next time: What do Jehovah's Witnesses believe?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015 

Who are Jehovah's Witnesses?

"I had known Mike for years. He is one of Jehovah's Witnesses. But his religion always baffled me. Who is Jehovah? Why don't Witnesses celebrate holidays? Was Mike mixed up in a cult?" -Becky, California U.S.A. 

"When my neighbors started to study the Bible with "Jehovah's Witnesses. I wondered:  'What does that name, Jehovah's Witnesses mean? What a strange name for a religion." -Zenon, Ontario Canada.

"My wife and I thought that Jehovah's Witnesses called to pray on our guilt feelings because we weren't at church. And we figured that if the mainline churches didn't have what we were looking for, a weird sect like Jehovah's Witnesses  couldn't have it either." -Kent, Washington, U.S.A.

I honestly don't know who they were and what they stood for." -Cecilie, Esbjerg, Denmark.

You have likely seen them preaching from door to door or in a public place, distributing Bible-based literature and offering free Bible studies. You may have received this magazine from one of them.  Still, you may wonder who Jehovah's Witnesses really are.  Perhaps you thoughts are similar to one of those quoted above.

If you have such questions and concerns, where might you go for answers? How can you learn what Jehovah's Witnesses really believe, how their ministry and places of worship are financed, and why they call at your home and approach you in public places? 

"I read a lot about Jehovah's Witnesses on the Internet," says Cecilie, quoted earlier.  "I heard some rumors, and I listened to a great deal of prejudiced talk. As a result, I formed a very negative view of Jehovah's Witnesses."  Later, however, she spoke to Jehovah's Witnesses directly and found satisfying answers to her questions.

Would you like to receive truthful answers to your questions about Jehovah's Witnesses? We encourage you to turn to the most knowledgeable source-Jehovah's Witnesses themselves, who publish this magazine.  (Proverbs 14:15) We hope that the following articles will help you to see who we are and what we believe  as well as to understand the work we do. 

Next time:What sort of people are Jehovah's Witnesses?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH

"MOST BLESSED OF WOMEN"

One of the Canaanite enemies escaped-the worst of them all! Sisera, the great oppressor of God's people, fled the battlefield on foot. Leaving his men t o die in the mire, he slipped past  the Israelite soldiers and made his way to firmer ground, heading toward the nearest allies he could think of. Scurrying across miles of open terrain, ever terrified that Israelite soldiers might might find him, he headed to the tents of Heber, a Kenite who had broken away from the rest of the nomadic people to the south and established some kind of accord with King Jabin.-Judges 4:11, 17. 

Exhausted, Sisera arrived at Heber's encampment. He found that Heber was not at home.  But the man's wife, Jael, was there. Sisera evidently assumed that Jael would honor her husband's accord with King Jabin. Perhaps it was  inconceivable to him that a woman could act or even think differently from her husband.  Sisera obviously did not know Jael!  Clearly, she saw that she had a choice before her. Either she could aid this wicked man or she could throw in her lot with Jehovah and strike a blow against this enemy of her people.  But what could she do?  How could a woman vanquish such a powerful battle-hardened warrior?

Jael had to think fast.  She offered Sisera a place to rest. He ordered her to conceal his presence from any man who might come looking for him.  She covered him when he lay down, and when he asked her for water, she gave him creamy milk. Soon Sisera went into a deep sleep. Jael then took a pair of household implements that tent-dwelling women used often and skillfully=a ten pin and a mallet.  Crouching near Sisera's head, she now faced the terrifying task of acting as an executioner for Jehovah. Even an instant of uncertainty or hesitation could have meant disaster.  Did she think of God's people and of how this man had brutalized them for decades?  Or did she think of the privilege of taking her stand for Jehovah?  The record does not say.  We know only that the deed was soon done. Sisera was dead! -Judges 4:18-21; 5:4-27. 

Later, Barak came in search of his quarry. When Jael showed  him the corpse with the ten pin through the temples, he knew that Deborah's prophecy had come true!  A woman had killed the mighty warrior Sisera! Modern-day critics and skeptics have called Jael all manner of vile names, but Barak and Deborah knew better. In their song, they were inspired to praise Jael as "most blessed of women" for her courageous deed.  (Judges 4:22; 5:24) Note the generosity of Deborah's spirit.  She did not begrudge Jael such praise; rather, she cared only that Jehovah's word  had come true. 

With Sisera gone, King Jabin's power was broken. The Canaanite oppression was over at last. Peace prevailed for 40 years.  (Judges 4:24; 5:31)  How blessed were Deborah, Barak, and Jael for putting faith in Jehovah God! If we imitate  the faith of Deborah, boldly taking our stand for Jehovah and encouraging others to do the same, Jehovah will bless us with victories-and lasting peace. 

Next time: Who are Jehovah's Witnesses?

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015 

IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH

"THE EARTH SHOOK, AND THE HEAVENS POURED"

Barak went to muster his army. He gathered 10,000 men who were brave enough to go up against Sisera's daunting forces. As Barak led his men up to Mount Tabor, he was glad to have a way to boost their courage. We read:  "Deborah also went up with him." (Judges 4:10) Imagine how it lifted the spirits of those soldiers to see that brave woman to join them in their march toward Mount Tabor, willing to risk her life at their side because of her faith in Jehovah God!

When Sisera learned that Israel had dared to muster an army against him, he acted quickly. A number of Canaanite kings joined forces with King Jabin, who may have been the most powerful among them.  Then Sisera's great squadrons of chariots made the earth shake as they rumbled  in formation across the plain.  The Canaanites were sure that they would make quick work of the pathetic army of Israel. -Judges 4:12, 13; 5:19. 

What would Barak and Deborah do as the enemy approached?  If they remained on the slopes of Mount Tabor, they might have an advantage over the advancing Canaanite forces, for those chariots needed flat open country to fight effectively.  But Barak was going to fight as Jehovah directed, so he waited for word from Deborah. At last, the moment came.  She said: "Rise up, for this is the day that Jehovah will give Sisera into your hand. Is  Jehovah not going out before you?" Next, we read: "Barak descended from Mount Tabor with 10,000 men following him." -Judges 4:14. 

The forces of Israel charged down the mountain  and out into the open, flat ground, heading right toward those fearsome machines of war.   Did Jehovah go out before them, as Deborah had promised?  The answer came very soon.   "The earth shook, and the heavens poured," we read.  Sisera's proud forces were thrown into confusion. And down came the rain!  It came in such torrents, it seems, that the ground was quickly swamped. Soon, the heavy iron-bearing chariots were more of a liability than an asset.  They sank into the mud and became hopeless bogged down. -Judges 4:14, 15; 5:4.

Barak and his men were not troubled  by the storm.  They knew it was coming from.  They ran right at the Canaanite forces. Acting as God's executioners, the Israelites left none of Sisera's army alive. The Kishon River surged and flooded, washing the corpse downstream toward the Great Sea. -Judges 4:16; 5:4. 

Today, Jehovah no longer sends his servants into physical battles. Yet, he does ask his people to engage in spiritual warfare.  (Matthew 26:5; 2 Corinthians 10:4) If we try to obey God in today's world, we are taking our stand  in that war. We need courage, for those who side with God today may face fierce opposition.  But Jehovah has not changed. He still comes to the defense of those who, like Deborah, Barak, and the brave soldiers of ancient Israel, put their faith in Him. 

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH -"MOST BLESSED OF WOMEN" 

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH

Conclusion of "GO AND MARCH TO MOUNT TABOR"

"Go and march to Mount Tabor," Jehovah ordered through Deborah. Barak was to muster 10,000 men from two of Israel's tribes. Deborah conveyed God's promise that they would defeat the mighty Sisera and his 900 chariots! The promise surely astounded Barak. Israel had no army and virtually  no weaponry. Still, Barak agreed to go into battle-but only if Deborah cam to Mount Tabor too. -Judges 4:6-8; 5:6-8. 

Barak has been called faithless because of this request, but unfairly so. After all, he did not ask God for more weapons. Rather, as a man of faith, Barak saw the value in having Jehovah's representative there to strengthen him and his men.  (Hebrews 11:32, 33) Jehovah responded favorably.  He allowed Deborah to go, as Barak had requested.  However, Jehovah also inspired her to prophesy that the battle's final glory would not go to a man.  (Judges 4:9)  God had decided that a woman would execute wicked Sisera!

In today's world, a great deal of injustice, violence, and abuse is heaped upon women.  Rarely are they accorded the dignity that God wants them to receive. However, God grants women and men equal value and standing before him.  (Romans 2:11; Galatians 3:28) Deborah's example reminds us that he also blesses women with privileges and signs of his particular trust and favor. It is vital that we never adopt the bigotry so common in this world.  

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH - "THE EARTH SHOOK, AND THE HEAVENS POURED"

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH

"GO AND MARCH TO MOUNT TABOR

When the Bible first introduces Deborah, it refers to her as "a prophetess." That designation makes Deborah unusual in the Bible record but hardly unique. Deborah had another responsibility. She was also evidently settling disputes by giving Jehovah's answer to problems that came up. -Judges 4:3, 5. 

Deborah lived in the mountainous region of Ephraim, between the towns of Bethel and Ramah.  There she would sit beneath a palm tree and serve the people as Jehovah directed.  Her assignment was surely challenging, but Deborah did not allow it to daunt her.  There was a  dire need for her services. In fact, she later took part in composing an inspired song, and it included this comment about her unfaithful people:  "They chose new gods; then there was war in the gates." (Judges 5:8)  Because the Israelites left Jehovah to serve other gods, Jehovah abandoned them to their enemies. Canaanite King Jabin dominated them using a mighty general Sisera. 

Sisera! The very name caused terror and panic in Israel.  The Canaanite religion and culture were brutal, featuring child sacrifice and temple prostitution. What was it like to have a Canaanite general and his army dominating the land? Deborah's son reveals that travel was nearly impossible in the land and village life has all but ended.  (Judges 5:6, 7) We may imagine people cowering in the woods and hills, afraid to farm or to live in un-walled villages and terrified to travel on the open roads lest they be attacked, their children taken, and their women raped.

Terror reigned for 20 years, until Jehovah saw evidence that his stubborn people were ready to change or, as the inspired record of the song of Deborah and Barak says, "Until I, Deborah, rose up, until I arose as a mother in Israel."  We do not know if Deborah, the wife of a man named Lappidoth, was a mother  in a literal sense, but this expression was intended figuratively. In effect, Jehovah assigned Deborah to provide the nation  with motherly protection. He commissioned her to summon a strong man of faith, Judge Barak, and direct him to rise up against Sisera. -Judges 4:3, 6, 7; 5:7. 

Next time: Conclusion of "GO AND MARCH TO MOUNT TABOR"

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

IMITATE THEIR FAITH/ DEBORAH

"I Arose as a Mother in Israel"

DEBORAH looked around at the soldiers who were gathered atop Mount Tabor.  It was touching to see them there. In the morning light, she contemplated their bravery and the faith of their leader, Barak.  Though they were 10,000 strong, their faith and courage would face a great test this day.  They were going up against a vicious foe, and they were outnumbered and poorly armed.  But they had come here anyway-largely because of the encouragement of this one woman.  

Picture Deborah, her garments rustling in the breeze as she and Barak looked out over a sweeping vista. Mount Tabor resembled a great cone with its top blunted. Its flat summit commanded a view  of the Plain of Esdraelon, some 1,300 feet (400 m) below, which fanned out to the southwest.  The Kishon River wound through the flat grassland, leading out to the Great Sea by Mount Carmel.  The riverbed may have been dry that morning, but something else glistened on that broad plain. Sisera's army was drawing nearer, flashing ominously with the glint of iron.  It came from the pride of Sisera's forces-some 900 chariots, which may have been equipped with iron scythes protruding from the axles. Sisera intended to cut down the ill-equipped Israelites as if he were harvesting barley!  

Deborah knew that Barak and his men were waiting from some word, some signal, from her. Was she the only woman there?  What was it like for her to bear so much responsibility in such a setting?  Did she wonder what she was doing there? Evidently not! Jehovah, her God, had told her to start this war; he has also revealed that he would use a woman to bring it to its end.  (Judges 4:9) what can Deborah and these courageous fighters teach us about faith? 

Next time:  IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH -"GO AND MARCH TO MOUNT TABOR"

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015

LIFE STORY/Jehovah Has Given Me More Than I Deserve - AS TOLD BY FELIX ALARCON

BATTLING ON

Whenever anybody greets me and asks how I am, I simply say, "Here I am, still battling on!"  Of course, I know I am not alone in this struggle. Whatever our circumstances or impediments, all Christians are in a fight-"the fine fight of the faith." (1 Timothy 6:12)  What has helped me to battle on for so many years?  I pray each day and thank Jehovah for giving my life a sense of purpose. And I try to stay as busy as possible in serving God, keeping my eyes focused on the hope ahead.

I often think about the new world and what it will be like to run and jump again. At times, I have joked with my good friend Jose' Maria-who suffered from polio-about running a marathon together.  "Who would wind?" I asked him.  "It doesn't matter who wins," he replies. "What really matters is being there, in Paradise, to run the race." 

It has not be easy for me to come to terms with my disability. I know that as a teenager, I did something stupid, and that has cost me dearly.  Yet, how grateful I am that Jehovah did not abandon me.  He has given me so much-a large spiritual family, the will to live, the joy of helping others, and a wonderful hope for the future. If I had to sum up my feelings in just one sentence, I guess I would say that Jehovah has truly given me more than I deserve. 

Next time: IMITATE THEIR FAITH/DEBORAH -"I Arose as a Mother in Israel"

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015  

Conclusion of ON THE MOVE DESPITE MY DISABILITY

My computer also allows me to listen to and participate in congregation meetings. I can comment, offer prayers, present talks, and even read the Watchtower magazine when I am assigned to do so. Although I cannot attend those meetings in person, I still feel that I am very much a part of the local congregation.

Having a telephone and a computer also allows me to have a full share in the preaching work.  True, I cannot go from house to house as most of Jehovah's Witnesses do.  But that has not stopped me.  Using these tools I am able to share my faith with others. In fact, I enjoy my phone conversations so much that the local elders have even asked me to coordinate telephone preaching campaigns.  These campaigns have been particularly helpful to housebound members of the congregation who are unable to leave their homes. 

But my life does not revolve around just technology. Each day, dear friends come to see me. They bring along relatives and acquaintances who are interested in the Bible.  Often, they even ask me to take the lead in discussions with them. On other occasions, families visit and invite me to share in their evening of family worship.  I especially like it when young children sit at my bedside and tell me why they love Jehovah.

I appreciate receiving so many visitors.  My room is always hub of activity, with friends coming to see me from near and far. As you can imagine, this loving attention surprises the caregivers at my center. Each day, I thank Jehovah for allowing me to be part of such a wonderful brotherhood. 

Next time: LIFE STORY/ Jehovah Has Given Me More Than I Deserve-AS TOLD BY FELIX ALARCON - BATTLING ON

From the Watchtower magazine, 2015